5 Steps to Changing His Mind

Ever been in a situation where your guy just won’t budge? He’s convinced he’s got it all figured out. He won’t listen. It’s like hitting a brick wall. You turn to your friends for advice, and what do they say? “Reward him for doing it your way.” “Make him think it was...

He Won’t Put Effort In

For many young people, living in a dorm or a shared apartment is a rite of passage. You’re away from your parents for the first time, and it’s up to you to keep your living environment clean. Many of us also remember the frustration of having a roommate who didn’t do...

The Relationship “Golden Rule” Is Different

Leia was upset. “He knows how much I care about him, James!” she told me. “Before he left, I told him he could take all the time in the world. I would be here for him. I loved him, and I wasn’t going anywhere.” “And how did he respond?” I asked. From her pained...

From Casual to Committed: The Boring Paradox

Why do most new relationships fail? Because they can’t make it through the Crunch. The Crunch is the transition from having fun together to making a life together. Everyone wants to have fun. Having fun is innately rewarding. But making a life together is only fun...

What Men Won’t Tell You About Commitment

When you love a man, you want a life with him. You want to commit to him. You want him to commit to you. And you don’t understand why he keeps avoiding discussions about the future. It’s clear that you’re good together. He’s clearly enjoying the relationship. You’ve...

Secrets of the Securely Attached

If relationships were logical, it would be so much easier. You’d understand going in that most relationships don’t last. It wouldn’t hurt when things went wrong; you’d expect them to go wrong. Then you’d bust out your toolkit of strategies. If the relationship ended,...