Why Guys Break Up Instead of Working on the Relationship

This is a story you might have heard before. A man meets a woman… And he falls hard. He’s never met anyone like her before. They have so much fun together. She makes him laugh. They talk about things he usually doesn’t talk about. He thinks about her all the time. He...

3 Signs He’s Not Over His Ex

“James!” Kelli threw her bag on the floor and flung herself into the chair. “I knew it! I found the evidence.” “What evidence?” I asked. “He still has pictures of her. Couple pictures, right there in his bedside drawer! And she’s still in his contacts list. I knew he...

Should I Go No Contact?

I’m sometimes asked whether I think the No Contact Rule works. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, the No Contact Rule refers to ceasing all contact with your ex for about 30 days after a breakup. You don’t text, you don’t comment on his posts, you don’t ask...

I Feel Alone Even When I’m With Him

It wasn’t supposed to be like this. You found a great guy. You get along well. You should be happy. But something feels different in your relationship. Even when he’s with you, it doesn’t feel like he’s with you. He’s distracted. He’s listening and saying, “Uh huh,”...

The Pain of Lost Love

If you work with love, you will hear stories of pain. The pain of having your partner steal your heart and later leave for good. The pain of beautiful relationships that cooled to ashes. The pain of wondering whether love is worth it after all. It can be a disservice...

Breakup Recovery

Breaking up rips out your heart. It hurts SO much. You can’t think of him without crying. Your friends try to support you, but it doesn’t help. The pain inside you is tearing you apart, yet everyone expects you to go about your normal life as if nothing happened… As...