James Bauer’s Texting Tip of the Week
“What if __________?”
What if I could teach you a method to influence someone’s thoughts easily and automatically?
Do you think that would be a useful skill?
The fact is, as soon as I asked that question, I began to influence your mind. Because you considered the possibility.
You envisioned having that skill. I caused you to ask, “what if?”
Ask “what if” about scenarios you want to plant in his mind.
For example, “What if we get caught skinny dipping this weekend? I better bring a swimsuit.”
Warning:
Don’t use this example if you don’t want him to picture you naked! But do notice the subtle way it does that by asking “what if.”
Another example, “What if we skip the meeting and go for coffee?”
Or “What if I bring a swimsuit over tonight?”
What should a woman do when dating a man for 2 years that is age 65, and he is still has not committed to the relationship?
Hi, Joan. I hope the following thoughts won’t seem to miss the point of what you’re really asking, but in case it helps you think this through…
Which kind of commitment are you looking for? Do you mean an exclusive relationship rather than an open one? Or do you mean committing your long-term futures to be together? Or something else?
Does he know which type of commitment you want?
Have you asked him for what you want in clear, straight-forward language while reminding him of the benefits you would both experience?
Does he say he wants that too, just not right now? Or does he say never going to be something he wants in this phase of his life?
Does he make you truly happy other than this one issue?
What do you send to a guy that you had been dating for 4 months and in the last month stop calling, answering text messages and is completely avoiding you If you want to get him back and have a long lasting loving relationship with him?
When I send a text to his phone number, my phone displays ‘delivered’ but none of the recommended texts have elicited any response! So I don’t know if he is getting my texts or has figured-out a way around receiving them OR WHAT !!!!
I felt he was cheating because of his weak arguments but 4 years later I went in his phone and found the evidence and he was still dealing with this girl. Now I’m the dirty person, the disrespected person, the ugly person that he just hates and use me for his convenience.