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Today, i’m overwhelmed by all the online businesses i signed up for and there’s so much to learn! 🙁 hahaha! I know, right??? It IS overwhelming! I was actually feeling that recently as well and I have been studying online business stuff for over 20 years! It NEVER stops! Why? Because people are always changing. There are ALWAYS new ways to do things, new technology, new apps, new forms, new new new new new!!! Uuuugggghhh! I totally get how you feel. Take 1 step at a time. Focus on 1 thing and complete it before splitting your energy into something else. At least that works for me. It’s easy for me to get lost, so I decide to focus on 1 thing and fully learn it, embrace it, experience it and give it my full attention before doing something else. Just a thought. Either way, the very best way to deal with overwhelm is to bring yourself back to the present moment and focus. I just say to myself “Right now Heidi, this is what you are going to do. You are going to finish this and then you will move onto the next thing.” Overwhelm comes up when we are looking at the BIG picture and we don’t know how we are going to get there. Being present in the moment alleviates that because it gets you into action, gets you focused, relaxes that anxiety because you are taking action, and mostly because you are taking the present moment (a piece of the big picture) and making THAT the big picture – then it becomes doable, right?
I love your thoughts about touch. When I talk with trees or nature, I am in receivership. I empty myself out and make myself a blank slate in my mind and feelings and I ask for the tree to share its energy with me…and then I see what happens. Every single tree is different! Every tree shares itself with me in different ways too. Sometimes I get thoughts that pop into my mind, sometimes I just feel something, sometimes I hear funny voices – I love playing with the trees. I imagine you would be incredible at communicating with the trees!
For me, distance is a great help in being able to ask for help. I get it. Distance equals safety. You did take a big risk working with the psychiatrist. I hope someday you will be willing to take that risk again. I would love for you to get to experience life with a lot less fear. It’s so much more peaceful and fun!
Heidi
I am not crazy, I know there is something there that needs to be looked into. Let’s talk about this! This is part of you learning how your subconscious leaks out – when you recognize it in yourself, you will recognize it when you are out on dates. And let me tell you…when you start to learn how to read the language of the subconscious, you will be able to recognize and see things about someone waaaaaay sooner than before they show up.
For example, I have a friend who is now going through a breakup because her boyfriend cheated on her. 2 years ago, I told her she was heading for a breakup. I told her all the red flags that I was seeing and noticing and she didn’t want anything to do with it, because she was so wrapped up in how she “felt” and she KNEW there were a lot of good things about him. Now, seeing a therapist, she is saying “How did I miss this? How did I not see these things???” Of course, inside my mind, I wanted to yell at her and say I told you all of these things but you didn’t want to listen!!! I cannot tell you how many times I have had these conversations with people who are feel fooled, who feel lost, who feel confused as to why they are in the situation they are in. Why??? Because they are poor pickers! That means they are picking purely from their emotions, the love cocktail of chemicals they get, and the connection they feel. That’s important, of course, but MORE importantly, is understanding the TYPE of person you are choosing. Are they able to support a long-term love? Do they have a healthy skillset to handle stress? Are they the type of person that is interested in growth? Do they build any kind of accountability into their lives? What lives in their subconscious? What fears run their life? What stories do they have about love? The answers to these questions will make or break a relationship – long term. So developing your skill set of learning how to read the subconscious, will save you a TON of time.
Your statement for example, “I’m not crazy” tells me somewhere along the way, you absorbed that word as part of a description of yourself. I didn’t say you were crazy and nor did I even have that thought – yet it was the very first word you defended yourself against. So that means you have a stronger relationship with that word. How? Why? What? I don’t know. All I know is that relationship is there and it’s for you to explore. If I were on a date with you, I would start asking questions around that and it would tell me how well you REALLY know yourself – or not. The less someone knows about themselves, the higher the odds for a breakup.
I have an INCREDIBLE coach that I work with. She works with people all over the world over the phone or video. I’m happy to share her information with you. You would just set up a time to have an intro conversation where you can get a feel about her approach and if you vibe with her. If you like her, you just book your first session. If you don’t, then you just move on. Let me know if this interests you!
Heidi
Hi Alexandra,
Welcome! Hopefully I am getting this to you in time, before you talk.
First and foremost, you want to focus on ONE thing in the conversation – making him feel safe, heard, and validated. He is being honest about how he is feeling and although it may not be true for you, it’s true for him – and that is the part you need to listen to.
The first step is to go into the conversation with what I call the reporter mindset. Imagine you need to write an article about HIS perspective of the relationship. As a reporter, you need A LOT of information. That means you need to be asking a lot of questions, with the energy of just wanting to understand what he is saying and NOT wanting to fix or change what he is saying (what most couples do to each in arguments). When he told you how he felt, you tried to explain yourself (very normal). What this actually does, in a very subtle way, is invalidate his experience. You are telling him, in a round about way, that what he is feeling isn’t true, because that is not how YOU feel. But what is you actually slowed down and made the conversation completely about him and started saying things like, “Oh wow. I am so glad you told me this! I had no idea you felt this way and I actually don’t feel this way at all. I wonder what I am doing that makes you feel that from me. Tell me more about this. Give me some examples of what I did or said that made you think this. I’m curious…what does it look like to you when know that I completely trust you?” Does this approach make sense? He has created a story in his mind about you and how you are feeling about him – and you don’t know what that story is. All you are doing is telling him that his story isn’t true. While that may be the case, it still doesn’t change that it’s there and it’s real FOR HIM – so it’s helpful you instead step into HIS story and understand why it’s there, how much of that story comes from you and your behaviors or from him and his insecurities, HOW did he come up with the story he did, and then finally…how can you guys change the story together?
This approach will help him feel listened to, validated, understood, and most of all safe. It can really calm down his need to run away. And maybe you can start the conversation by saying “Listen…I know you are considering breaking up – and although that is not at all what I want, I will always respect and trust that you know what is best for you. All I ask is that we both talk today with an open heart and that both really listen to each other. My deepest desire is to truly know and understand you. The more I understand you and what you are experiencing from me, the better partner I can be for you…and that is truly what I want. I know I mess up and I always will. But I also know that I can get better. So today you are my teacher. I want to understand what is happening.” When you preface the conversation with that intent…it can really set the stage for how the conversation goes. You will be bringing him onto your level and just by making this statement, you are helping him to get onto the same page as you.
Now…when it comes to what you need from him…focus on what DOES work and not what doesn’t. For example, saying “I need more communication from you” you want to say, “When you talk to me about____________________and you let me know__________________, it helps me feel__________________.” Remember that you have an entire story in YOUR mind about whatever is happening as well and he has no idea what that is. So telling him you need more communication from him is a very limited way to get your needs met, because he has NO CLUE what EXACTLY that looks like to you, how it will affect you, and how you even interpret his lack of communication. So you need to teach him. You need to pretend you are talking to a little kid. You stay simple, clear, and specific. What does more communication look like to you…EXACTLY? Give him clear-cut examples. And then let him know what the result will be when he DOES communicate more. Let him know how it will make you feel. And if you guys stay together, when he DOES communicate, acknowledge it! Show him appreciation for the effort he is making.
Is this helpful??
Heidi
Even though it wasn’t about celebration (I’m always feeling weird about this one due to history) i am thankful for all your support during the past years! Right??? We celebrate, but so few people are connected to the trauma that actually was happening around that time. And thank you for saying that you appreciate my support over the past years. You have been a delight to converse with! If I ever travel your way, I would love to actually meet you! And vice versa!
Your friend….once a narcissist, always a narcissist. She sounds like she either is the personality disorder or at least pretty close to it. People that live on the extreme side of narcissism like that, never change. Her kid is in for rough road. I’m surprised you are friends with her as well. You must get something out of it to stay connected.
That must have made you feel good to have him try really hard to connect with you. That made me smile.
I guess that’s what change really, I own my past and family history, but I’m not afraid of this anymore. I am not them, I can love and be loved, and I deserve that. Wow! This is really powerful. Has the feeling stayed with you? Do you feel like this awareness shifted something deeper in you? Tell me more about it!
Heidi
Oh my goodness! What a tree! I want to go see one too! So powerful, artful, expressive, colorful, and just amazing! It feels like looking at a painting where you have to stand there for a while to see all the different aspects of it. Wow! Thank you for sharing!
because when you try to get your needs met from a wounded place, it’s like you’re bleeding all over the person. This is not what I’m talking about either. I’m referring to the wounded energy of manipulation. Many of our needs come from wounded energy. We NEED people to help us heal. If you expect that you are only going to ask for help when you are perfectly aligned and not in wounded energy, you are NEVER going to ask for help. And besides…look at it this way. Those women who just constantly complained to you about their husbands but never did anything about it – even though their sharing was coming from a wounded, manipulative place (they want you to feel sorry for them), they are giving the gift of learning how to set boundaries. So even beggars, even whiney people, even people who are using you or other people in unhealthy ways to get their needs met, EVERY SINGLE ONE is creating an opportunity for the receiver to learn compassion, to learn how to set boundaries, to learn how to communicate their boundaries, to learn how to say no, to learn how to say yes, to learn whatever it is they need to learn or practice. So…there is still a great purpose in it, right? Every single moment in my life, whether it feels wonderful or irritating or challenging, I know there are gifts in it for me. If I know someone is trying to manipulate me, I look might look for my compassion, I might try to bring out the best in them, I might need to practice my forgiveness…who knows. Either way, every moment is a gift to practice, develop, or learn about yourself.
So you can describe an emotion as the feeling you get when a bug with really scratchy legs is climbing up your pant legs. OMG! You crack me up!!! So well said!
You should start touching trees! Whenever I am hiking, I am talking to nature. There are certain trees I am drawn to and I will walk up to them and put my hands on them and talk with them. It’s wonderful! Nature is amazing to talk to! I’m going to look up that tree! That’s amazing that it’s 4,000 years old.
I’m glad you are connecting more with that dead spot. There is a lot to discover in there and the fact that you are even touching it, means it’s going to start to shift.
Heidi
Obviously, if a guy just wants a hookup, that’s not worth your time. I get it. That’s a bummer you don’t have that kind of dating pool.
So what are your thoughts about exploring your anxiety reaction more deeply? How do you feel bout shifting your perspective a bit about dating and making it more about developing your skills instead of only looking for love?
Heidi
I’d like to talk more about this if you’re open to it: I honestly think the first time that happened was because it was so new, and the potential situation was a lot to handle at the time. Now that I think back on it, I don’t really know why I reacted the way I did. The thing is…you don’t know why – and this is my point. To have anxiety to the level that you did is a sign of some really big things happening under the surface that you are not connected to. My point being…it’s an opportunity to dig in deeper to find out what was REALLY going on for you and what insecurities were being triggered so intensely that it disrupted your life in a pretty big way. I think some of what you may discover in that “spot” will tell you a lot more about why our romantic life is the way it is. If you want to dismiss it as “I was just nervous and I don’t know why” then you obviously get to do that as well. That kind of approach won’t get you what you want though. This is EXACTLY why dating is so great! It causes things to happen that would never have happened otherwise. I learned about sooooo many of my insecurities, triggers, feelings etc. through casual dating. Each person you sit in front of, regardless of attraction level, will make you feel something different inside. Dating is one of the most powerful platforms to expose what lives in the depths of you – just like it triggered your anxiety that one time. My very wise coach always says “You never know what a son of a bitch you are, until someone else is in the room.” That’s why I love dating as a platform to learn about yourself. People are reflective and people trigger all kinds of things. Every moment is an opportunity for learning, healing and growing. You want to be in love, right? That love is going to trigger the shit out of you! You are going to get hurt, feel betrayed, be disappointed, feel a ton of irritation etc. Dating is a GREAT way to practice and learn healthy ways to deal with all of that. Being in a relationship and creating a healthy, nourishing, vibrant love requires SKILL. It is not something that just happens. Dating is a platform to develop those skills. Seriously, try it for a month. Go out on 10 dates, with no expectation for anything and just go into each date with the mindset of learning about who you are, what you feel, how you talk, how you relate in front of 10 different personalities.
Thoughts?
Heidi
I am not such empty person. Thank you for pointing this out. It’s actually not what I meant and I need to say it in a better way! Co-depedent people live their lives for other people. If people didn’t have needs, that kind of person would feel empty inside because they wouldn’t really know how to relate to other people without figuring out how they can make the other person happy. This is on the extreme side, of course. I’m not saying this is the level that you function at, because I don’t know you. I’m speaking in general terms here.
The behavioural pattern that I am understanding and overcoming is my sense of guilt when naturally attracting x person, followed by
a sense of unworthiness when I repell those people when I stress about the potential attraction. Tell me more about this. What stresses you about the attraction? So your pattern is guilt + unworthiness = stress reaction about attraction?It sounds like you are very clear now that you don’t want to fuel any of the attraction that is happening between the both of you. It sounds like you are clear that you want to shut things down…on your side of things. Am I understanding correctly?
My curiosity on the seductive/fixing relations packages comes from wondering how to approach the strategies and knowledge
that they present. The packages I encountered provide no critical advice on how to use them, and rather are sold as an ultimate fix.
So my questions don’t come from a place of “i want to seduce men because i need to prove my value and this is my way to do it”. I’m not sure what your question is. I think you are asking how to use the strategies? We can definitely go through all of that. Let me know what specific strategies you are referring to. I do just want to re-iterate what I said before there. The strategies themselves are just that…it’s a blank slate. HOW and WHY you use your strategies will make or break how they work. So again…your intention and the energy behind WHY you are using any strategy, is what will make or break the success of it. Make sense?Heidi
There is nothing easy about walking away. It is INCREDIBLY difficult to watch someone you love, become a shell of a person. I know exactly how you feel and it’s sooooo so heartbreaking.
It’s about letting go of the fantasy that you can save him. You are pouring and pouring and pouring all of your heart into a man who isn’t able to receive it. He abuses it instead and brings you down. You cannot save him. For me, I had to go to my worst fear – he will die. I had to work with that fear and all of the lies that came with it. “It’s my fault” “I didn’t love him enough” “I should have done more” and the list goes on. When I identified each lie, worked with it, counteracted it with the truth and released those thoughts – the fear “he will die” was still there BUT…instead of it being my fault, I let it be his choice. I put the responsibility back onto him instead of carrying the entire load. This freed me up because the TRUTH was in me instead of all of those lies. This allowed me to really just let go and let him take this path that he obviously needed to take. It freed me up to choose myself. It doesn’t happen overnight of course. I worked with a therapist/healer for a long time though. I got healthier and stronger and more solid than I had been in years. It taught me that pain is not such a horrible thing. Pain is what motivates people to grow. Some people have an incredibly high pain tolerance and deep down just really want to live their lives that ways. Who am I to say they shouldn’t do that? Every person deserves to the freedom to live their life exactly how they want without other people trying to change them. Of course, there are consequences to harmful behaviors/lifestyles, but that’s just part of the journey for them.
You need you. No one is going to save you except for yourself. You need to do for yourself, what you want him to do for himself. Never ask something of someone you are not willing to do yourself. Your kids need a mom who fights for more in her life. Your kids need a role model of self-love – more now than ever. Their dad is choosing suffering and addiction. They need their mom to show them what self-love looks like. You are worth fighting for and worth loving, but it starts with you choosing that for yourself – and there just is no way around that. Your relationship with your husband is dead. It’s toxic. It’s harmful. It’s time to say goodbye and let him go save himself and you go save yourself. There is nothing easy about this and I cannot tell you HOW to do that, because there really is no how. It’s just doing it, despite the heartbreak.
Heidi
I’m really glad you are taking it this way! You just never know and I knew I was taking a bit of a risk. I toned it down A LOT though…LOL
You are correct…the fact that he mentioned you kissing another guy again means it imprinted on him and he hasn’t let it go. Don’t you dare apologize or try to make up for that so he can feel better. DO NOT rescue him from his discomfort. You did nothing wrong – and he needs to face it. He NEEDS to learn how to forgive and release instead of holding onto hurt that creates a wall and barrier to intimacy. I’m very serious when I tell you to BE CAREFUL. I know you guys are super fabulous together and there is an incredible connection…AND…this particular side of him will choose fear and hurt over connection with you, unless he learns a different way to handle when you hurt him. You are going to hurt him so many more times and if you have to go through this every single time…sheesh! That’s exhausting!
I understand your fear of losing him. It’s normal and it’s appropriate. Do it anyways. Make another fear bigger. To me, it would be scarier to continue to open my heart to a guy and bond with him, only to have him decide one day he wants to go on another date or he isn’t sure about me. It’s more painful to be investing in a guy who isn’t investing back, with his heart – than it is to just face the truth that he would rather have fear be his girlfriend than me. Either way Franziska, it’s time to get more clear with him. You guys are not on the same page yet and it’s not okay for you anymore. You need to honor that for yourself. You need to see if he has what it takes to man-up. Besides…if he stays confused and isn’t able to give any kind of answer…then there is a REAL EASY way for him to get clear…step out of his life and let him feel the loss of you. That may be what needs to happen. If you IN his life is creating confusion, then I bet you OUT of his life will bring a lot of clarity. You need to have the strength to allow that to happen if that is what shows up from your conversation. You need to value yourself more than your connection with a man who lets fear run his life. And if he doesn’t get clarity with you being OUT of his life, he doesn’t get to have you then. Of course, this is easier said than done.
Heidi
Same with emotional support. I don’t talk to people who are continuously whining, because they drain me. Plus, they don’t want to make any changes in their lives in order to get a more stable place. So, i’m not on board this thought that my needs provide opportunities for others to be generous, so they’re a gift. I understand your point and there is truth in it, but it’s not actually what I am referring to. “Beggars” are asking from a place of woundedness and manipulation. That changes the energy of the exchange of giving/receiving. You are not a beggar. Your needs ARE a gift. You are comparing yourself to a beggar and that’s a completely different level of energy and mindset. It’s like money. Money can be healing or destructive – it just depends on how the person is using it. Your needs can be a gift or destructive, depending on how you get them met. It’s a spectrum, right? So why can’t your needs be a gift, if both you and the other person are coming from a loving, supportive place?
I’ve narrowed it down to one thing – i’d have to find value in the eyes of a man. So much value that he’d WANT to share his life with me. For some reason, that seems to carry a sense of woundedness – when someone needs someone else for something or other. I want someone to like me so much that they deliberately choose to share their lives with me. It IS woundedness when you rely on someone else for your value. So your belief that you need a man to choose you in order to feel valuable is wanting HIM to do something for you that you are not doing for yourself. This belief comes from your woundedness. You CAN feel complete and whole and chosen without ever having a man. That “spot” can be healed without a man. As long as that spot exists, it will always contribute to a neediness with any relationship you have with a man.
Like my hair, i might be the only one who enjoys my better health, but i’m the one i need to make happy, not anyone else. This is a beautiful thought! I know many people feel the same way you do. I know I do. If I don’t plan something, I know people wouldn’t remember. But honestly, I kind of view it as a good thing because I view my birth-day as a time that I get to celebrate my life, who I am, and how far I’ve come. It’s a self-love day for me – so I should be the one planning it anyways. So I plan the day according to how I want to truly love myself and honor my life. Most of the time it’s a quite, perfect day with my mom and that’s it. I love all the Facebook messages because it is a moment where someone IS taking the time to send me good vibes and that feels good to me! It feels like sparkly bubbles to me when someone takes a moment to send a birthday wish. So maybe try a new perspective about your birthday and see how it goes!
Heidi
Hi Evelyn,
Gosh! I am sooooo so sorry for what you are going through!!! It’s so incredibly difficult to watch someone you love, slip through your fingers.
It sounds like there are a lot of deeper issues going on here. He isn’t happy, obviously. It sounds like you weren’t happy either. You’ve gone through a lot in the last 7 months. He also cheated on you 7 months ago and broke the trust. Do you know why he cheated? Have you guys done some work together in re-building that trust?
I’m wondering if your communication style is also really challenging for him. Do you feel that when you confront him about things, you are respectful or more critical?
The thing is…your relationship needs to change. He won’t come back into the same design and nor should he. So what kinds of things would you like to focus on, in yourself, that can help you become a better partner? Is HE willing to work on changing things for himself as well?
Heidi
I really hope that didn‘t make him lose trust in me or that‘s the reason why he‘s confused. First things first…if this is why he is confused and if he is not trusting you because of this, then he has a lot of growing up to do in order to be in a relationship that can last.
It’s obvious since the beginning this guy is holding onto a lot of fear. Fear is a pretty strong presence in his life and dictates a lot of what he does. My guess is, it’s that same fear causing the confusion. You kissing another guy would just fuel that fear – it has nothing to do with you. This is about HIM. And this is important for you to see about him. He doesn’t really face his fear. He lets it hang out and it is what’s stopping him from really investing in you. There is NO reason at this point, that he should be confused. Yet he is…so this tells you how BIG his fear is. This WILL be an issue in your relationship…and it IS something that has the potential to cause a breakup. Fear will be part of our lives forever. If someone doesn’t know how to handle it in a healthy, the fear will take over and ruin things…guaranteed. It ruins connection, it causes bad decision making and it hurts other people. So it’s important for you to know what you are stepping into. Be aware.
So this is just a thought. What about challenging him and see what he does with it. He has had PLENTY of time to get to know you and feel who you are in his life. If he cannot handle some challenge, then that is something else you need to know about him. Your friendship is solid enough to take it and you have more than earned the right to question him.
So what about asking him those questions you just posted? “Tim…I’m not sure what you are confused about. What is stopping you from just being with me. I’m not saying you need to fall in love…that takes time. But how we are with each other is fabulous. What’s stopping you from just letting go and being together? I don’t see what there is to be confused about. We are great together. This is not me pushing you into anything, but it is me wanting to understand what the heck is going on. My heart is sacred. My time is sacred. If you don’t know enough about me by now, to know I’m a good person to invest in…then we need to talk about a re-design.”
I know I’m a bit spicey in my advice today. I think I’m some of my “mama bear” energy is coming up. You are an incredible woman and you have been MORE than patient and giving him an INCREDIBLE amount of space. You guys are amazing together! And he is f****ing confused???? I want to smack him upside the head and tell him to f*****ing wake up!!! He is damn lucky to have you!!!!
I know this may not be the approach you want to take, but that’s okay. Sometimes though, the strong, confident woman side of you needs to take the lead and kick him in the ass! I’m saying all of this with love, of course.
Heidi
Thank you for sharing more! This is great information!
no guy has ever had interest in me more than the appereance and body so sex .i feel like they cant see more of this Guys absolutely have the ability to see you more than your appearance. Not every guy is like that, of course – it’s more about you setting standards as to how you are treated and then you will attract more men who align with those standards.
i feel like maybe the problem is also that i cant have friend boy, i dont trust them so im incapable to entablish a friendship, so maybe the problem is also that i only see boy as sexboy(?)i dont know. This absolutely contributes to your relationship with guys and how they view you.
but how? everytime a guy approaches me i feel his attraction to me that is only physical …guys approaches at first only because the like you not your personality,am i wrong in this thought? Of course guys are going to approach you when they are attracted to what you like. This is normal, but what happens after that, is truly up to you. Again…it all starts with you and how you REQUIRE someone to treat you. If you want to be seen as more than just someone to have sex with, then you make a guy earn the right to have sex with you. What does that look like? It’s different for each person. If you look at your sexuality and your body as sacred, your heart is sacred, your time is sacred and special, then how would you present yourself to a guy when he approaches you?
maybe giving vent to my passion for dancing?i found this passion 3months ago .is it enough? This is WONDERFUL! Omg…dance is incredibly powerful. Give it life! Play with it! Let it grow. Dancing is an incredible way to move emotions, energy, and help with healing.
i think that it can be a repellent for boys attraction because maybe boys think im not feminine enough to be be attracted to me for a relationship This is what I call a “program.” We all grow up with a gazillion beliefs/stories about ourselves and the world around it. These are shaped by our family and our experiences. Some programs are super healthy and uplifting and some are destructive and full of lies. This program that “you are not feminine enough to be in a relationship” is full of lies. That’s a story you have created in your mind about your experiences. Where did it come from? How long have you felt that way? Why do you believe that is true? What OTHER reasons could there be for you not having a relationship? Let’s say this program is true…what makes it true? In what ways do you feel like you are not feminine enough? And how does that impact you having a relationship?
the other 2 things i dont like about myself is that i cant have a relationship , i try but its like something underneath me says to me “you cant have ir because its You” infact im always attracted to past pattern (that i leaved ..like the hoe behaviour). i dont lime about myself that i always change my life plans and i cant make priority because they changes based on the situation. i dont like about myself that I don’t know how to set limits on people. Here is the thing Eva. All these things that you don’t like about yourself, will ALWAYS be there. We ALL have things we don’t like about ourselves. As we grow and heal, those negative things are less intense and have less harmful effects, but that’s life, right? We mess up, we learn, we grow, we heal….rinse and repeat…for the rest of our lives. The the first place to start is learning how to love and accept those negative parts of ourselves. The truth is, every negative thing comes from hurt and trauma. So embracing and having compassion for those parts of ourselves that are hurting, is what is healing. That’s the path. When you are able to love yourself…ALL of you…then your life will start to change….you will feel more empowered, you will attract different kinds of people, you will feel differently inside, you will find more joy in your life – easily.
Thoughts?
Heidi
