James Bauer’s Texting Tip of the Week
“Was it fair of __________ to _________?”
We try to avoid being judgmental, but we love it when someone asks us directly to judge a situation. Become his “just between us” confidant with this formula.
Examples:
“Was it fair of Rachel to criticize Josh like that?”
“Was it fair of your boss to ask you to work this weekend?”
“Was it fair of Nikki to share Jason’s secret with everyone like that?”
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To miss aircraft mechanic… please stop assisting the loss of someone else’s father and husband, instead of assisting the break up of a home, help build it back. There are many resources with guidance to rekindle a home. Know that what goes around comes around. Regardless of where it stands today, 18 years of a relationship with a woman didn’t start or happen by accident or arm twisting (men are not coerced), it started with the same things you are doing. 18 yrs down the line someone else could turn him from you, by restarting the same small things you are doing to him. Do the good thing, help her rekindle or rebuild anew the connection she had with her husband, do it right by distancing yourself from the man… just remove yourself and allow his wife and kids to take center stage, in fact you could help her with tips to save her marriage. If you are there and interacting with him you will only be blocking her… its their right to have each other, his kids and wife, not yours… do the right thing and you will have your share of a home, husband and family… if you break another home yours will be broken in the end, what goes around will come around…
Amen! Going through this right now with a motorcycle club groupie. Ugh but she threatens me and screws him knowing he’s married.instead of helping . He was in a motorcycle accident with no helmet and in bad shape they took him to a hospital we gave never been to and put herself as his significant other!
It hurts and it’s horrible but he’s done it before and always comes home. It just sucks that I choose to deal with it cause I love him too much!
You are so right!
Is it fair for my Ex fiance, of 11 years, to breakup with me in a text from the hospital where he was fighting covid related double pneumonia? We were bored and grew apart but I never thought we would breakup over it. Its a pretty drastic, dramatic response to end an 11 year realationship. With no explanation whatsoever. Its heart breaking and cruel. And All I Want is to Be With Him again!! He acts like he hates me, calls me a liar and a thief when I am neither.
Was it fair of my husband to text a younger coworker to come to our house when I was gone and offer to pay her for sex. Thank god she told me and was mad at him. Now how do I live with this, he said he was trying to scare her or teach her a lesson to not sleep around. 33 years of marriage and now this.
Is it fair to text nice things, give all the love and respect and not get any back or even a thank you or appreciation?
That actually sounds like a great idea.. Thanks
Was it fair for him to ask me to be his girlfriend when in reality he knew he already had one
Not fair at all, but I find it interesting when it comes to chemistry between two people. It’s something that becomes irresistible, and you can’t figure out why , really. You wonder why, but then, maybe , he is in the unhappy relationship and that he is just hanging in there for the sake of having a girlfriend, or that they have been together for a long time that he feels guilty to break the relationship.
I’m dealing with something similar and I feel it’s a time factor at this point he’s got alot of time and things that go along with that relationship including 2 kids (18,16) a buisness and 18 yrs he told me 2 yrs ago when we were just friends that things between them just aren’t the same they’ve grown apart him and I haven’t been intimate sexually but we talk about a future together about waking up in eachothers arms n how awesome it’s gonna be to be able to go on the adventures we talk about one day and we talk about helping eachother with our projects we include eachother on the dumb little things like where we’re going to lock up our speakers at work I asked him to keep the key I gave him that responsibility in a sense and every day he unlocks them and after work comes and gets them both and locks them up helps me with putting my tools and stuff away and we always leave together .. there is a bond that is building so much so that he can feel me when we’re not together if something isn’t right and in a sense that is scary but awesome I’m just wondering if he will ever finish that relationship with her??or be true to his heart (if I’m what he wants) I think he wants to make sure that what is between us is real before he makes that move to leave .. because why leave if it’s not horrible just different if he doesn’t have to lose half of everything… I think he wants to make sure that what we have is worth losing half of everything he has worked so hard towards to be honest and can I blame him for that ? is that fair ?