When You Feel Unloved, Try This

It’s a sobering thought: There will be times in your relationship when you don’t feel loved. Even if it’s a great relationship. Even if you know you’ll be together for a lifetime. How you handle those periods is critical. If you panic, you might drive cracks into your...

Getting Back Together After a Rough Patch

Carol and her guy had been going through a rough patch. It wasn’t anything new. It was the same old problems they’d always struggled with. “I just don’t think we can make it work,” she told me. “We’ve tried so many times. I’m discouraged. He’s discouraged.” She...

Don’t Get Sucked Into The Spiral

If you turned the average relationship into a movie, this might be the plot… The Crush (Act 1) Two people meet. They’re excited to spend time together. They notice every delightful thing about each other. They’re at the beginning of a great adventure. They want...

The Two Faces of Passion

He is your everything. There’s nothing you’d rather do than be with him. You’d face any obstacle to be by his side. Without him, life feels meaningless. That’s the pinnacle of romance: A love so obsessive and all-consuming that it defines you. Have you had a...

Is He Just Not That Into You? Or Is It Social Anxiety?

“I don’t get it, James,” Melanie said. “I thought we were really connecting. I was so excited about meeting up. But then it was like… he was a different person.” My heart went out to Melanie. When I’d seen her last week, she was brimming over with enthusiasm...