He’s Mad at Me (And I Don’t Know Why)

He’s mad at you. You just know it. He barely talks to you. He won’t meet your eye. He doesn’t smile. He’s shutting you out, and he won’t tell you why. You’ve spent ages racking your brain. Was it that thing you said? Did you offend him accidentally? What did you do...

Stop Waiting on Him to Change

So many of the women who come to me know exactly what needs to change in their love situation… HIM. They want him to do something or feel something. He doesn’t want to. What can they do? Making anyone change is an exercise in frustration. Especially if you feel that...

Why Guys Break Up Instead of Working on the Relationship

This is a story you might have heard before. A man meets a woman… And he falls hard. He’s never met anyone like her before. They have so much fun together. She makes him laugh. They talk about things he usually doesn’t talk about. He thinks about her all the time. He...

3 Signs He’s Not Over His Ex

“James!” Kelli threw her bag on the floor and flung herself into the chair. “I knew it! I found the evidence.” “What evidence?” I asked. “He still has pictures of her. Couple pictures, right there in his bedside drawer! And she’s still in his contacts list. I knew he...

Should I Go No Contact?

I’m sometimes asked whether I think the No Contact Rule works. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, the No Contact Rule refers to ceasing all contact with your ex for about 30 days after a breakup. You don’t text, you don’t comment on his posts, you don’t ask...

I Feel Alone Even When I’m With Him

It wasn’t supposed to be like this. You found a great guy. You get along well. You should be happy. But something feels different in your relationship. Even when he’s with you, it doesn’t feel like he’s with you. He’s distracted. He’s listening and saying, “Uh huh,”...