[Heidi G]

Hi Ana!

Wow! It usually is not that easy! lol. I’m so glad you were able to connect into the truth about the situation. I just want to warn you….don’t be surprised if you get drawn back into him and wanting him back. It can be a super rollercoaster ride when trying to separate from someone you thought was “the one.” Maybe you won’t go through that, but if you do….don’t be surprised. It’s a process to let go of a dream you created around someone.

So now that you have connected more to yourself, tell us more about how you feel about yourself? You abandoned yourself so you could connect with this guy. Is this a pattern of yours?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Sharon!

Great to hear from you again! I’m so glad to hear that you are connecting deeper with yourself. It sounds like you found a good “happy spot” when he returned from Dubai. Well done with you sticking to your plans and not re-arranging your life for him!!!

As far as that group, they can be sooooo helpful! It’s much more than people sharing their feelings. What happens with groups is people admitting to their struggles, having support for those struggles, being validated and seen AND being held accountable. In groups, you don’t really get to hide (if your committed to participating). You allow people to see you and your deepest struggles while everyone else is doing the same. It can be really powerful if the group leader is a good one and group feels like a good fit. I would suggest to give it a shot for at least 2 months. Get past all of your resistance and go. Sometimes that resistance is a way to sabotage your growth. If you give it a good run and still feel it’s pointless and not doing much for you, then you can maybe find another group that feels like a better fit or try a different direction.

My guess is, the polyamory thing might have scared him a bit. Even though you aren’t pushing his boundaries and respecting whatever it is that he wants, he still has to deal with the idea that you are someone that is comfortable for that. It’s tough for a guy to imagine the women he is with, having sex with anyone but him. Since a sex party is something you are comfortable with and he isn’t, he is going to have judgements about that…towards himself and towards you about what that means. Then you invited him to a pool party with people from that circle. Even thought it wasn’t a sex party, there is still going to be that vibe. I personally would not have wanted to go either, being that I would know that most of the people there have had sex with each other, which means there is a unique underlying bond between the people, there could be people that would be looking at me and thinking that I might be a new “prospect”, it’s a pool party which means people with a polyamorous viewpoint are walking around half naked which makes the sexual energy higher AND I would also wonder (if I were your date) how many of these people you had slept with already (not so fun for a guy to be meeting a bunch of people his girl has been with). It’s not like going to just any ol’ party. So, I’m guessing he might have had some of those types of feelings and didn’t want to own up to it. He needed to be honest with you. Can you understand that despite the invitation saying it was not a sex party, how he still might be uncomfortable and feel like it still might be too sexual for him?

Did he apologize for bailing on lunch with you???

It sounds like he is really pulling away. How do you feel about just being very direct and saying “Listen, I don’t know what has happened. We are no longer connecting and it’s obvious something has changed for you. Are you willing to just have a conversation about it and clear the air? Let’s both just be upfront and get back on the same page, whether it’s together or it’s time to create an ending.”

How does that make you feel?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Renee,

Oh I’m so sorry! Of course this hurts like hell. You guy are living in a gray zone where there is very little understanding about what is happening and no clarity about the exact direction you are heading in with each other.

First and foremost, you need to deal with the hurt by facing it inside of yourself.

The babysitter doesn’t matter at this point. You are giving her quite a bit of power by asking him about her several times. Complete honesty from him is not the kind of relationship you have with each other right now. You are not a couple. You guys are technically friends…but obviously the emotions run much deeper than that. I think it would be a good idea to set some boundaries. He is right when he put boundaries up and not wanting to talk about the babysitter or whether he is dating or not. That is not a topic that is up for discussion UNLESS there is a clear agreement about you guys staying committed to each other while working through this stuff. Right now, that is a choice you are making and sounds like he is making, but that’s all it is….is a choice…it is not a commitment.

I know it hurts. I don’t know what is going on for him right now, but what needs to be dealt with is your hurt and confusion. You are investing ALL of your energy into this relationship and I think what just happened is that you got a big reality check. You got caught up in the fantasy of how things could be and lost track of how things really are. Your dream just got shattered and that’s why it hurts so much.

Once you deal with the hurt of all of this, THEN you can decide what is best for you. Your therapist can definitely do some EMDR to help you through this and create some clarity.

Thoughts?

Heidi

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[Heidi G]

Hi Ana,

I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I know how hard it is to feel rejected and not valuable. It’s awful! We are glad you are here and sharing your challenges with us.

First, I want to reflect back to you what you are saying:

You were with someone who you felt like was “the one” and then became distant, uninterested and is ignoring you. I’m curious, what makes you feel like he is “the one” for you, considering how you feel around him?

The only thing you are responsible for in all of this, is you are abandoning YOURSELF. You felt ignored and not connected and you chose to go on Tinder instead of using your voice and working through it with him. You are still choosing to stay connected to a guy who is not forgiving and behaving like a child by ignoring you instead of talking with you like an adult. All you are focused on is what you did wrong and that you want to get him back. Are you sure you want a guy like that back in your life? Are you sure you want to keep fighting for a relationship where you felt ignored and distant from him??

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Amanda,

Thank you for sharing all those details! We are glad you are here. It’s a GREAT question you are asking.

First, if you understand that people around you are a reflection for you, you will understand that you are attracting a certain kind of person to help you on your path of growth.

Here is an analogy….imagine we are all born as big, bright, sparkly diamonds. We each are different sizes and shapes. Then life starts to happen and hurt and abandonment and neglect and rejection all start to show up in our lives. Those heavy emotions are like sticky tar that gets thrown onto our diamond. The kind of environment we grew up in will determine how much tar a person gets on their diamond. Then we enter adulthood and finally have the ability to create our own lives and environment….EXCEPT, we are creating our world with a bunch of tar stuck to our diamonds. That tar represents all of the hurts and emotional wounds that have never been dealt with. That tar mostly lives in the subconscious and people typically are not aware of how much that tar is influencing the decisions they make in their lives and the people they attract. Soooooo…..the only difference between you and me and the next person, is how much tar we are carrying around. When we pick certain people to be our friends / romantic partners, we will attract people that have somewhere around the same amount of tar that we have. This is where the saying “Like attracts like” applies. It doesn’t mean you have the same issues. It means you both are carrying around a similar amount of hurt and pain from the past. And we also tend to attract the people that reflect our own issues. So a victim of abuse will attract an abuser, an addict will attract someone who has a VERY HIGH need to rescue, a narcissist will attract a co-dependent…..so this is where the “opposites attract” saying comes in.

Does this make sense?? There is A LOT to say about your question with many, many layers to it, so I’ll stop with this and see if this makes sense.

To summarize, you have some unresolved wounds, pain etc. that you are not connected to. When you dig in deep and face whatever it is that hasn’t been dealt with emotionally, it will change everything about you. Your diamond will start to show through more and you will attract a different kind of man AND you will be attracted to a different kind of man. Being that most of the tar is subconscious and people aren’t aware of it, the way we know SOMETHING is there, is by looking at symptoms and patterns in our lives. Those are the clues that something is happening deeper inside that is influencing how and what is happening in our lives.

Hopefully I’m not confusing you too much!

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Heng,

You can do try this whenever you feel like you are able to stick to what you are saying you are going to do. So that means, when you say it, you CANNOT contact him anymore. If you go back on your word, whatever respect he does have for you will go away. Men need to know that a woman is her word and she does what she says she is going to do. If you keep contacting him after telling him you won’t anymore, then he won’t believe anything you say.

My guess is, right now he doesn’t have much respect for you. He can do whatever he wants, he can communicate with you with just emojis and barely any words and he knows that at any time he wants, he can show up at your doorstep and you will welcome him with open arms. That means he doesn’t have much respect for you because you are allowing him to treat you this way. He is not available for you, but you keep holding onto something that doesn’t exist anymore. Men do not respect that. A man wants a woman who has standards and expects him to treat her like she is the best thing that ever happened in his life. A man wants a woman that can hold him accountable to how he behaves in the relationship. A man wants a woman who says what she really means and does what she says she is going to do.

This is where I want to guide you towards really looking inside yourself. You are allowing yourself to be ignored. You are chasing a guy who doesn’t have feelings for you. Any person who chases after someone who doesn’t have the same feelings, has to really question what they are doing. This tells me you don’t have a lot of love for YOURSELF if you keep holding onto a guy who doesn’t have feelings for you and barely talks to you. Whatever this guy means to you, you don’t mean the same to him. So what is causing you to keep chasing him? He is giving you NO signals that he wants to be with you again or that there is any hope. How come you keep pursuing a guy who doesn’t have feelings for you anymore?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Heng,

Yes, superstars can fall in love AND many don’t. Sooooo many superstars end up “falling in love” but I would venture to guess that they have a harder time with it than most, because they are famous. They have thousands of people idealizing them, using them, having no clue who they really are therefore making all kinds assumptions about who they are. They may find someone who catches their attention and may even make an attempt at marriage, but rarely succeed. Their marriage is far from private and is very stressful. That’s why many superstars marry another superstar…because it’s the easiest way to deal with the incredible amount of stress it brings into life.
The divorce rate these days is over 50%. I would venture to guess in the superstar arena it would waaaay higher….closer to 70-80%.

Regardless, the techniques we talk about with hooking someone through text, there needs to be a relationship that exists. You don’t have a relationship with him. If he had any interest in having you in his life, when you stopped texting for 1 month, he would have initiated contact with you. He would have reached out. So far, from what you are saying, he is making zero effort to connect with you. There is no relationship or connection. It’s basically you making 100% of the effort, so there is no text you can send him to get him to get him to see you differently.

The truth is, you have no idea who this guy is. You don’t know what his silly, little habits are, you don’t know what he is afraid of in life, he could get verbally or physically abusive when he is angry enough….you don’t know him! So what you have done is built a fantasy about who he is in your mind and you have chosen to focus all of your attention on him and shut everyone else out. This is what happens to famous people all of the time. Only the people who are on the “inside” of their lives, truly know how human and messed up they are….the best and worst qualities about them.

If you really want to test this out though, then you can say something like this, “Hey. I just want to create closure, more for myself than anything. I won’t be contacting you anymore. I have been trying to get to know you but it’s just not a mutual feeling and that’s okay. I had a great time with you and have some fun memories, so thank you. I wish you all the best!”

See what he does with that. He will confirm what you said by either sending an another emoji or saying something to the effect of “thanks, I wish you all the best as well.” OR…if he doesn’t agree with what you are saying, he will do what he can to pull you back in and connect with you.

What do you think?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

I understand Tracy. Have you ever heard of the “twin flame?” Look it up!

I had an experience like yours in a breakup 10 years ago. It was the most intense pain I had ever felt in a breakup. I was so depressed, I cried all the time, I barely ate for a month. It was even a good breakup! It was healthy, necessary, respectful and kind. We remained friends (we worked together) and always treated each other really well. I believe he was my “twin flame” which is why separating from him was the most intense experience I have ever had…even to this day.
Whether or not he was TRULY my “twin flame” it was time to separate and I had to get through it. I wish twin flames were a guaranteed “love of your life” situation, but it just isn’t. Many times they don’t work actually. Understanding the depth of your connection however, can give you some peace as to why you are struggling so much.

It’s okay that you are having a hard time with this. It’s going to be a rollercoaster ride for a bit. You HAVE to feel whatever comes up and release it. Like I said, it’s important to LET THE FEELINGS OUT vs. bury them. It’s the only way to handle this in a healthy way. If you keep it all buried and just try to shut off all of the feelings, they just get buried. All of those buried feelings will definitely get in the way of your next relationship, even if it is him. So feel what you need to feel and talk about it, write about it, let it out and THEN keep telling yourself it’s over. Part of this is getting your brain to be re-programmed that it’s over. Your brain is very used to feeling and thinking a certain way with him. Studies have shown that breaking up from someone is like trying to get off cocaine, from the brain’s perspective. You have to re-train your brain to behave differently. So each time you see a picture of him when you close your eyes, you can say to yourself, “I release you. It’s over.” “I send you love and light. It’s over.” “I choose goodness into you. It’s over” You will have to say something like that a million times, but it’s what is necessary for you to start to get a grip and be able to function more.

You can also watch movies that are encouraging as well. It’s a good brain break and it also can give your heart some reprieve watching the main character survive and role model what will happen. “Under the Tuscan Sun” is one of my favorite breakup movies.

Be kind to yourself. Take baths, buy a bunch of flowers and put them around your house, go to a shelter or a pet store and interact with the animals, put on a pretty dress and do yourself up and go out, make yourself your favorite meal and light candles and put your very favorite movie on….BE GENTLE and COMPASSIONATE with yourself every step of the way! You can also bombard yourself with videos / podcasts etc. like the one below, where you are listening to someone who is encouraging you and makes you feel good.

Here is a video about trust: https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Guide-Women-Scientifically-Secrets/dp/1623361842/ref=asc_df_1623361842/?tag=bingshoppinga-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid={creative}&hvpos={adposition}&hvnetw=o&hvrand={random}&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=e&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl={devicemodel}&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=&hvtargid=pla-4583795260679117&psc=1

Your goal is to heal. It doesn’t mean it’s closing the door to the possibility of a future with him, but the reality is, RIGHT NOW, you are separated and that is what needs to be dealt with. If you guys ever do come back together, you will be healthier for it because you worked through all of the hurt and disappointment and you will have an inner strength that you didn’t have before…because you dealt with the pain and hurt. It’s developing the SKILL of being resilient….and that is a skill you will need for the rest of your life.

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Emily,

You could always give it more time to see how things play out. Or….if what I am saying makes sense and you see how it plays out in the relationship and you feel it’s really true, then I would suggest to move on, as he would be a very high maintenance relationship.

What do you think?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Heng,

I am so so sorry to say this, but I really want to suggest to let this go. You barely know each other. Falling “in love” takes an incredible amount of time spent together, it takes a lot building memories, it takes having arguments and working through them together, it takes a commitment. Whatever it is that you guys felt for each other, was built only through text messages and few dates. I’m sure the chemistry was strong, but for chemistry to shift deeper into the realm of love, it takes a lot more than a few dates and texts.

My guess is, he uses the word “love” pretty loosely. I know many guys who use that word easily, because it hooks the ladies. It gets the guy what they want…which is attention and sex.

Reality is, there is not way to get him to pay attention to you again if he isn’t even responding to you. You need to be able to see him in person, you need to be able to have personal interaction with him. To get a guy to “fall in love with you” when he never sees you….it wouldn’t be real love anyways. It would just be a fantasy.

I’m curious Heng….he is unresponsive to you. What is happening for you that you are chasing after a guy that is showing no interest. I know he used to show interest, but he isn’t anymore and hasn’t for awhile. What is preventing you from moving on? What is keeping you connected to a guy that is not emotionally available for you?

Are you dating at all? Have you opened the door to other possibilities yet?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Amanda,

Welcome! Thank you for sharing your story and giving such great examples of why you are struggling. It all makes perfect sense.

There is something to understand here when it comes to behaviors. One time is just one time….2x is a weak pattern….3x is a strong pattern. From the examples above, he is showing a strong pattern of HE IS NOT HIS WORD. He says one thing and does another. He makes plans, then breaks them, he says he got you a Christmas present that has never appeared and so on. Truth is, he is sabotaging all over the place. This has nothing to do with you!

My guess is, he is terrified and doesn’t quite know how terrified he really is. Somewhere around 80% of our decisions come from a subconscious place. So him breaking plans with you, not introducing you to his friends etc. is most likely coming from a place of fear that is deep rooted of which he has no idea is there and nor does he feel it. The way we discover there are issues like this are patterns in behavior. Those patterns tell us a story. Those patterns give us “clues” that something deeper is going on.

I’m wondering if he doesn’t like his family and maybe is embarrassed by them. Maybe he doesn’t want to expose you to them. I’m wondering if he has any friends. Do you know?

Regardless, here is reality of what you are dealing with. He will ALWAYS be like this until he faces whatever is happening on a deeper level. He has been hurt, he doesn’t trust and he won’t be vulnerable. He may be vulnerable with his words, be he isn’t vulnerable with his actions….therefore he isn’t vulnerable. He is sabotaging connection with you all over the place. I’m so sorry to say this, but he is emotionally unavailable and will continue to do all of these things until he is willing to admit and recognize his actions and decide he wants to change. That change means navigating down the rabbit hole to discover the root cause of his behaviors.

So here is your choice….you can stay and keep getting hurt. Your job is to accept that this is who he is. He is not going to change. He will forget your birthday sometimes, it may be a loooong while before you meet family and friends, you will continue to cancel plans with you. Accept it and keep forgiving him. You can say all you want how these things are hurtful for you, but he will keep giving you the same response of “I’m so sorry. I really do love you. I really do care about you, you really are my best friend, I really do want this.” Then he will cancel plans with you again, then he will forget something else that is important to you, then you will still not meet his friends and family. This is the cycle you will go through. You have already been through it. So it’s important for you to know that if you continue to choose to be with him, this is who he is. DO NOT ever be a man in hopes he will change. That means you are with him for his potential vs. really being with him for who he is. He deserves to be loved for exactly who is, not who he could be.

If this kind of design is not acceptable for you, then it’s time for you to separate. My guess is, you are not quite ready for that. You can always let him know how serious this is for you by upping your confrontation a bit.

You can say something like, “I love you. There are so many wonderful things about you. I am also at my wits end. There is a very strong pattern of choices that you make which sabotage our connection. You have a pattern of saying one thing and doing another. I’m finding that I actually not believing what you are saying anymore. You say you want this, but your actions tell me otherwise. You say I am your best friend, but many of your actions tell me otherwise. So I have a request. Are you willing to really look at this pattern and admit to it? Are you willing to really look inside and be honest with yourself about what is REALLY happening here? There is something in you, that isn’t fully investing in our relationship and that’s okay. It’s okay for me because we all have baggage we carry around. I know I have things too. If we are going to keep moving forward, we have to agree to look at these things that are affecting the relationship and work on them. If this is not something you want to do, I understand. I guess I need to know that about you and I have a decision to make.”

I would also suggest reading John Gottman’s “A Man’s Guide to Women” https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Guide-Women-Scientifically-Secrets/dp/1623361842/ref=asc_df_1623361842/?tag=bingshoppinga-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid={creative}&hvpos={adposition}&hvnetw=o&hvrand={random}&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=e&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl={devicemodel}&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=&hvtargid=pla-4583795260679117&psc=1

It’s on of my favorite books that help BOTH men and women understand what really needs to happen in a relationship. “Happy wife, happy life.” That statement has a lot of truth in it!

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Tracy,

I understand exactly how you feel and what you want. I understand you are hurting and having a really hard time right now. Give it some time. It’s a rollercoaster ride when dealing with the loss of someone you care deeply about. Let the hurt be there and work with it. One of the most painful breakups I had ever had, I used all kinds of ways to help myself get through the hurt. One of my favorite was having a digital recorder with me in my car and I would just talk and talk and talk into it as if I was talking to him. Some days I was missing him like crazy and told him that, some days I was soooo angry. Some days I would just tell him stories about what was happening in my life. It was incredibly helpful to get all of those emotions out, get my thoughts out, get the energy out of my heart and my mind and just say all of it, without filtering. It brought me more peace and ease as I navigated through the loss. You can journal, you can even just talk out loud to a picture you have of him. The point is to get the energy OUT of your mind and heart instead of keeping it stuck inside.

I have no doubt you have a lot of confidence and trust in yourself in many areas of your life. From what you have said, it sounds like in the area of relationship with this guy, you really struggled with that. Here are some of the things you have said:

“He has told me that he could feel me pushing him away.”
“I have been so wrapped up in the feeling of fear he would leave me just like everyone else. I pushed him away when he was communicating with me.”
“I feel like the fear is something of loss.”
“when it comes to me and a relationship my confidence relays to fear of being left alone. Which may be why I push and push things until they go sour. I don’t really know how to fix this other than looking at things more in a positive way.”

Wherever there is fear, there is a lack of confidence and self trust. Thinking positive can help you manage these feelings, but it doesn’t change the amount of fear or lack of self confidence that shows up. That’s why I was guiding you towards self trust. You will VERY EASILY fall back into an old pattern like this until you deal with the fear. You already were afraid of losing him, then he actually left and made your fear come true. If he comes back, that fear now is justified that he will leave you and you will be even more afraid of losing him, because it actually happened. Thinking positive is not strong enough to combat the fear. I know you SAY you are okay without him, but that is not how you are really feeling. If you REALLY TRULY knew that, the fear of losing him would not be there.

I understand you just want ways to get him back. We definitely want to help with that AND it’s important to also guide you towards ways to keep him when you do get him back. Otherwise, what’s the point of getting him back if you are just going to push him away again? That’s why it’s very important to connect to your fear, face it and work on your self love and confidence in the category of romantic love. When you shift to a healthier way of thinking and being, then any relationship with him or someone else will be much more sustainable.

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Tracy,

Thank you for sharing more of your story. It’s understandable that the trust was broken in your last relationship and it has carried through this experience as well.

First, I want to encourage you to be kind to yourself. You can only make decisions from the information that you have. The only way Kanya and I are able to know what we know about relationships, is because we both have messed up a lot of times and had to learn. Once we learned, then we shifted and implemented the new information. Pain and hurt is one of the best motivators for growth.

So you didn’t see everything before. You didn’t see how you were pushing him away. You didn’t see the efforts he was going to for you. That’s okay. YOU SEE NOW and that is the most important part. Losing him has helped you wake up and learn what you needed to learn. Otherwise, you would still be in your old patterns. So the loss of him has been a great gift for you. You are being the best version of yourself that you know how to be, with this knew knowledge and that is so great! You will be a much better partner this way!
So forgive yourself for not knowing. Whether he forgives you or not, you need to forgive yourself and no longer punish yourself for not knowing.

I want to talk about trust for a second. Your last relationship, he broke trust by not being there for you when you needed it. What if viewed trust a little differently. What if you kept the trust in yourself and didn’t give it away for someone else to take care of. What if you said, “I trust MYSELF that no matter what happens, no matter what he decides to do or not do, I will be okay. I trust MYSELF that when I get hurt or disappointed I know how to take care of myself. I am strong, I am resilient, I am capable to handle anything that crosses my path. I trust that about myself.” When you put the trust in yourself, it changes the fear. Your fear is about how someone else will respond to you. Reality is, there are no guarantees, even if you are married. People can change in a split second and you wouldn’t even see it coming. So putting trust in yourself that you will be okay, no matter what life brings into your path, means that you have the confidence that you can handle anything….which means your spirit can rest easier and stop worrying about how he will respond.

Does this make sense?

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Emily,

Thanks for being here and sharing you challenge with us! We are glad you are here.

Just a little more detail will be helpful.

1. How long have you known each other?
2. Are you dating?
3. How did you meet?

There are a couple of “caution flags” up with what you described. He sounds pretty insecure. He asks you a lot why you miss him and like him….that means he needs you to validate him quite a bit. He needs validation from you because he doesn’t like himself very much. My guess is, he doesn’t trust women much. Do you know anything about his past relationships? He most likely won’t answer in return because he does not feel safe to be vulnerable. HUGE caution flag there too.

He is showing signs of things that would be VERY difficult to handle in a serious relationship. I just want to point this out to you, so you are aware of what you are getting into. He does not sound like a guy who is emotionally available…which means it is an UPHILL battle for you to get him to be honest, vulnerable and authentic about his feelings about anything.
If he can’t even tell you how he feels about you, imagine trying to get him to be honest about other things in a relationship. Saying how he feels is really not that difficult to do in the grand scheme of what it means to be in relationship with someone.

Have you thought about any of this? I don’t want to discourage you….I just want you to be aware. Many time, in the beginning, people get caught up in the honeymoon feelings of things and miss the red flags. That’s all I want to point out here.

Once you give a little more detail about the questions above, we can better guide you as to what your next steps can be.

Heidi

[Heidi G]

Hi Heng,

I’m a little confused. You met this past December 2018? You kissed one time? But you said you guys were saying I love you to each other….so you dated each other?

My first suggestion is to stop contacting him. It’s one of the best ways to REALLY find out what he feels. If you stop texting, then you will see if he makes any effort to connect. If he doesn’t, then it’s time to move on and let him go.

Would you really be satisfied with a guy that only texts you once a month? Don’t you want a guy who is crazy about you and wants to make plans with you and loves talking to you? You deserve to be treated that way! You deserve to have a guy in your life who is excited about you! You deserve to have a guy in your life that WANTS to make plans with you because he likes being around you.

This guy doesn’t sound like he fits into that category. If a guy is interested, you will know it. Being famous, I’m sure he is used to a lot of ladies texting him ALL THE TIME. He really just might be that kind of guy who enjoys the moment. It doesn’t sound like he took his experiences with you very seriously. My guess is, he is not interested, considering that he never contacts you and when you do contact him, he responds with emoticons. The best way to find out though, is to stop contacting him and see what he does.

How often are you texting him??

Heidi

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