I’m 64 years old. Most likely a bit older than most of the people who read this blog (I’m so old I’m not even sure if it’s called a blog!

I was constantly searching for love. I was sure something was wrong with me because I could never find it. I was always falling for the wrong man. I found physical and emotional abusers. If I loved them they didn’t love me. And if they loved me I didn’t love them. Looking back now, I know I stunk of desperation.

And I was looking so hard that I ignored red flags and saw things in men that weren’t really there. I didn’t marry until I was 33 years old. I stayed in a bad marriage longer than I should have —-17 years —- and I’ve been divorced for going on 14 years. It took me until I was 63 years old to find the man I’ve been searching for all of my life and he just asked me to marry him this past Christmas.

Looking back now, I wish I had just relaxed and enjoyed my footloose and fancy free 20’s, instead of struggling so hard to find love and marriage. And I didn’t learn anything from my disastrous marriage. I laid low for more than 10 years, afraid of getting burned again, then fell into the same pattern of desperation, even more fearful than before because I believed I was too old and it was too late for me to ever find love.

Then I discovered this blog. The wise words of James Bauer have been a godsend for me. I finally learned to play it smarter, relaxed and turned it over to God. And guess what! Love found me!

I know this message is long and most people won’t have the patience to read all the way through it. It I hope enough people read this last —-

Be patient. Let go of the desperation. Read this blog. Take the free advice that is given here and maybe even buy a lesson or two. And maybe you’ll find the man you’ve been looking for all of your life. And chances are much better, thanks to the advice given here, you won’t blow it.

Best of luck.

Robin

Hi James,

I just wanted to let you know, I used your tip about getting his curiosity going (I told him I learned something about Dumbledore that he would never believe!) and it worked so well! He texted me right back and I asked if he could guess, and we ended up with this great ongoing text with him very curious about what the answer is, and me telling him how what great guesses he was making!

Thank you!

Ann

Dear James,

This email came in spot on and just in time to save the day. It is so unbelievably true what you said about indifference and how contagious it could be if care is not taken.

For two days up until I read this email, I hadn’t heard from my boyfriend which is a tad unusual, especially as he is off on Thursday nights through the weekend. Yet, it didn’t seem to bother me seeing as I didn’t even miss him. Then this morning, it dawned on me that he could be feeling as indifferent just as much or even a little bit more than myself since he did not bother calling me. So when I read your email this morning, I was like “That’s it … indifference… ” So I called him thereafter and tried to shake things up a little bit and now he is picking me up after work to spend the night at my place.

Thank you very much, coach. Please keep it coming.

Sanny