[Ecaterina G]

Oh my chemo.. not much fun speaking about it. I have 4 chemo. Get it once in 2 weeks. Had only one. 5-6 days it’s like hell. On wheelchair but mostly in bed. It’s hard to describe the pain i feel during the recovery days. It’s hard. But I accept this situation as a temporary stage of my life. No more crying about diagnostics. I finished my cryings long time ago. After recovery days I choose to enjoy life. I sing in shower. Go to walk, go to see nice places.

And Thank you for all suggestions.

[Ecaterina G]

Hey Spyce! I’d agree with you 100%!

I have very high libido in general so me having sex it’s not a question of “if I want”. Because I kinda always want :))

So the question is when I should. The man should treat me in a special way, should make me happy and be super clear about his intentions. And of course to not push. If I refuse and the man is pushing- it’s a huge turn off for me.

What I wanna know is on which date I could start considering having sex with him if he fits all my criteria. When it’s not too early?

[Ecaterina G]

Thank you for the message, dear Heidi.

How i met him? He lives right near by my hotel 🙂

The first kiss really was sexual and involved a bit of touching. Not under clothes of course

Anyways, today we had the second date: we went to a lake and he brought his best friend. Of course Asked me before, I said I have no problem to meet your friends.

We spent a lot of time together the day before yesterday, and a lot of time today. He put his friend back home and then brought me home. The goodbye kiss of today was simple, sweet and just connective. As our “hello” kiss of today.

No indecent offers from his side. He was nice and respectful. Yesterday we didn’t meet but we did chat through text messages.

How long you think I should keep kissing him until moving to the next step?

Thank you

[Ecaterina G]

I have an update. While this guy isn’t sure about how what he wants I decided to not stop meeting other people and met a guy who is absolutely my taste as a personality and also physically. So this guy does know what he wants. I just want to ask something…
Just seen a video on social media where a girl is saying that the kiss on the first date is a red flag and it’s something what shouldn’t happen. How accurate is it?
I had a nice dinner with this guy and we also drove a lot through the city. Had a lot of fun and laughter. I find him interesting, interested and serious. To the end of date I thought that it would be nice to have a kiss.. I really wanted it. And then he kissed me. And then I see this video about red flags. So, just curious. Thank you!

• This reply was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by Ecaterina G.

[Ecaterina G]

Hello! The recovery from chemo is difficult. And monday is next chemo. Thank you for asking. Yes he contacted me first. We speak almost daily. Now he is abroad, visiting parents. Will come in September. But I’m not so interested anymore as he isn’t showing me that he is interested. Yes he does give me complements what what he gives me doesn’t meet my needs

[Ecaterina G]

I get tomorrow my first chemo. And I’m very excited about it. No more surgeries. Thank you for asking about my health. Actually I need in my life only people who care. This guy if he cares – He will show up. And I’ll keep him. Otherwise 👋. It might sound arrogant but I’m the most important person for myself.

[Ecaterina G]

Hi Ladies!

Thank you for your advices. You know.. I thought quiet more about and decided I’m not gonna do it. He knows I’m here for him if anything, for whatever he wants to speak. I’m not sending one more message. He knows for sure i have now not easy times and he can contact me as well to check up on how I feel. Meanwhile, I’ll go on other dates whenever I feel normal, to see other people.

Actually it’s an honor to be with me because I’m a good person. I’m nice, polite, kind and trustworthy. If he wants to be around- he got enough signs to understand he can. If he will continue doing nothing – he is not the right guy. I do like him a lot. But I’m not going to get it from him unless he wants by himself to be around without me manipulating or asking every time. Because if right now I ask him to meet he will 100% not refuse me. But he is a man so the idea that I need to do all the work and all the effort – isn’t okay for me. No drama 🙂 if he doesn’t reach out, okay. I’ll not send him this text to say that “I hope you contact me when you feel”. No I don’t hope. It’s actually ha change and he can use it or not. If he doesn’t like me enough for that – no problem boy, you are free

[Ecaterina G]

And regarding myself- thank you very much for your support! It’s so nice of you

[Ecaterina G]

Hello, dear Spyce. It’s not really a drama for me. And if let’s say he is not into me- that is not about me. That’s absolutely fine 🙂 I just want to understand how should I react from now on. If I understand for myself that he is not really interested – for me it’s enough to move on.

I always prefer to know, rather that to guess

I told him I’m here and I support him. Our last meeting was my idea. Obviously he should make next step. If he makes good. If no – buy) the question is how much I should wait for him to reach out before cutting him off, if we take under consideration his loss and very sad circumstances?

[Ecaterina G]

Yes I had my surgery and a lot of unpleasant procedures. Thank you for asking! I’m waiting for Monday. I’ll have in the morning one more surgery and in the noon my chemo. I feel okay about that because I have very good doctor and I really trust her.

This guy went abroad for funeral. Actually, I don’t know if my messages would comfort him and will make him annoyed. I mean.. some people in this kind of moments need to be left alone maybe.. not really sure how should I act in this situation. Of course for me is not a problem to text him some nice supportive messages

• This reply was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by Ecaterina G.

[Ecaterina G]

I understand of course that maybe he doesn’t reach out this 2 days because of his loss. It’s absolutely normal. He can have his time. I think I showed him I’m interested. It’s obviously his turn

[Ecaterina G]

how the girls end up throwing themselves at them, trying to catch their attention
Well that’s not me 😅 anymore. Maybe you remember I had a subject with a man who gave mixed signals and I was going crazy dreaming about him crying.. thinking. and at the end he called suddenly on my birthday and insulted me? So I understood I was never an issue. I’m thankful to that guy that he showed me he is not the right guy for me. He is actually not right for anyone but that’s not my problem anymore.

This new guy I really like him. But if he wants to move things slow, here the key-word is “move”. It’s his turn to reach out and ask for a meeting. Would be wrong if it would be only me. What do you think about it?

I really would like to try a relationship with him. Cause I like start catching feelings. But I wanna see what is in his mind..
Monday is my first chemotherapy. He knows. Normally I expect him to reach out first and ask me how am i.

Yes.. I’d say we are flirting. But not too much. He flirts more with eyes, smiles, saying that he cares.. but again I don’t know if “cares” as a friend or as a potential partner.

I actually don’t even know how to behave with him :)) dating is too hard 🤣

[Ecaterina G]

You KNOW the truth when everything is okay. The real test is when everything is NOT okay.
That is so accurate! When everything is fine I feel strong and confident. When I am attached and the guy starts to pull away – everything turns upside down

So you have high self-esteem AND you have low self-esteem.
It makes sense! I never thought that you really can have both. When My child is rejecting me I react normal. I understand he is the child and he just learn how to live and how to deal with emotions and feelings so in this kind of situations I don’t feel bad about myself or about him.

[Ecaterina G]

Today i got result. Unfortunately i have cancer. hodgkin lymphoma. I need the hematologist to check what kind of chimiotherapy my organism can bare. but because here is Easter and no one is working, I have to wait 1 week

[Ecaterina G]

For now i read it like a fairytale. Like it’s a nice story not about me. I like it but I don’t feel it’s about me. If I repeat it every day there is a chance that it will change ?

Regarding your mantras that sounds good.

Except this part : I am loveable even if he doesn’t choose me
I am enough even if he doesn’t think so

This is not needed because honestly it amused me. And I even wondered why did I think like that one month ago.. there is no man to confirm on in urn that I am lovable. There is no man that I wish to choose me. If a man didn’t choose me I am not considering choosing him. One man doesn’t like me? Ok I don’t waste time , there are hundreds men that likes me. I will choose someone from them.
No man can decide if I am good enough or not. Men are human as I am they can like or not as I can. They can’t define my value. If some of them think they can – means this man needs a psychotherapist.

Regarding mom is not so easy.. every her word of criticism make me angry. Very angry. I am yelling and going crazy from every negative thing I hear from her. Every time.

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