3 Questions That Help You Know If He’s The One

It’s one of those questions I get asked all the time: “How do I know if he’s the one, James?” My clients want to know if this is as good as it gets. What if there’s someone out there who’s better? What if they’re wasting time with the wrong man when Mr. Right is still...

Am I Too Picky with Guys?

It’s one of the questions I get asked a lot: “Am I too picky with guys?” Have you ever wondered that? Are you worried you’ll run out of options if you keep turning down guys who are interested? Do you wonder whether you’re turning away guys who could have made you...

What a Cup of Coffee Can Tell You about Your Relationship Mistakes

Bernadette was frustrated. “I did everything right, James,” she said. “I made sure to soften my approach, I talked about my feelings, I avoided blaming him … but I still think I might have wrecked everything.” Bernadette had been wanting to talk to her boyfriend...

How to Find a Man Who Treasures You

Amanda came to me with an interesting concern. She was reading romance novels. Nonstop. And every time she did, she felt like crying. Because her relationship was so far from the love depicted in those pages. “I wonder if it’s me,” she said. “If I was more amazing,...

The Art of Avoiding Creeps & Encouraging Good Guys

Mia had a unique problem. “The only guys who talk to me are the creepy ones,” she told me. “I try to end it pretty quick, but it’s getting frustrating. What am I, a creep magnet?” “What’s a creep, exactly?” I asked her. She gave me a look. “You know. A weirdo. Someone...