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Good morning Laura.
Lots happening. He leaves his front door open when he’s home and other neighbors say he’s happier, even glowing. His home is now open with blinds open and the air and sun going through the unit. He’s always coming out and chatting about his day to me. I think he may be shy. He came home Friday after work and I was on my balcony having a glass of red. He was locked out and came over to tell me. He then said he was going for a cigarette and lingered, to which I then said , I’ll join you, he then said, that would be great. I grabbed him a beer, we had a smoke and then he came inside until his visitor came home with the keys. He then stayed for another beer asked if he could hug me and went home for dinner. He came out later and asked if I wanted anything from the bottle shop as they were going. I was up to my 4th glass by then and had enough and went to bed. Saying thanks but no. We said goodnight.Ive noticed that he’ll wait for me to go out the front and then come out and greet me or ask me about my day or how my son is. A definite development. I can feel the sexual tension when we are together and he is now constantly touching me when he speaks to me. Now. He has mentioned his plan to go back to America in July. A rough plan but still a plan. He wants to spend some time with his parents while he still can. I do nothing but encourage and support his dreams but wonder if he’s thinking of me with him in that future? I think we may be going to the market together. There is something he wants to show me…..what to do now mate?Btw
Dont want a friend. Sick of being everyones friend and saviour. Costs me alot of energy without reciprication. There are so mnay selfish people in the world that take take. I just hope he doesn’t end up being another one. I am extremely generous and constantly give so unfortunately can get taken for granted. So Laura you can probably tell I wear my heart on my sleeve.. and deserve someone who deserves me….. I have so mu h love to give and m not a jealous person. Enjoy sex immensely with both men and women. I prefer men though. So who ever getz this baby is one lucky MF. Hope you have a fantastic day
Cheers TahnThanks Laura
So, yes hs wants children and i still want more. I have a 6yo boy and custody is shared and extremely amicable between his father and I. I am still considered part of that family with my in-laws still calling me the daughter they finally found… American loves kids and wants that ideal family. I know I can give it too him and more. Younger meant anywhere from 40-33 I am 44 he is 39. He gets along really well with my boy and gave him a gift of life savers from America. I am going to stop over thinking this now and let it be. I am working til Thursday and said I would help him with a meeting with the RAAF and his system. Ill organise that today or tomorrow and let him know. I tend to be putting alot of time and energy into this. I can feel it coming back however, i think I would like him to pursue for awhile. But sit back now and see
Have great day. Thnks for your sound adviceOkay. So we went to the market together this morning. I asked and he said yes. He did not stop talking the whole time. I bought him coffee and we sat on the beach, he show e do me pictures of his lonely trip driving around America and camping by himself. It was beautiful scenery and he said he was glad that he could share it with me. We ended up speaking about the dream and he mentioned the girl he was about to marry was young and beautiful and he would be more than happy to live that life. I am 5 years older so took that as a damper. Am I over thinking? Anyway we came back and I thanked him for coming and told him to enjoy his day and I help him in his endeavor to find that one
Have I done the wrong thing? I am trying to encourage him with his dreams and not hold him back.
Cheers TahnHi Laura
Thanks for the advice. I know I’ll see him today and I am going to get ready to go to the market on the beach. If I see him before that I’ll ask him to join me. Otherwise I won’t ask. I am too shy to make the first date. Hehehe. Especially after everything else. I am so scared of him saying no that it will completely stop me from asking in the first place. So because of that should I wait for him to ask. I’ll hint about the movie MOANA. As it is a tale of our gods and how NZ was born. I’ll also suggest a really nice restaurant I know up the road. I really don’t think he’ll ask though. We’ll see. Keep you posted
Cheers TahnHi Laura
Things are progressing nicely. Every time we see each other he says hello and walks straight over to me to start a conversation. We get along famously. I make a note to flirt subtly, seem interested but not too much and always walk away saying have a great day. I know he’s thinking about me. He told me he dreamt about meeting someone of fhe same descent as me, maori, and she was his bride and hed never felt such a feeling of belonging and love before. WTF does that mean? Where shoildni go from here? Please help
Cheers TahnThanks Laura
On my way to work thus morning and he cones straight out and says good morning and tells me that he has a huge day with a system he is working on and getting partners to look at it. I assured him with a slight touch on the arm that I thought he was extremely clever and they would be missing out on what he had to offer the world. I said he was very special answer should fell all the confidence in the world. He smiled and I said goodbye and the best of m luck. I think I saw a shift in him and it made me smile….Hi Laura
So Sunday went fantastic we were alone for 8 hours drinking,laughing and flirting on my behalf anyway. He accepted it.I made him dinner and we watched a movie. He opens up to me about a previous heart break and his tinder dates. He has a checklist which I don’t think I tick any of his boxes. I’m quite strong and bold however am a lady in public and with others. We got into quite a deep conversation about who he is and his burdens
I broke down a couple of barriers and even bought him to tears with my generosity and no expectations. He did keep saying that he was sick of being alone and would really love to see the world again but with someone to share it with. Anyway. It came time to leave and he asked if he could give me a hug. Of course he can. So we hugged
I was very relaxed he was extremely tense. We then said good night and he said well ill see you tomorrow then and I said ok. So saw him last night after work passing each other and he stopped his vehicle and waved at me. That’s all so far. I cannot read anything and have no idea what to do next. It would be nice if he was thinking of me in his future. Bur I have no idea. I’m worried he will now ask me to help him search for his future bride😐 have no idea why to do now. Please helpGday Kanya
Lovely to meet you as well. As Laura.
Thanks for the very helpful tips so far Laura. So Friday he was supposed to come over for drinks however plans changed and I ended up having a business meeting with associates at my home with a couple of drinks he was still welcome but didn’t come. That’s OK. Saturday stayed completely out of sight and surfaced around 10 Sunday. Did the usual coffee and cleaning breaky thing. Took my rubbish out. Sat on my balcony to enjoy the morning and check emails,Facebook etc which happens to face his balcony and front door. We’ll who walks out the front looks straight at me and says “I am so sorry I missed you Friday night I had a horror day and week with work.”I respond “No problem sweetheart are you ok?” “We’ll not really” he says. So Tahn invites him in for a chat. Which turned into dinner and drinks and a movie. We said goodnight and hugged. That’s it so far. Oh he did say he would see me tomorrow 😊Nice to meet you Laura
I’m Tahnia from QLD Australia. Currently divorced and just back on the dating scene and very excited. I smile constantly at what the future may hold for me now. Thanks to you and James hopefully I’ll have some luck with 39yo CSIRO American across from me. Hehe
