Are You Accidentally Telling Him It’s Casual?

Naleda was a vibrant 22-year-old who oozed confidence. She made direct eye contact and shook my hand firmly. As she settled into a chair, I asked her why she’d come to see me. She froze. I could see her confidence drain away. She took a deep breath and confessed, “I...

Why Guys Break Up Instead of Working on the Relationship

This is a story you might have heard before. A man meets a woman… And he falls hard. He’s never met anyone like her before. They have so much fun together. She makes him laugh. They talk about things he usually doesn’t talk about. He thinks about her all the time. He...

He Won’t Talk About Marriage

“I just can’t give anymore, James,” she told me. “I don’t know what to do.” Marissa had come to me with a request. She wanted to get married. She and her guy had been together for eight years. They had two kids together. Marissa was in her forties, and she felt that...

The Secret Need That Drives Men

Some of my clients tell me that they already know how to deal with men. “You’ve got to train a man like you train a dog,” they say. “Ignore his bad behavior and reward his good behavior.” It’s a common belief, but such a missed opportunity for connection. Treating a...

3 Signs He’s Not Over His Ex

“James!” Kelli threw her bag on the floor and flung herself into the chair. “I knew it! I found the evidence.” “What evidence?” I asked. “He still has pictures of her. Couple pictures, right there in his bedside drawer! And she’s still in his contacts list. I knew he...