I Can’t Stop Thinking about My Ex

“Oh, James. I really messed it up.” Olivia was sitting in my office with her head in her hands. When she and her boyfriend broke up last month, she thought she’d handled it well. She kept her feelings under control. They had a mature conversation and parted on...

10 Reasons Why Your Ex Keeps Texting You After The Breakup

Why is he doing this? He’s still calling and texting you, even though he’s the one who broke up with you. He said he didn’t want a relationship. So why is he acting as if you’re still in one? Could it be that he’s missing you? Does he regret breaking up with you? Does...

The Case of the Disappearing Men

I’ve heard this story so many times. A guy really likes a girl, so he tries to come up with reasons to talk to her. He starts showing up in the same places she frequents. He strikes up little conversations with her. He builds up the courage to ask her out. Then, out...

My Relationships Never Last

“Once guys get to know me, they always leave.” “I can’t let down my guard. I’ll say the wrong thing and push him away.” “It’s risky to let a guy into my life. What if he sees the real me and runs?” I wish I had a dime for every time a woman has told me she can’t...

How to Get Over the Shame of a Breakup

It’s tough when women come into my office suffering from a recently-ended relationship. They want to get over it, they want to move on and meet someone new, but the pain of loss keeps tripping them up. I admire these women greatly. They’ve gone through a terrible...