[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi,

Yes of course i’m happy he is showing interest and take initiative about seeing me. It’s just the way he did it that i didn’t liked much.
The thing is he just said “join me;)” but he knew i was busy at that time and i don’t know where i was supposed to join him but i felt like it was at his place so he wasn’t making much effort to see me, and also it wasn’t what we planned at first (the pizza thing).
And when i told him on sunday i came back pretty late from my friend’s place on saturday evening he didn’t answered at all and just sent me a message monday evening telling me that he had a hard day, he was cooking fish and asking how was my day. I was at pole class so i answered pretty late and he didn’t payed attention to my day itself but just the fact i was at pole class and asking for video. After we exchanged some messages, i even told him the message you suggested about the pizza but nothing happened. Even “worst”, yesterday he sent me a message during the evening telling me he was pretty tired of his day and was having pizza and going to sleep…Of course i see he is taking some news and keep the connection but at same time, i don’t know, the pizza thing after i told him i was waiting for him to have one and the fact he said he was having one i was kind of frustrated…I don’t think we will manage to meet before i go to ski this saturday, but let see !

And for the other guy, i don’t think much of him anymore, except when i am posting stuff on facebook and he is liking them. I am still wondering sometime the purpose do to so but as he isn’t giving any news, i am over him and i don’t pay much attention to him anymore.

Thanks again 🙂

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi
Thanks for your message.
In fact i got some news from him yesterday evening. He sent me out a 1st message saying « hello you!:) » then i replied inwas out with some friends and he just replied « join me 😉 » but i was with my friend and i didn’t really appreciate his « invite » as i was with my friend…i just replied this morning that i stayed with them until 4am so it wasn’t possible 🙂
Let see what happen next !
Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya 🙂

Yes i do love the snow and lanscape while everythingg is white but in Paris it’s quickly a big mess 😅😅
Nevermind i liked it a lot i shoot some pics at my place because i was stuck there during daytime …fortunately i managed to go to my pole dance class in The evening 😇😇

And yes ok i will let him ask in that case 🙂 it’s just that i don’t have that much free time so i hope we can find a common day while he will do it 🙂 otherwise it will be after my holidays lol

And of course i will let you know ! 🙂

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya

Thanks 🙂
And yes of course, as i said i am not planning anything much about P just i like what i know about him now which encourage me to meet him (it was more what i meant with my last message).
We are supposed to meet yes, he said he will invite me to a pizza but we just didn’t fix the day yet as I was travelling and he got sick by the time i came back. Also, this week it’s snowing in Paris…And it kind of stop everything because transportation are really and issue but let see how the weather go during this weekend maybe we will have a chance to catch up in real 🙂 i don’t really know if i am supposed to suggest the day or if i am supposed to wait for him to propose…

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi

Thanks for your kind words and your confirmation that i was (and i am still) in the good direction. I know he is nothing like what i want right now and i don’t want to look for excuses about his behavior so i am living my life. i just know he will come back when it will be “too late” as the other lol but nevermind 🙂

I have started to talk to a guy (P) i “met” (on an application where i had a trial version) 1 or 2 week before i travelled to Sevilla (and i was still wondering what to do or not with B). He is pretty nice as of now and he is taking some news even when i was in Sevilla (maybe not every day yet but we didn’t met yet in person) and he said that he wanted to meet me before i go to ski (next to next week) and Venise (by the end of feb). At first he was saying we were a bit far from each other but as we talked he said that distance wasn’t an issue anymore (when he said that at first i said, ok i don’t mind, good luck whith your “research” but he didn’t stopped talking to me)…He seems to be, for now, filling some of my checklist (i don’t know him enough yet) but we do have some stuff in common, the funniest part is that he is working in the opposite side of my work (making him some kind of rival but not on the same sector) and we made joke about it, he is fun, smart, we flirt a little but we never spoke directly about sexe which is great ! he is also good looking from what i saw and he is taking care of himself, he likes to travel, do sports, he has a good job and he seems to know what he wants which is already a good thing !! Also his mother is polish and my ancestor were part polish aswell and i am dying to go there lol

Once he was “mean” to me (just as a joke) and i said that he needed to do something to be forgiven, he answered yes what, i said be creative and he answered that he could invite me to “La tour d’argent” (pretty famous french restaurant in Paris in front of the Eiffel tower), i said that i was pretty impressed even if i wasn’t asking that much so he replied ok let’s go to “la tour d’argent” when we will get married, until then, maybe a pizza would be ok. I like the fact (even if it was a joke) that sometime he “plans” a little in the future. He did other allusion about that during other conversation, regarding the fact that we could live together and all. I don’t take it too seriously (don’t be afraid i am not totally crazy lol) but as i said it’s just the fact that he could be able to imagine that which make it nice. And especially that even if we didn’t met yet he keeps the connection and he is paying attention to what i do or like. I guess the fact that i am pretty busy can help to make him see that he wouldn’t get annoyed if we were dating.

So let see 🙂 Will of course keep you updated.

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya,

Thanks for your answer.

In fact I didn’t do much except stop thinking of him and setting my mind as “there is nothing between us”. But as she was thinking there could be something it made me think again (not that much to be honest, only yesterday evening after the conversation), it’s her cousin afterall so she could have think this because she knows him better than i Am. But from what i understood they are not that close so, she seems just to have jumped on the fact we were “talking a lot” as a sign.

I don’t think i have a tool but maybe getting myself pretty busy and enjoying my life helped me not to think of him or my love life at all. But i get the feeling that i am just fleeing from my thought while keeping myself busy and that i am not really controlling my thinking if just a little conversation make it come back in my mind.

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hello
I am back in the cold weather of Paris 😅😅
I spoke to my friend today and while she was taking some news about my lovelife. And of course she asked if there was something between me and her cousin as we were talking a lot…i told her no because he seems not to be agreed with himself sending mixed signal so there was nothing. She said « oh ok i see…aaaah les S(last name) sacred him (it’s a french expression don’t know how to translate lol) »
Nevermind, even her seems to don’t understand her cousin. I don’t think she will talk to him about that or ask him anything lol
Too bad she woked up quickly my thoughts about him…

[Emilie S]

Hehe thanks much 🙂
I will for sure !

[Emilie S]

Yeaaah i am from Paris in fact so i am living there 😉
Sevilla was amazing even if really tiring as i went there for kickoff and workshop but finally got time today to visit a bit and it’s beautiful 🙂
I am proud to be honest, earlier instead of being lost i would have been devastated lol now i am just…letting things go 🙂
Thank you all the team 🙂

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi
Thabks for your answer 🙂
As you said i think that’s probably the best for me right now.
Will keep you updated with my mindset but for now (i am going back to Paris tomorrow evening so…) i am feeling pretty good and i din’t think of him 🙂

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi

Thanks for your question. I was considering it on my own aswell. I still like him as a person the same way i did first time i met him and we were not free at this time, as communication was pretry easy and i wasn’t thinking at all avout what to say,when and how even if i felt a kind of attraction between us but i was not available at the moment so i knew nothing would happen on my side and i get to know later on that it was finally the same for him.
And i guess when we start to discuss again i wasn’t thinking anything and i was just discussing flirting and making fun without any further thought until i start to consider his mixed message and i became lost both because i didn’t even knew myself what i was doing and searching anf because of his behavior.
Regarding your question i still like him but at the same time i « don’t want to lose my time and energy » for what i get in return as you said. (By the way i read his message and didn’t reply, finally his message wasb’t waiting an answer as far as i am concerned.)
So no i don’t think i am into this scheme of i want what i can’t have. I am just feeling this attraction for him but i am, i think gonna forget him as i did last time after the birthday party as nothing seems to come out and i am not gonna chase him. I know what i worth and if he can’t see it or doesn’t want to make a move i am not gonna push hard for this.
Maybe i few weeks i will drop a message (like the one you suggest earlier) or maybe not i didn’t make up my mind right now (i am in sevilla enjoying good time so not thinking about him at all except right now).
Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi again

I replied to him this morning with the joke i told you about and of course he read the message not long time after but just replied in the evening. I read his message and i didn’t reply back. His message was « oh driving queen !! From the back furthermore 😁 Be careful !! » which i guess was a bit « flirty »…

I think i am now lost with him and his behavior lol

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya
Yes i didn’t reply yet 🙂
Was thinking i was busy afterall so i didn’t wanted to answer in between 2 activities. Will do it tomorrow or so with the « fun fact » 🙂
Thanks again

• This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by Emilie S.

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi,

Thanks for your answer 🙂

He finally reply this morning so maybe i just overreact yesterday…I am feeling like he is putting some distance or so…or he was just busy at that time.

His message was “Hey! Doing good, 2 sessions for the moment, physiotherapy makes me feel good, I recover little by little. How are you?”
I didn’t replied yet, as i was at my grandpa birthday…Wanted to say something related to a past discussion, He had told me that he was driving in spite of his lap, and that I had to be careful not to brake too fast if I found myself in front of him because it was his bad leg, so he could hit me from behind. As the bday was taking place not far from his place I wanted to say to him, “I looked in my rear mirror in the case when passing in his city not to be hit ;)” Or something fun who could be a bit flirty but don’t know how to turn it lol

Otherwise i would have been agree with your message but i think it’s not really relevant at that point ? What do you think ?

Thanks

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi
I have finally decided to send him a message this evening asking for some news about his knee and if he started to see the kine for his recovery… just as a friend.
I saw he read the message once again and didn’t reply and get connected multiple time since then. I guess i now have my answer, he is clearly ignoring me since the « smile message », which mean i should just stop think about him and a possible relationship with him. he seems not to care at all which makes me feel like he is not giving me any respect by acting like that…
What do you think ? Is it just me ?

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