“I’m bored and feeling juvenile. Want to play Never Have I Ever?”
This one is potentially a bit risky because it assumes a certain level of intimacy. But if he bites, you have a built in excuse to reveal things that might otherwise be too forward or flirty. Plus, you both get to know each other better through the guise of a game.
I have been in this relationship for 3years and instead of us getting closer we are growing wide apart. I feel like he haven’t given our relationship a chance because when he met me he told me that he had met someone two weeks ago but not starting a relationship so I started to date him we were friends while getting to know each other. He’s a truck driver so when he comes through my town I would meet him through the weekday and the weekends he would pick me up and I would spend the weekend with him for 1year and 4 months than I had minor surgery and he didn’t come see me but call me everyday, I would ask him when are going to come see me, he would make up a lie. After I got well he decided to come and stay a weekend with me. After that first weekend, he started to pick me up every other weekend sometime every two weekends by than I knew for sure he was seeing someone else. I tried talking to him about it as usual all lies came out. I stayed with him because I don’t want to be alone and I’m too old to go through meeting someone else and getting to know another liver. I just hold on to him and maybe one day he’ll realize I love him truly but that’s not working, we argue because he start being insecure when I get ready and put on clothes he fuses about what I’m wearing home, thinking I’m leaving him to go see another man, and he knows I’m not like that. For two months we have been going back and forth about he’s thinking something is going on between me and his Nephew, yes but that never happened at all Who’s that hard up for sex not me because I wouldn’t stop that low, and to find out that his ex did indeed started a relationship with his nephew in which he’s young and just had gotten married have a daughter, yes she was so low and dirty. He said she was put in the hospital by his nephew busted her wide opened, and told my boyfriend that he was sleeping with her the whole time after he had met her. That made it hard to anyone who came around his nephew, I had met some of his family about a month after we met because he invited me to his birthday party they was giving him our birthday is on the same day, so I didn’t met the Nephew til thanksgiving day in which I didn’t notice him at all, I gave my man respect at all times. I went to his family house a year later someone had passed another Nephew so while there I started uncomfortable I setting next to his Sister we were talking he was outside looking inside to see if I would talk to him but I didn’t but I was talking to his little girl than he came over to see what I was saying to her . He came walking through the door talking loud about he wasn’t having this happened to him a second time and I was blind didn’t know what was going on at that time til he told me about the ex and nephew I was shock trying to tell him nothing went on I don’t want him I was accused for about 3 months because the family was getting together to celebrate birthdays in each month once a month and would be all of them and I would go with my man, he always ask me did I spoke to his nephew and his family I would ask he what do you think I’m going to speak to everyone and leave them out? So that went on for awhile I told him that it wasn’t working I’m of trying to prove my love to him than he realized that I was leaving him than he straight up for awhile telling me for the first time that he love me and he is in love with me and he want it to work with us. We are still together and more stuff is popping up. Knock at his door 2:00 am, I don’t know who was on the other side of the door he want answer it but it was a woman knock. He think that he got out of that but he didn’t, on Christmas Eve I went through his texts and he and a woman texting back and forth calling him bae and he calling her sweetheart bae, he doesn’t call me no pet name. Later that day he asked me did I went through his phone and I said yes he wanted to know why I said I’m tired of you lying to me, if you don’t want me and you talking to someone else and having sex with her than it over with us. He tried to switch things around that he thought I never was that type of person I said I am not but you gave me a reason to do it. Than I asked him about the chain I brought him last Christmas 14kt gold chain he’s going to say he pawn it, that hurt me to heart and still hurting. I told him so this is how much you care about me to give away a gift I gave to you in which you never wore it , I told him to get my chain back or pay me $2000 for it that’s what I paid for it. He gonna say it only worth $180 I wanted to slap his head off but I kept my hands to myself. I with him now to make sure I get my chain back. He gone call me back when he left the house for about two hours telling me it still there to get it out is $350 can you get it out no I didn’t put it there. Mind you now before he left the house he didn’t kiss me or gave me a hug I try to hug him he said let me get by I gotta get the garbage up and never looked me in my face and walked out, came back home didn’t look at me or touch me but talk to me a little bit and so I left him alone and packed my bags and told him I am ready to go home . He want take me home and then he started to talk to me and some of it was lies. I know what I need to do but I don’t want to be alone now I just lost my Father. If he doesn’t come clean I’m going to leave him alone
I don’t think I turn my boyfriend on anymore because he’s watching nfl football and I’m lying on the couch next to him with just my underwear on and all day walking around the house and he hasn’t touched me, just acting like l am not here.
Hey, Barbara. Mostly, that has to do with changes in him, rather than something changing about the way you naturally attract him.
Libido goes up and down for all sorts of reasons. If his libido was high, he would feel attracted to you and crave physical intimacy.
I say this to ensure you understand that it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. However, there COULD be something wrong with the relationship. For example, he might be angry at you or he may think you are angry at him and likely to reject any bid for intimacy.
What would you do if your boyfriend of 3years tells you after asking him about the Christmas gift you gave him last Christmas that he had pawn it to pay his 18 wheeler payment because he didn’t work enough to have the money to pay it? I feel that he gave my 14kt chain to another woman. I told him to get it back because that’s telling me how he really feels about me. There’s more but I need to know what to do on that first. I’m hurting deeply
Hey, Barbara. I understand why that hurt.
There are really two issues here. (1) Is he telling the truth about where the necklace went? (2) Is he pursuing other women.
Other than online relationships, I’m generally in favor of giving people the benefit of the doubt and extending trust so that a relationship has the chance to flourish. But give him the chance to verify that he deserves that trust. By that I mean, tell him you feel hurt, and then see how he reacts. If he truly cares about you, he won’t respond in anger. He’ll respond with compassion and an earnest desire to make it up to you.