“Who Does More?” Is Killing Your Relationship

Sometimes, at social gatherings, people hear about my work and immediately start sharing their opinions about relationships. Usually it’s all in good fun, but recently it almost pulled me into a heated argument. Ethan and Alice were a couple in their thirties. They...

10 Reasons Men Aren’t Asking You Out

“Do guys just not ask women out anymore?” my client Annie asked me. She’d gotten married in her early twenties, and she didn’t remember dating being this hard. She’d done everything possible to meet someone since her divorce—signing updating apps, attending...

Decoding Mixed Messages

Tammy thought she’d never find love again. Since her husband passed, she’d found peace in a life filled with friends and hobbies. Then she joined a hiking group… and met Steve. Steve was a high school teacher coming out of a rough divorce. He was funny and a great...

What Guys Long for in a Relationship (But Rarely Get)

For many men, there was a moment when they knew their girlfriend was the one. She had one specific trait that made her different from every other woman they’d been with. Until they experienced it with her, they didn’t even realize what they were missing. Now they...

Friends to Lovers: Why You Should Fall for Your Best Friend

There are two pathways to love. One is the “attractive stranger” pathway. You see someone who catches your eye, you start talking, and sparks fly. The second is the “friends to lovers” pathway. You get to know someone really well, you realize that no one in the world...

Surprising Reason He Blows Hot & Cold

Raise of hands—how many of you have never experienced a man blowing hot and cold? Anyone? It’s a near-universal experience for women seeking a real relationship. You think everything is going so well, then he pulls away unexpectedly. It’s hurtful. You don’t even know...