James, Compliments of the new year. How are you doing. Thank you for this advice, I'm actually going through this "back up" scenario. Im relieved to hear you spell out the difference. I can gladly say that in my case there is a silver lining. He passed Part 1 and he delivered a moving speech on how I have helped her appreciate love, and how he has grown in the area of love since he met me. He went on and on. I was touched and felt I can give him a chance to get his act together. We dont communicate much or see each other often but our love is growing stronger each day. Thank you once again for your tips, I read them all the time and they are very helpful. Kind regards, Felicity