It’s a painful experience to be deeply connected with a man, only to find him pulling away and losing interest.
Have you ever been with a man who seemed to really like you, only to begin distancing himself and saying he really wasn’t ready for a commitment?
Why is it that he ends up marrying the next woman he dates? Was he lying when he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment?
The answer comes down to deep emotional attraction.
In all likelihood, he was not lying when he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment. In fact, unlike women, a man’s default mode is that he is not ready for (or even looking for) a commitment.
It takes a special kind of deep emotional attraction for a man to feel compelled to keep a woman in his life with a shared promise of committed intentions for the future.
What creates that intense emotional bond for men?
I can tell you one thing for certain. Men experience relationships for what they are here and now, in the present moment.This is a stereotype, but because there is so much truth in it you would be foolish to ignore its implications for your relationship.
Research with men and women in the early stages of dating relationships has shown that women typically consider themselves to be “in a relationship” by the time the third date rolls around.
In contrast, men do not consider themselves to be “in a relationship” until several months of exclusive dating have occurred.
Even when he’s exclusively dating one woman, a man will be surprised when his counterpart suggests the relationship is exclusive. Why is that?
Again, it comes back to the fact that men tend to spend less time plotting and planning the course of their lives in terms of relationships. Men do not define their lives (as much) by where things seem to be going in a relationship.
For your man to reach a point where he desires a committed relationship, something very significant must occur first.
He must experience an intense emotional attraction that causes him to feel less alive when he is not in your presence.
If you would like to learn a method for triggering this special kind of intense attraction, watch the presentation I’ve prepared for you on What Men Secretly Want below.
Learn the #1 Hidden Reason Men Fall In Love (He’ll Thank You For This)
Need help with a relationship of eight months
I met a guy almost a month ago. He hasn’t dated in over 12 years, focusing on raising his son. Im getting frustrated w friends one size fits all advice like he doesn’t want to label it because he wants to see other people. He doesn’t, and he doesn’t want me too either. The other biggie is him not making plans ahead of time means im not a priority. First hes been solo so long its going to take time for him to adjust not to mention hes more of a day unfolds as it happens type. Hes 52, im 41. Both have sons in their early 20s. Both been single for awhile. We say morning and then catch up on our days in the evenings then say good night. So I feel he prioritizes me as well he can at the moment. Hes living in a fixer upper so he is busy w that on top of work. But we usually hang out at least 2 times a week. Any thoughts or advice?
Can a man seriously come back after loosing interest with the same love and affection? … And why does a man lose interest after doing everything for him?
Hey Riya,
You should check out these reports by James Bauer & Amy Waterman! The first one is called Keep Him Interested and the second one is She Pursues He Withdraws The Solution. I think they will help you with this crossroad you’ve come to and move forward into your future!
Best,
Tracey