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Hi Spyce,
Thank you so much for your advice. And yes by “night” I did mean sex.
I read what you wrote and then reflected on it yesterday and all day today, and you are so right. I want to find someone that is basically otherwise man enough to not be intimidated by me, or at least not let it stop him from pursuing me, which I know would take a strong man. I will say also, I did realize that in order to protect myself somewhat, I do need to not be timid, and be ok with setting clear expectations on the first date. I have been finding myself holding back as to not scare someone off, as I know I come off strong, but, like you said if they dont get me, they dont get to have me. And from that, determining if the guy is only there for a one night thing, then making the conscious decision of what I want to do, knowing it most likely wont go past that one night.
Sorry, adding more as I have more questions, and its really hard to search through the forums on my phone.
So I am a very independent strong female. I have my own business, am pretty much completely self reliant. In dating guys, I dont know what I should do or say to not come across as too strong, as I want to incite that hero instinct like is talked about, as I do want someone who wants to protect me, not that they need to, but to incite that drive in them. Im so busy taking care of everything else, I do want someone that can take care of me in all the ways I feel like I am lacking.
I had purchased some of the modules, and in reading through a lot of them, I just dont feel like theres enough specifics on things to say that work just to help me more, as Im also constantly over thinking, and maybe I get a little anxious too quick. How quickly do I wait to text someone after the first date where I felt like we did have a connection? Or should I not be the one to initiate it at all? And lets say I saw that our conversation on a online dating thing got deleted, therefore assuming he unmatched me, and then did send a message to him where it maybe sounded like I was making an assumption, but maybe they just deleted their profile or something, can i recover from that?
