Secrets of the Securely Attached

If relationships were logical, it would be so much easier. You’d understand going in that most relationships don’t last. It wouldn’t hurt when things went wrong; you’d expect them to go wrong. Then you’d bust out your toolkit of strategies. If the relationship ended,...

3 Ways to Spot a Love Avoidant Person

You’re with a man who acts like he doesn’t care about you half the time. Some of the time, he’s amazing. He’s passionate. He’s romantic. But then he pulls away. He barely sees you. He acts preoccupied. What’s going on? You may have fallen for a Love Avoidant. How It...

Why You Feel Anxious in Relationships

How do you experience love? As you think about your past relationships, pick the option that describes how love most often feels to you: Option A: StableSecureReliableNourishing Option B: UnpredictableIntenseAddictivePainful Perhaps you’ve had relationships from BOTH...

Why Guys Play Hard to Get

You may not immediately look at a guy and think, “He’s playing hard to get.” But guys play hard to get just as often as women do. Only it’s called breadcrumbing, or benching, or stashing, or phubbing. (Don’t know what these terms mean? I’ll tell you in a moment.)...

Why is He Emotionally Unavailable?

You’re dating an emotionally unavailable man. Is he unavailable because: He’s still not over his ex? He’s just not that into you? All men are like that? You haven’t said the magic words? Okay, so maybe there isn’t any “magic spell” that turns an emotionally...