The “Effortless Mindset” for Stress-Free Success

There are so many things in life you really want… But you don’t have. Like the perfect relationship. Or the perfect career. Or the perfect home. When clients come to me for help with getting what they want, I watch the pattern of their thoughts.  Because everyone...

Boost Your Social Confidence

Do you compare yourself to other women? I know, dumb question. It’s hard not to. In fact, it’s perfectly natural. But here’s the problem. As a relationship consultant, I often see the negative impact it has on a woman’s social confidence. And that’s because we tend to...

How Our Favorite Habits Can Blind Us to Romantic Opportunities

You’re loyal to what you like. Found the best coffee shop in town? Then that’s where you’re going for your caffeine hit. Got a certain band’s album on repeat? Then you’re going to see them in concert when they play in a city near you. You find the best lunch spot, or...

What Romance Novels Can Teach You about Real Relationships

So I’m no expert on romance novels marketed to women. (You probably could have guessed that, right?) But I have read a few because it’s related to work I do. For me, the most fascinating part has nothing to do with the budding romance that inevitably swings into full...

The SAP Method for Dealing with Emotional Triggers

Every time Bryan and Jill go to her parents’ house, they have a huge argument. One that goes nuclear. And Bryan thinks he knows why. “Jill gets weird around her family,” he says. “It’s like she’s a different person. She picks on every little thing I say. Normally I’m...

Should You Settle?

“Should I hold out for something better? Or should I settle for what I’ve got?” I’ve heard that question so many times. Mostly from women who are just starting relationships, but sometimes I hear it from women who are about to walk down the aisle. For those women,...