There are some things about your personal appearance you simply cannot do anything to change. For the sake of building your own confidence and self-esteem, it is important that you accept those things completely.
Yes, I know you would still change them if your fairy godmother showed up with a magic wand and gave you the option. Just make sure you don’t hold your breath, waiting to embrace your body until later.
There is a lot to be said for fully embracing the body you find yourself living in. If you have features you don’t like, do everything in your power to fully accept them and make friends with yourself as a person who has those features. It really does improve your quality of life when you accept yourself as you are.
That being said, you don’t want to miss out on easy opportunities that could allow you to better tug at men’s attraction triggers. If you can do something to enhance your appearance, you might choose to do so. It all depends on how comfortable you are with the idea.
Here are a few things researchers claim as fairly strong variables that influence an average man’s attraction triggers (assuming you care what “average” men think).
One is a smooth and clear complexion. Another is clear eyes. And a third is long, healthy hair (for Caucasian women anyway), which men just called “shiny” in research samples. Those factors were at the top of the list of variables that seemed to really attract research participants when a research team showed men hundreds of pictures and carefully analyzed the results.
How to Improve Your Looks – Practical Steps You Could Take to Improve Your Attraction Triggers:
At Be Irresistible, we don’t recommend beauty products just for the heck of it. We don’t usually research them either. But when women tell us something works unusually well, we pass on that information to our members.
There is a hair product that seems to be a few steps above the rest when it comes to adding a silky shine and taming frizz. It may actually live up to the advertising hype according to some women I personally asked to try it (after hearing from a reader that it is amazingly good).
It is Pantene Ultimate 10 BB creme. It is a ten-in-one beauty balm for hair. It could be a useful tool for you if you straighten your hair or want to add an extra noticeable shine.
Clear eyes: Get some sleep to avoid blood-shot eyes. If your eyes are a bit blood shot from a plane trip or lack of sleep, use Visine redness reliever before heading out on a big date.
A clear, smooth complexion is probably easiest to find in your makeup case, but here’s a tip for any of you who have adult acne. It’s hard to find, but you can get great long-term results for complexion problems by applying vitamin B3 directly to your skin. It may take two months to see the benefits.
If you have read Dr. Nicolas Perricone’s book on clear skin, you know that chronic mild inflammation of the skin is the number one factor that contributes to acne lesions. Vitamin B3 (niacinamide) has a soothing anti-inflammatory effect and also reduces red spots and discoloration on the skin after you use if for a while.
There are an ever-increasing number of articles on Niacinamide gel published on the online medical journal clearinghouse, pubmed, about niacinamide. It is an over-the-counter product and is being studied for its beneficial effects on acne, hyper-pigmentation, skin-hydration, wrinkle reduction, and its anti-inflammatory, anti-cancer, and anti-aging effects.
They say you look thinner, healthier, and generally more beautiful with a tan. If you are Caucasian, and you are going to ignore the potential long-term damage that can come from sun exposure, at least use the following helpful tip about getting a tan.
Your body gets tan by producing melanin. Melanin is the stuff your skin releases to reduce its vulnerability to damage from UV rays. Your skin gradually releases melanin when you are exposed to the sun, which causes the darkening pigmentation of your skin with sun exposure over time.
Here’s the tip. Get your tan in fifteen minute increments per day. The reason is simple. The maximum release of melanin happens after only fifteen minutes per day in the sun. You can’t speed up the process by spending three hours in the sun all at once and nearly burning yourself. That would just add to the cumulative sun damage to your skin and cause premature wrinkling as you age.
Don’t try to get a burn that will “fade into a tan.” Only a very small percentage of people have skin that responds this way, and even they could have developed a deeper and more beautiful skin tone by approaching the process gradually. Additionally, they would have avoided the kind of burn that can lead to skin cancer, dry skin, and premature wrinkling.
If you have any tips or suggestions of your own to share with your fellow readers, feel free to share them in the comments section below.
No ‘beauty’ tips for women of color?
Hey Chris. It’s a big gap in this research (either that or maybe the researchers just looked at average responses, lumping all racial phenotypes together when aggregating the data…idk). If you have any tips or see a good resource I’m sure other women here would appreciate it.
I know a young man from France he is now a doctor of pharmacology and his mother also works at the major pharmaceutical company in France. He has come to us in Wisconsin every year for many years since he was 16 and he is now 30 and I remember a number of years ago when he first came and he told us his mother was in pharmaceutical research and I said what is she working on with her team and he said we have a significant problem with melanoma in France because everyone likes to Sundays that is what she is working on a few years ago when he came back again I said how was your mother doing what is she working on now still the same he came for my son‘s wedding to be in it and I asked him again. What is your Mother working on now still working on the same project I said it has been so many years they must have Learned something and he said in his French accent “stay out of the sun”
LOL!!! That’s pretty much it for long term skin health. Though there are some things you can do that build up over time in the opposite direction. Like drinking these shakes:
I get spray tans from Spring into the Fall. Makes a world of difference in my confidence and spirit without the danger of UV Rays from sunlight or tanning beds. Cheers to looking healthy!
I could never tan. I started drinking a Living Fuel (expensive but worth it) smoothie every time I went outdoors to tan, and I have been able to tan for the last 3 years now! I also put Coconut oil on my skin. And then when i’m done tanning I wash it off and apply Nature’s Aid. Hopefully it works for whoever wants to try it! 🙂
Bright eyes and clear skin a must. Long healthy hair I have seen the results. I am 50 and continually get told I don’t look a day over 42. Just over all take care of yourself and avoid greasy foods and sugars.
Bio identical hormones plumps the skin, causes hair growth, breasts to be full and rounded, keeps bones strong and overall revitalizes all your organs. It keeps you young.
Where do you acquire those?
Please….where do you get these bio identical hormones??
Illumask light therapy at home mask is barely $30 and has great reviews for improving the healthy look of skin compexion
Hi James, You may be correct regarding silky hair and clear eyes, but encouraging ladies to tan because ‘mean prefer a tanned body’ maybe in the US I cannot comment, but here in Europe not too sure.
For me tanning is impossible and for a large number of natural blondes and redheads. My very white skin has never been an issue, infact most men love it, or maybe it is the lack of prune like wrinkles they like
Yes, sometimes knowing what people prefer doesn’t help. I would not tan either due to the skin cancer risks.