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I feel like with our communication over these last few months I attempted at controlling my anxieties, but it failed and I lacked in flirting and showing care and interest and appeared self absorbed. Though I thought at the time that standing on my own and appearing independent and not “needy” would benefit me…
Thank you for your reply. He did repeatedly tell me it was up to me if I did not want to live in “limbo”….I guess I found it too hard to be the one to end it or felt like he was looking for an easy way out to relieve guilt. I am not sure. I do feel some responsibility as I know he has some frustrations and hurt that maybe the one month of not talking was not enough. I would hint at jobs available there and he would say “I can’t make any decisions for you”….. though the tough thing is I would be moving there solely to be with him and so I am not going to move if I am not wanted in someones life.
I sent a long heartfelt message about wanting to understand and listen to his concerns, he has read it, but no response. My plan as of now is to not contact him. I do still plan on visiting there in about a month, I have friends to see and so no intent on seeing him unless he reaches out.
I guess I am asking if it is realistic to think if more time and space can allow the frustration to settle, reaching out with a lighthearted text in a month or so and seeing what happens? What are your thoughts on that? I am just not ready to move on from this completely right now, but willing to set it aside.
