How to Outsmart He-Said-She-Said Arguments

Did you know there’s a hidden danger in trusting your own memory? Most of us think of our memory like a personal video recorder. When you remember something, it’s like sitting down in the theater of your own mind and pressing play. Except, that’s not how...

5 Relationship Myths That Make People Miserable

Have you ever fallen prey to a widely-held misconception? Here’s a completely harmless example: shaving makes hair thicker. This old wives’ tale has been around for a long time, but there’s no truth in it.[1] Shaving can make hair look thicker. But shaving (or waxing)...

How to Spot Your Future Husband Faster

What are the chances your future husband is trying to meet you online? One study suggests that it could be as high as 33%.[1] (Other estimates are more conservative at 5% to 25%, so keep your eyes open in the real world, too. If he’s not online, he’s likely to be...

When He Doesn’t Want All the Love You Have to Give

There’s nothing worse than knowing you have a big heart… A heart that any man would be privileged to cherish… And yet feeling that men don’t want your love. If you’ve ever felt like that, let me share with you a story I sometimes tell my clients. You’re standing in a...

The SAP Method for Dealing with Emotional Triggers

Every time Bryan and Jill go to her parents’ house, they have a huge argument. One that goes nuclear. And Bryan thinks he knows why. “Jill gets weird around her family,” he says. “It’s like she’s a different person. She picks on every little thing I say. Normally I’m...

How to Save Your Relationship from His Children

Becky thought she found the perfect guy. There was only one problem: His daughter hated her. Becky told me she could understand—really, she could. From his daughter’s perspective, Becky was stealing away her dad. But that wasn’t Becky’s intention at all. She respected...