This Tool Helps You Navigate The Pain of a Breakup

As you can imagine, I’ve seen a lot of tears in my office. Love is an emotional topic. Some of the hardest moments happen during breakups. My clients tell me it hurts so much they can hardly breathe. They can’t bear it. They don’t know what to do. Should they beg him...

Should I Go No Contact?

I’m sometimes asked whether I think the No Contact Rule works. For those of you unfamiliar with the term, the No Contact Rule refers to ceasing all contact with your ex for about 30 days after a breakup. You don’t text, you don’t comment on his posts, you don’t ask...

I Can’t Stop Thinking about My Ex

“Oh, James. I really messed it up.” Olivia was sitting in my office with her head in her hands. When she and her boyfriend broke up last month, she thought she’d handled it well. She kept her feelings under control. They had a mature conversation and parted on...

10 Reasons Why Your Ex Keeps Texting You After The Breakup

Why is he doing this? He’s still calling and texting you, even though he’s the one who broke up with you. He said he didn’t want a relationship. So why is he acting as if you’re still in one? Could it be that he’s missing you? Does he regret breaking up with you? Does...

The Case of the Disappearing Men

I’ve heard this story so many times. A guy really likes a girl, so he tries to come up with reasons to talk to her. He starts showing up in the same places she frequents. He strikes up little conversations with her. He builds up the courage to ask her out. Then, out...