What a Cup of Coffee Can Tell You about Your Relationship Mistakes

Bernadette was frustrated. “I did everything right, James,” she said. “I made sure to soften my approach, I talked about my feelings, I avoided blaming him … but I still think I might have wrecked everything.” Bernadette had been wanting to talk to her boyfriend...

When Dating Feels Like Rejection After Rejection…

When Jayla walked into my office, she didn’t smile or shake my hand. She shuffled over to the chair, sat down hard, and stared at me. She told me flat-out that she didn’t think I was going to be able to help her. She thought this was going to be a complete waste of...

It’s All His Fault

When everything goes wrong in your life, you know who to blame. It’s him.  ? If he had been more supportive when you came home and told him about the problem you were having at work, you wouldn’t have been so upset. You’d probably be having a nice evening right...

How to Get Over the Shame of a Breakup

It’s tough when women come into my office suffering from a recently-ended relationship. They want to get over it, they want to move on and meet someone new, but the pain of loss keeps tripping them up. I admire these women greatly. They’ve gone through a terrible...

How to Soothe Rejection with Self-Compassion

If I could make a guess about you, I’d bet that you’re harder on yourself than anyone else. Am I right? You’re hard on yourself because being a good person matters to you. You want to be good at what you do. You want to be good to the people you love. You don’t want...

Bounce Back with Better Self-talk

Think of your last REALLY BAD dating experience. The guy who arrived at your dinner date … only to confess he’d already eaten. The guy who vanished into thin air while you were freshening up in the bathroom. The guy who failed to mention he was married. The guy who...