[Victoria S]

He does care about you and doesn’t want to lose your friendship….

However, I feel that you care about him more deeply and possibly wish more would come of it.

He loves how much you care about him, your support and presence means a lot to him… nonetheless, his message reads to me as, “You are so sweet to me, I love your support. You are a an amazing person, I wish I could find a way to reciprocate the feeling. I know you will find someone who deserves you someday.”

[Victoria S]

Strong women are a product of our current society… However, when it comes to relationships, we can be completely independent and capable (masculine energies). If we choose to have these energies, we will have to accept men that have more feminine energies (rather hire someone to solve the problem).

Women & men, yin & yang, negative & positive, giving & receiving, black & white….

These are all the polar opposite but the matching piece. Yin/negative/black….etc.is feminine…. depending on the type partner you want; these factors are important to learn/know.

Strong women can be strong and amazing in the workplace. These energies are accessible at any moment and situation. For example, coming home, you can tap into some more feminine energy to balance out your household.

That is, if you want a predominately masculine and providing man.

Be strong, be independent as a woman….but remember that balance will always find a way.

[Victoria S]

The way I understood your initial message was that you had no interest in this individual, you went out with him to begin discovering your individuality again. Both of your (yours and his) vulnerable states caused you to find a connection that was unanticipated.

You were both looking for validation that you were lacking in the previous relationships… as horrible as it may seem (but totally natural), you were using one another to validate yourselves, or “complete the void” (whatever term you use for a missing piece).

Think about this new guy as someone who helped you to find your self again. Sometimes it takes years, and many men, for women to find someone to help them get over any ex.

You can also give yourself more power in that choice. You never wanted anything out of this man…..But the second he started acting like he really didn’t care – you allowed yourself to give him power over you.

Remember girl, you had no interest in him.

Recognize that you were lacking human connection with your previous man, you found a few commonalities and understanding in your rebound, and now you are ready to accept the fact that you are always alone…..but that life is about finding someone to make life a little less lonely, not to make it more stressful.

[Victoria S]

Hi Maria, I think you should give yourself permission to find a man who is head over heels for you.

Ideally, he is someone who has his own things going on.. while you do everything you absolutely enjoy. You come together in the evenings (he is so interested in hearing about your day, you about his) you share your days details with one another enjoying their happiness, you both admit that you were trying your hardest to stay awake to learn about their day, finally… you both settle in and find comfort in one another’s arms as you fall asleep.

[Victoria S]

I need to ask… Why are you trying to fit into his life? We should be asking, “How do I fit him in to my life?”

When we lose our independence, that often causes stress on to the relationship. We are two halves of a whole, yin and yang.

We just choose to exist with one another.
In the end, we are alone

We need to find acceptance and be in love with ourselves

When we choose a mate, it is because they can bring some value to our lives (at that time, or for the rest of our life).

We all have our own path, our own biological clock… When we fall in love with ourselves and choose to
allow
people into our lives; we will be able to enjoy life fully.

Accepting ourselves will (hopefully teach us to accept everyone else for who they are without expectations) help us understand that everyone has had to overcome something in their past, to be where they are now.

Re-visit your passions as a child, remember who you once were…We were the happiest then; before we let society tell us who/how/what to be.

I think everyone would benefit from us re-discovering our happiness, our freedom, our passions…before we were told that we should be something else.

Don’t lose yourself trying to conform to him. Be you, and find out how you both can benefit each other.

• This reply was modified 2 years, 11 months ago by Victoria S.
• This reply was modified 2 years, 11 months ago by Victoria S.

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