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Yes I do agree that there are some red flags. Running away when things get real isn’t exactly comforting. He did say that he’d never broken up with someone before, and his last relationship was 2 years long. I also feel like he hasn’t properly healed from his last relationship as he mentioned a couple of times that he doesn’t want to repeat history (she broke up with him because they lost the spark). He cares a lot about having that spark there, I guess cause he’s scared that if it faded it’ll end in another break up? But yeah he does need to work on getting to know himself better and figure out his problems. So I do want to believe him when he said he’s not gonna be dating for a while. I still want to get to know him better and get past that fantasy and see if we are a good match or not. Would it be a good idea to stay friends now or should I wait for a few days/weeks?
Thank you for your answer. I wanted to clarify the situation a bit more. When he broke things off I asked him if he thought it was worth fixing, and he said if this was a long term relationship then he would try to fix things, but because it’s so short he doesn’t think that already having these sort of doubts is a good sign. I asked him if he still cared, and he said yes, but the feeling has changed. I just don’t think feelings can change overnight? He was still so into it on the day of my celebration dinner. He also said he probably needs to be single for a while to work on himself. We agreed on friendship, but I’m afraid it will end up being just that. I don’t want to get stuck in the friend zone.
