Why He Loves It When You’re Selfish

Relationships thrive on selflessness. They require sacrifice, compromise, and putting each other first. We know this deep in our bones, and yet… Have you ever noticed lopsided relationships, where it seems like one person is doing all the giving and the other person...

Why Chasing Commitment Backfires (And What Works BETTER)

Which would you rather have: A passionate and intense relationship that lasted 4 years before imploding? Or a 30-year marriage that was good enough sometimes and not great most of the time? Hold onto that answer and see if it changes over the next few minutes....

The Four Tendencies in Relationships

Have you ever dated someone who never got off the couch? You knew he had amazing potential, but he never did anything with it. Trying to motivate him was a waste of time. Or maybe you’ve dated the opposite: Someone whose time was scheduled down to the minute. He never...

The Unsexy Art of Relationship Maintenance

You’ve read those relationship articles, right? The ones featured in magazines in checkout lines? They’re always about passion or keeping the spark alive or making your relationship magical. Would you like to know the truth about those articles? Sometimes they have...

The Difference between Commitment and Attachment

Belle was committed. She was going to stick with this relationship no matter what. She was never going to give up. She wasn’t that sort of person. She despised people who got married then ended up divorcing six months later. “No one knows how to commit anymore!” she...

How to Avoid the Easiest Relationship Mistake

Some breakups are worse than others. When romance goes south over something big, at least it makes sense. But when things tank without obvious explanation, the lack of resolution is particularly upsetting. There’s one really common relationship mistake that almost...