Romantic Friends

Shortly after meeting each other, Harry turns to Sally and declares, “You realize of course that we could never be friends.” “Why not?” Sally asks. Harry continues: “What I’m saying is–and this is not a come-on in any way,...

The Upside of Relationship Mistakes

Which is better? To avoid mistakes altogether, or to watch for your mistakes, expecting them on a daily basis? The answer may surprise you. Back in the 90’s, IBM built a computer called Deep Blue. It played chess. In 1997, it actually beat Garry Kasparov, a...

Healthy Relationship Boundaries

Healthy boundaries aren’t just good for your relationship. They’re essential. In fact, it’s nearly impossible to have a mature, healthy relationship without boundaries. The problem is that most of us think of walls when we think of boundaries, and...

Disappearing Reappearing Love

Today we’re talking about why the feeling of love seems to suddenly disappear during arguments between lovers. But I need to start with a quick story. A king gave his wise men a challenge. “Create a ring that will make me happy when I am sad.” The wise men succeeded....