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I try to focus on my work but when things are bad with him ( and theyre only bad probably in my head because hes smooth sailing) I have trouble doing anything, i find myself wanting the day to be over if he hasnt texted me or I’m sad because he hasnt texted me. I get a handle on it most of the time but is that what I really need to do? invest my time in things? but I feel like its just different because of the distance, how will he even be able to tell im doing all this great stuff anyways? he knows I like him, i dont think he doubts it ( I doubt him everyday lol), i dont give him reason to. I dont play games, but I think he does, or he just is busy. I know guys dont feel validated by texting like girls do, but I just want to talk to him all the time so why doesnt he?
Yeah, I would figure that letting him take the role of chasing is the better option but he doesn’t really chase girls much. I think girls have sought him out in his life (from what a close mutual friend says). He obvioulsy does do some searching but hes a very calm guy in that aspect, hes into his work and his friends/family a lot. Its so hard to work this relationship because of the distance, i dont know how to make it work or make him more attached because he doesnt want to talk everyday. I can tell hes very into the life he has infront of him always, hes not a phone guy but hes also part of my generation so he does go on it often, just not glued. I’m not part of his daily life but he is in mine, there doesnt go an hour where i dont think of him. He usually always is the one to text me first, i try to make that a thing because i hate starting convo because I already feel annoying. I tried ignoring him after i read your advice and it actually kind of worked. We had this conversation about sex and what we liked and it was a great back to back 4 hour conversation, then we talked again after that but i ended up not answering him and just leaving the conversation. He texted me like 4 days after and was like heyyyy and that day he was bringing up coming for my birthday, he sent me a picture of potential ticket and (he’s bringing this up by the way, i tend to not ask because im again afraid to be annoying) I feel annoying when i text him because of his response time. He will literally take 4 hours to 2 days to answer a text, depending on who knows what. I sent him a nude actually last week over snapchat for a couple seconds because we discussed it the other day so i sent it, it was cute, and he opened it (snapchat shows you when they do) and he didnt reply after seeing it for 2 hours. I think thats so rude!!!! after the nude he replied to my personal text as well that he didnt reply to since the night before. Obviously he texted back because I sent a nude probably, but I hate that he thinks he can open it and take his sweet time to reply to me. After that response I just ignored it and havent talked in 3 days. I want to tell him that it makes me sad/ask him if hes booked his tickets for my birthday in Feb. but I’m afraid hes going to get overwhelmed and not want to visit for my birthday. Last week we also planned a facetime which didnt end up happening and he NEVER brought it up, so i didnt either..i already asked to begin with. I wanna get him on a facetime and tell him how i feel but i dont know if i should cap my feelings till i get him to visit and talk in person. I want him to come for my birthday and he’s told me on a couple occasions he will, but he hasnt boughten the ticket…and I still feel nervous that hes gonna make up an excuse. When i think of this kid, I cant feel anything but love, its so genuine on my part, like i feel and know that hes special for me, and the fact that we still even talk to date means something. Also its hard to ignore someone that cant tell youre making the effort of ignoring them, and when they do text you, i act happy because why would i act upset, so hes happy with everything but i just want a little more, i dont feel comfortable enough to be able to bring this up with him because im scared he will take so long to reply or not reply at all. I hate boys..what should I do
