Allow me to do an experiment on your brain.
To play along, just allow your mind and imagination to wander, using the words on this page as your guide.
Imagine that, right now, you have an abundance of everything you need. Imagine this is true whether you know it or not.
You have all of the money you need even if you are unaware of the sources from which it will come.
You have all the love you need from others, coming from all sorts of different directions, too many directions for you to anticipate.
Some of you are good at this imaginative form of play. For others of you, this may be a bit of a struggle. So let’s back up a few steps and start with something easier.
Let’s focus your mind on abundance, the kind that is easier to notice. Notice how you have an abundance of air to breathe.
Notice how you have an abundance of light available to you. Notice how there is an abundance of space, an abundance of different places you could go.
Pause for a moment and contemplate what else is abundantly available to you.
Do you have an abundance of music available to you?
Do you have an abundance of meaningful questions you would like to pursue the answers to (curiosity)?
Do you have an abundance of learning opportunities, or opportunities to invest in people who need your time, attention, or skills?
What is abundant in your life right at this exact moment? Whatever it is, focus on those things.
What happens when you do this? What happens to the mind when we focus it on the things that are abundantly available to us?
I’ll tell you what happens. It changes us. It creates a subtle, yet powerful shift in your mind.
Fear comes from the mind’s incredible ability to imagine the future. Humans are uniquely powerful in their ability to project themselves into the future.
The more you live in the future, the less connected you are to the abundance of life flowing through you in every given moment.
My dog can feel fear, but only about things in his immediate future. He may get shaky with adrenaline for a few minutes here and there, but unlike you and me, his mind cannot imagine the final moments of his life. He cannot imagine the agony of being rejected a year from now after tenuously entering a new relationship.
Have you ever noticed that dogs make great friends? I can’t help but wonder if one reason we bond so easily with our pets is that they live for the moment, and vicariously tend to draw us into the present moment when we interact with them.
When we are drawn into the present moment, fear fades away. We are faced with the abundance of attention and love radiating from the dog’s happy face and wagging tail.
The mental process that generates fear is quite the opposite of the mental process that occurs when we focus on abundance in the present moment.
Focusing on abundance is not normal. Your teacher did not train you to do it in school. Your parents never asked you to practice it for 30 minutes a day, and they certainly did not hire a tutor to help you work on the skill.
But if you would like to break the mold, I challenge you to continue this experiment.
The next time you feel even the smallest amount of fear, allow it to become your new trigger for practicing with a better way of life.
Fear is your new cue.
From now on, let fear remind you to practice focusing your mind on good things that are plentiful in the world around you.
When you focus on the abundance of things you enjoy, something changes inside of you. Your mind and body open up toward life. You not only feel more alive, you also stop feeling afraid.
Confidence surges through you. You are reaching toward your ideal self.
This is the “self” I would like you to bring to your dating relationships. It is the version of you that shines most brightly. It is the version of you that most clearly reveals the truth about the qualities that lie within.
If you would like to nourish this special quality, I invite you to a brief training report I created on this specific topic.
Think you’re the only one that will notice the positive changes? Think again.
Here are some of the benefits that relate to dating and relationships:
- You will experience less stress about the ups and downs of relationship interaction.
- You will seem easy-going, fun, and playful to the guys that date you.
- Other people will naturally admire you because it seems like you have life by the tail.
- You will wake up feeling more rested and happier to be alive.
- You will naturally tend to make decisions that bring happiness into your life.
- You will attract the right kind of people into your life because they will sense your confident, relaxed, and playful energy and be drawn to it.
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