“I don’t get it, James,” Kate said. “I’m confident in every other area of my life. But when it comes to him, I’m a wreck.” She gave me a sad smile. Love makes a lot of us feel that way. No matter how competent and capable we usually feel, love brings up all our...
As you can imagine, I’ve seen a lot of tears in my office. Love is an emotional topic. Some of the hardest moments happen during breakups. My clients tell me it hurts so much they can hardly breathe. They can’t bear it. They don’t know what to do. Should they beg him...
When Alyssa came into my office, she wasn’t the same woman I’d seen the week before. Her blond hair was limp and unwashed. She wasn’t wearing makeup. Her shoulders were slumped. “So, how’d your date go last week?” I asked. I knew she’d been looking forward to it. “It...
What’s the #1 reason people don’t get into relationships? You know this… It’s because they’re worried about getting hurt. And why are they worried? Because they’ve been there before. That first big breakup can scar you for life. The pain swamps you. You NEVER want to...
“I don’t know what I did wrong, James!” she said. “I did everything I was supposed to. I planned out what I was going to say, I wasn’t critical, I asked for what I needed in the nicest way possible.” She rubbed her eyes with her sleeve. “And now he’s gone. All because...
Something he’s doing is bothering you. You feel uncomfortable about the situation, so you call your best friend to talk about it. You explain what happened, and you try to put words to how you’re feeling. Are you mad at him? Do you feel left out? Do you feel triggered...
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