How to win at love (no matter what)

Love is a paradox. Those who are clearly on a quest to be loved end up weakened by their efforts. Their hearts are always on their sleeves. They’re dependent on others to make them feel whole. It’s a desperate way to live. But those who give love away...

Don’t Pay It Forward

Granted, it sucks to get burned. You trusted someone, and they let you down. Maybe they cheated on you. Maybe they lied. Maybe they didn’t follow-through on a really important promise. It hurts. The temptation when that happens is to allow the experience to...

The Perfect Date for Your Long Term Relationship

Are your dates beginning to feel a little stale and predictable? It happens. Dinner and a movie is exciting the first time you share it with someone new, but it can become ho-hum after a while. So what do you do to inject some energy and passion into your dates? I...

Only Be Exclusive When the Timing Is Right

Nothing is better than falling in love. But…it’s not always in your best interest to be exclusive early in the relationship. Let me explain why. First, a quick story to illustrate something important. I received a letter from a division of the US military...

I want to love you (without overwhelming you)

The real power of love…well, if you’ve ever experienced it, I don’t need to explain. Inside, it can feel like you have discovered a well of eternal joy. Giving expression to that love can feel like the purpose of your life. You feel a powerful desire...

Destined for Love

Kristen believes her soulmate is out there. She’s attractive and engaging, so she gets asked out fairly often. Unfortunately, her relationships rarely last beyond the third or fourth date. When asked why that is, she says, “I only date a guy if I have a...