Friends to Lovers: Why You Should Fall for Your Best Friend

There are two pathways to love. One is the “attractive stranger” pathway. You see someone who catches your eye, you start talking, and sparks fly. The second is the “friends to lovers” pathway. You get to know someone really well, you realize that no one in the world...

Surprising Reason He Blows Hot & Cold

Raise of hands—how many of you have never experienced a man blowing hot and cold? Anyone? It’s a near-universal experience for women seeking a real relationship. You think everything is going so well, then he pulls away unexpectedly. It’s hurtful. You don’t even know...

“Slow Down, Romeo!” When He’s Moving Too Fast

Imagine this… You meet a man who tells you he’s never met anyone like you before. Where have you been all his life? You’re incredible. He wants to see you again immediately. You do a little happy dance as soon as you get home. You can’t stop smiling. This is so...

Can This Casual Relationship Become Serious?

Lauren had a problem. She had a casual thing going with a guy she really liked. It was all going so well. She’d never been happier. Except… She was developing “feelings.” I had to smile as she put air quotes around the word, like it was a horrible thing to confess. “I...

The Trust Deficit: Why Modern Dating Feels Riskier Than Ever

It’s already so hard to meet someone new. There are so many obstacles to overcome: making that first contact, figuring out what to say, building attraction, daring to suggest seeing each other again… It’s not fair that I’m giving you one more thing to worry...

The Promise Problem

Keira fell in love with him over coffee. They talked about what they wanted for the future. She loved the way he painted a picture of the life they’d have together once he graduated. They’d spend part of each year in a different country. They’d be a power couple,...