James Bauer’s Texting Tip of the Week
The Best Way to Let Him Know You Love Him
Many women fear being too needy or clingy. You worry about pushing away a great guy.
You can avoid this by learning how to speak your man’s love language. Finding out which of the five buttons make him respond.
Most guys don’t have a clue what their love language is. In fact, 90% would probably say their love language is sex.
This may require some detective work on your part.
Practice each of the love languages on him to see which one gets the best response:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
- Gifts
- Physical Touch
If you give him a compliment that should make him feel great, but he seems to brush it off or even ignore it, words of affirmation may not be his preference. But if you suggest an afternoon wandering the city together and suddenly he’s excited and giddy, it may be that quality time is the language that speaks to his heart.
Learning what makes him tick gives you insight into how to let him know you love him…even before you tell him with words.
My guy loves sports. I can get into most sports but, golf and tennis are just too boring for me. I can go along with all the spitting/scratching of baseball again, golf and tennis eek! Any tips to keep me from rolling my eyes when my very sweet guy talks about those two sports? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks, Jacqueline
Interesting question, Jacqueline. One “trick” I use on myself for similar scenarios is to get really curious about what it means to the person I’m talking to. I try to imagine what the world looks like to them, what they care about, why it excites, them, etc. Then it becomes a game I care about… making the other person feel seen, heard, appreciated, and understood. I build a connection that deepens (the benefit for me) and they get to talk about the world of interest that are important to them.
Love these tips, thank you