― Maya Angelou
They say you never forget how to ride a bike. It’s a different kind of memory than factual knowledge.
The memory for how to ride a bike is stored as an experience, not as something you can put into words and share with somebody else.
If only we could share those experience-type memories. Then children wouldn’t need to crash their bikes repeatedly as they learn how to ride. Someone would just give them the manual that explains it all and then send them on their way.
The same thing goes for the special gift some people have for making other people feel good about themselves. If only we could put that in a manual and pass it around.
Do you know someone with that special knack, that gift for making you feel good about yourself?
It’s like your blood pressure lowers the second you see them rounding a corner to talk with you. It becomes increasingly easy to “just be yourself” around them as they repeatedly prove their full acceptance of who you are.
I’m calling this knack “a gift,” because it seems some people were just born with it. Although, I now question that assumption.
Perhaps it can be learned.
How do you learn something like this? My guess is you start with the will to succeed. And then add practice and persistence.
That little recipe seems to be the powerful formula behind many talents worth developing.
Do you want to develop the knack for making people feel good? If so, there’s one more seed I want to plant in your thoughts.
It comes in the form of a quote from a fictional book I enjoyed. The quote captures a profound truth in words.
“It’s the questions we can’t answer that teach us the most. They teach us how to think. If you give a man an answer, all he gains is a little fact. But give him a question and he’ll look for his own answers.”
― Patrick Rothfuss, The Wise Man’s Fear
So here is my question for you today. How can you practice the art of making someone else feel good in your presence? What unique methods might you try?
This is one of those quests that has value even during the journey toward achieving success. Because you’ll like yourself better for having tried.
And if you like yourself for merely trying, it’s not because you have achieved perfection. Rather, it’s because you have set out on a path toward something you believe to be worthwhile.
Perhaps that is one potential answer to my own question. The quest to discover how I can make others feel good when they interact with me.
So I’ll practice using it on you today…
Are you heading in a good direction? Well then, that is enough. You have earned my respect and admiration in that simple choice.
Always on your side,