As you can probably imagine, I spend a fair amount of time absorbing the ideas and methods of other dating coaches. Some of their ideas are helpful, some I just flat-out disagree with.
Generally speaking, I agree with the concept of putting your best foot forward and doing everything in your power to maximize your attraction factors. However, I disagree with the idea of focusing most of your attention on those issues.
Here’s why. When you focus too much on yourself, you kill the most beautiful part of your presence.
When I use the term “presence” I am referring to the experience of the other person. I am referring to the experience a man has of being in your presence.
I cannot over emphasize the importance of that special “click” that causes a person to have the sudden feeling that someone else is special. That “click” is far less likely to happen when your mind is preoccupied with putting your best foot forward.
Here’s what I recommend instead. Focus on the other person while maintaining full conscious awareness of the present moment as it unfolds one second at a time.
Next, add this special little ingredient. Look at the man you are interacting with and think the thought, “Let me love you.” This last little addition will change you in a special sort of way.
It will cause your eyes to become softer and warmer. It will cause your presence to deepen. It will draw your focus onto him in a way that is enchanting and nonthreatening. He will sense it, and it will make a significant impact on his experience of interacting with you.
This method works as well with a stranger you just met as it does with a man you are trying to bring back into your life. Of course, this is only the tip of the iceberg. You can take this concept much deeper with the specific instructions I offer in my complete guide to being irresistible, called What Men Secretly Want.
I hope you find this concept useful and apply it in your life. You have nothing to lose, so why not work with it and try to make it your own secret method? No one will even know you are doing it!
Have a great day!