[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi,

By “the other guy” do you mean the “shy one” ? lol If so, no I don’t ….

For this guy yes let see. He called me again for more than an hour yesterday evening, asking me at one point he could call me back as he has to go for his laundry and brush his teeth lol And then he called again…He also asked me to call him tonight, I made fun of him because just before asking me, he was talking gently and nicely and while he told me to call it was like a “command” so I just made fun of him and he laugh aswell.
I like what you suggested but not “3 months” lol it’s too much 😉
For the dinner place he didn’t disclose the address yet lol so I don’t know but I’ll keep you posted. At first I think he told me he wanted to cook for me but not too sure if it’s still the plan or not…

Have a good day,

Em

[Emilie S]

Haha good to know that we are on the same page 😉

It was a good practice but at the same time it’s pretty weird. Because if I don’t feel that there is sexual attraction I am feeling that it won’t match much…But of course I do like to have what I want, but to be honest I am never the one making the first move. Of course I can show interest, flirt, play but I’ve never be the one initiating kissing or sexe. I’m shy, believe it or not lol
And yes it’s good not to have sexual advances from the beginning but at least I need to see the interest in it.

I am discussing with a guy, we spent lot of time over the phone (something like more than 5 hours in a week lol) and he proposed to meet this Friday but I told him I wasn’t available (I am but I am too tired lol and I have to wake up pretty early on Saturday so wasn’t feeling like having a date). So he said ok let’s meet on Saturday and we can go for dinner like that. Let see. I know that just because of the discussion we had, we have a good contact but I also know he is already interested in sexe with me and so do I. But I’ve been clear with him that I didn’t wanted sexfriend or just sexe and he said that so does he…But I am pretty sure he will make a move on this…I just don’t know how I’ll handle it in a nice way lol

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi,

Yes that’s what I thought aswell that he wasn’t making any move or putting any energy in this. To be honest I don’t feel much about it. I was just thinking “what’s the point of sending this message if it’s not to make any move” but it’s ok. I guess I made up my mind that nothing would happen with him. And I also think that deep in my mind the fact that he wasn’t making a move or doing anything shows me that he isn’t the kind of guy I am looking for. I need someone who can “handle me” so who is “stronger than me”. don’t know if it’s clear as it’s always a bit complicated to translate lol

Have a good day 😉

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi ladies,

Just to let you know I finally got a text from him on Friday evening just saying “hi, how are you”. I replied on Saturday as I was busy on Friday at my sister’s birthday. I just said I was ok and I wished him good luck for his tournament but he replied that it has been cancelled. We didn’t exchanged much (I had a pretty busy weekend) and no sign of flirting or anything. It was cold…and since Saturday no news again.

Em

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi,

Thanks for your answer. Yes I am not sure that something changed but it just seems to. I am definitely “waiting” to see what’s gonna happen next (I put “” because I am not waiting after him, if I have an opportunity to meet other guys I will).

I don’t know when he is coming back, he might be back already…he didn’t told me. I know that he will be in Paris during the weekend as he has a badminton tournament.

Have a good day

Em

[Emilie S]

Hello ladies,

Just a quick updates, in fact nothing happen since 4 days lol
But just wanted to let you know that I don’t have any news from him since he left for his holidays, I guess something changed in our “relationship” as he used to send messages everyday but it’s ok I am not feeling bad about it. Just find it strange but that’s ok.

Will keep you updated if anything happen of course 🙂

Have a good day

Em

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya
That’s what i was thinking about the face expression and body language that i couldn’t see via messages lol
Not much updates so far, yesterday i sent him out a message just to know if he was ok and if had time to finish his work before holidays. He answered that not much as he has to work over the weekend and that he will go to his family starting monday. He asked how i was and said that he hoped i would be able to rest over the weekend (i had a pretty busy week).
So not much news..
Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi
Thanks for your answer.
I didn’t get news from him since wednesfay evening (while he replied to my text telling him enjoy your holidays to come). I know he is pretty busy at work before his holidays and he wants to close some stuff he even told me he will have to work over the weekend. Also thursday evening is his sports day. So i am not really surprised about this it already happens.
I am just waiting for him now and not sending message, but i can say that i am missing our exchange and fun.
I was thinking about discussing and asking him during dinner (if i wouldn’t have seen a move from him to be honest) but as he postponed it i have to wait. I don’t think asking by message would be a great idea, especially while i have « no news ».
Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya

I am considering the fact that i will pull back yes. In fact i am doing it in a natural way as i am frustrated i am clearly not gonna make any move now…the ball is in his hand, if he wants to meet again he will send a message and propose a date but i am not the one who will do it.
And i wasn’t considering to meet any other guy because i don’t like much to play like that but i am now thinking i should as he isn’t showing « that much interest »…
Let see !

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi,

Thanks for your answer. I got what you mean, I am not telling that much story to myself except that I am loosing patience…Especially because he also cancelled the dinner and just said “another time” without proposing a date which just look like it’s not gonna happen.
For your other guesses, if he is once again not available emotionally I don’t want to waste my time again that just it.
What’s upsetting me is just that what he says and does are not align and I can’t even really be myself because he is shutting me down, so it’s just frustrating.

You need the facts and information that come directly from his own mouth for you to understand what he really feels for you and what is going on for him. << yes but apparently he doesn’t want to share anything and seems to just walk away.

To answer your question, yes I do like him (even if I am wondering right now if it’s still the case), he is nice, respectful, he is fun so I do like his personality. I do like to speak with him, he is interesting, he loves to travel as I do, so our interaction are really cool and I learn some stuff with him. I like that. Only thing is that we don’t share that much personal stuff about our past, but it’s not really an issue as you need trust the people in front of you to share like that and create bond and all. I’m just thinking it’s taking time so not bothering me.
I could think about a longterm relationship with him, but need to know him more which is complicated without sharing personal history.

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi ladies,

Me again, just a quick update, today I’ve decided to stop acting like a kid and sent him a message just to say hi and all. As he replied speaking about his weekend, I told him that he didn’t confirm about Friday dinner. In the end he told me it wouldn’t work for him this Friday as he was pretty busy before his holidays but we could make it another time. He thanked me for the invite that was pretty nice.
I just replied ok good luck for your work and enjoy your holidays to come. I think in the end he isn’t interested by a relationship.

Have a good day,

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi

Thanks for your answer 🙂

To be honest i am starting to be a bit lost about the chemistry or not as his actions while me meet are not reflecting his messages…yesterday i tried again to flirt with him by message but he isn’t playing much and to be honest yesterday evening i was pretty upset about it and it will end like i am gonna freeze like an iceberg…it started well he told me he was finally relaxing after sports and dinner and that he was laying on t’his couch in front of tv. So i just said oh hug in front of tv 🥰 and he was like « yesssssss 😁” so i was thinking ok good maybe we can have little fun…and then i asked what he was watching and made fun of him because he told me he was sometime watching tv reality show (kind of stupid show like kardashian’s ones but worst lol) and i said ok i warn you no way we hug in front of this kind of show so he just laugh a lot. In france we have an expression saying « man who laughs half in bed » (in fact it’s more often about girls but …) so i decided to play on it and say « be careful you are laughing and you know what we say…man who laughs… » and he answered just « …well i am in my bed 😂 » to be honest that shut me down totally…i was waiting for him to play and nothing came. I just said « yeah probably » and shut down my messages…this morning he sent me a kiss message and i didn’t answer…i am ok to wait and all if only i could have sign of something happening but i am under the impression that i am back to teenage period…so i am confused today…
We met already 5 times so din’er at home would be the 6th ones…not to sure yet of what i am gonna cook but might salmon with ratatouille and quinoa and a chocolate cake as desert as he loves that.

Will keep you posted he didn’t confirm the day for the dinner…

Cheers

Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya,
Thanks for your answer !
Yes he is definitely a slow mover…And I am thinking that the more he waits the more he could feel pressured by initiating…Don’t know if it’s clear or not but I am myself under the impression that the more you get to know someone and you are attracted to this person the more you could feel pressure about “The kiss” if it’s not good in the end or if you don’t feel the chemistry or so …and that could even make him move even slower lol
But yes I am definitely keep on trying to do skin and touch contacts…Let see !
He is always enthusiast when it’s related to food lol he is a food lover !! but at least he didn’t seem afraid that it would be at my place lol which I take as a good sign …
Yesterday I met one of my friend and we start to make fun of this, because she also met a guy and he is definitely not a slow mover so we were comparing and making fun of them…Naughty girls lol we really had good fun and laughs while discussing this…But as I told her for once I seem to be more confident than before because I am not really questioning or thinking about it too much and just letting thing go 🙂

Have a good day !
Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Kanya
Thanks for your answer !
Don’t know if he is coming out of his shell or not 🤷‍♀️
Yesterday he was pretty much in a rush so i guess he didn’t do anything because we only went for movie and also i ran a bit late so i just reach the theatre on time 😅😅
By message he is flirting and teasing but in real life not much.
When i met him yesterday and we said hi by kissing cheeks i put my hand on his chest, he didn’t moved back but didn’t do much about it. He never took my hand or touched me while walking. I don’t remember him initiating any physical contact.
He never said by himself that he was shy, that’s just something i feel while i see the way he looks at me sometime when i am not supposed to see him. Also because sometime i am telling stuff about i noticed from him and everytime he is saying « until i am not frightening you » so it’s just what i think but i am not sure about it. He never spoke about his past relationship and i didn’t ask…i have the feeling that it’s better if it comes from him. As far as i understood he loose his dad pretty young but not sure it’s related. He seems pretty close of his family and especially his mom as he is going to meet her for lunch every saturday. He is visiting his family during holidays aswell…
Hmm my feelings about all this, i don’t really know, sometimes i find it cute and sometimes i am « frustrated » (not really that but i can’t find another word).
I have asked him if he wanted to come over for dinner at my place this week. I am thinking maybe the fact that we are always in a public place avoid him from making the first move for now…his answer was pretty enthusiastic so let see ! 🙂
Emilie

[Emilie S]

Hi Heidi

Ok so i am back from my date. He offered me typical britania biscuit he bought for me during his holidays. That’s a nice attention from him ☺️ But he didn’t take the shot once again so nothing happened…he had to run after the movie for his nephew birthday…don’t know when we are gonna meet next…

Emilie

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