You are helping me redirect my energies on what I should be doing, instead of what they have done. I appreciate you in a way I cannot express because I have not lasted past 4 years in relationship. I have been lucky to have LOVED so much but just not long term. I tend to focus on the emotions and not telling him how I feel and learning to do this is making a huge difference. My ex was always on the defensive because I used my hurt to break him down from hurting me and this is not productive, only destroys it. Thank you......Thank you. Raquel