Why You Feel Anxious in Relationships

How do you experience love? As you think about your past relationships, pick the option that describes how love most often feels to you: Option A: StableSecureReliableNourishing Option B: UnpredictableIntenseAddictivePainful Perhaps you’ve had relationships from BOTH...

The Curious Secret to Happily-Ever-After

That phrase happily-ever-after has a lot of explaining to do. It sets us up to believe that once we meet the perfect person, our lives will become instantly happier… And we’ll stay happy forever. But that doesn’t match our experience. Yes, meeting an amazing person...

What Men Want More than Love

Which would you prefer: To be loved or to be respected? The answer is obvious. Of course it’s better to be loved. You can have all the degrees and achievements and fame in the world, but without love it feels a bit hollow. Do you think most men would agree? If your...

Novelty Makes Love Last

Every relationship starts to fade after a while. No, it’s not you. It’s not him, either. You can blame it on the way our brains are wired to prefer whatever feels new. In the early days of a relationship, the brain’s reward system works overtime. It floods a lover’s...

Will He Ever Change?

It’s so tempting to believe you can fix him. You can see the things about his personality that are holding him back. If only he’d let you, you could help him become a great success in life. You’d help him! You’d back him! But he won’t listen to you. He won’t even try...