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  • in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #29075
    Rhonda R
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    Hi, Heidi,
    Yes, lots is up in the air for me. I keep looking back to the ways God has led and taken care of me in the past. I could tell you many, many stories of God’s leading and care, so I think of those times and trust. The Jordan River didn’t part till the priests actually stepped into the water. I’ve found God provides at the right time and not before, so we’ll see what happens in a couple weeks. Here’s one song I like to listen to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dq-ki6BzMaA

    LOL. The guys at Triad aren’t enough to keep me here. I’ve lost so much of who I am. It will take me a bit to get back to being me again once I get home.

    About the only thing I can’t do with my permanent residency in Canada that I could do as a citizen is vote. Plus there’s the hassle of having to renew the pr every 5 years. Once a citizen, always a citizen. So not a whole lot of difference. I’m sure I could eventually get Canadian citizenship. This is just another delay.

    Gotta go. On top of everything else have tax info yet to gather and put together. Yuck!
    Have a great evening,
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #29049
    Rhonda R
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    Hi, Heidi,

    Yes, February totally got away from me. Working 56 hours a week doesn’t leave much time for anything else. 4 weeks from today I leave so time to start planning and making a list of things to do. I’ll have to start this next Sunday packing, getting oil changed and tires rotated, take part of my furniture to Goodwill. Then have to plan my trip. I’m feeling overwhelmed and stressed. Work is…. they’re putting on new people, totally changing how their tracking things. Crazy. Our safety lead is leaving in 2 weeks. One of our automation people left today. Not sure if it was his choice or not. Two other automation people gone today.

    The job with Randy would not be at home but it would still be in Canada. Bruce Power is still giving us an update on their project end of month and I’m seeing job postings coming from Calgary now, which is new, so maybe things are starting to pick up a bit.

    I lost my bid for Canadian citizenship. I misunderstood that my 3 years had to be within a 5 year period and I’m already past the point of being able to make that requirement. However, I can still renew my permanent residency. I just have to be in Canada for 2 years within the 5 years for permanent residency renewal. So I’m very disappointed. Threw me for a loop today and got me down, but it will be ok. My cousin’s husband is still, she said on a visitor visa, after 20ish years. I find hard to believe as he’s working and I don’t think you can work on a visitor visa, but maybe with her being a citizen…. don’t know. Anyway, he’s still not a Canadian citizen. And I worked with a gentleman who’s been renewing his permanent residency for 25 years. He’s German, I think, and Germany doesn’t allow dual citizenship, so he just keeps up his permanent residency.

    Really interesting. I’ve been praying about what to do and if I should leave Canada. I keep hearing, Be still and know that I am God. ….. They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. And the impression to just wait. I’ve been worried about the economy and all the bad stuff I keep hearing. And last night I was reading in Proverbs (where I rarely go to read) and the passage said something about don’t listen to all the doomsday prophets, or something with that meaning, anyway. So I’m thinking, Ok, I guess I just wait and won’t worry about trying to move back to the States at this point.

    Oh, LOL. I think I should go work for Triad! Ooooo la la. They have some very good-looking men over there, and most of them seem pretty nice. Solved the Mystery Man case. His name is Sterling. Same height and build as Daniel, but now I recognize Sterling. He’s older. Also seems very nice.

    Still hearing every other day or so from Dean. Also hearing from a gentleman in Edmonton (3 hours north of Calgary) who seems very nice. But he’s not an outdoors person at all, so we’ve agreed to be friends.

    Gotta go. Past my bedtime and 4:30 comes early!
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28858
    Rhonda R
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    Hi, Heidi,
    Yeah, I agree on that statement about being a wife now. That came from Matt Boggs video. I liked the rest of what he said, but that statement definitely needs to be taken within context and with proper interpretation and within reason. (smirk) Ha Ha If I acted towards some men the way I’d treat a husband it would be totally disastrous. But I can listen to every man. I can be grateful when any man talks to me or does anything for me. I can be warm and attentive to every man. I can treat every man with respect.

    Spotify looks like a subscription site. Is it a monthly cost?

    I can’t believe it. I leave town 5 weeks from tomorrow. Those weeks will go fast. I’m getting nervous about packing, planning my trip, what I’ll find at the border and still nothing solid for work, which makes me a bit nervous. Randy’s still telling me the job in Kitamat will come through and we should be hearing about Bruce Power in March. I keep focusing on how God has led in the past and trust He will lead again and provide the right job.

    Have an awesome day tomorrow,
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28848
    Rhonda R
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    Thanks, Spyce,I always appreciate positive support. I grew up in a very negative environment so soak up all positive encouragement with gratitude.

    Thanks for the offer to help with on-line dating. I will take you up on that. I find men on there that interest me, and I DO read their profiles, but 98% of the time they give me the silent treatment. So next time I’ll ask for advice on how to respond. One thing I like about meeting in person is I get to feel that “energy field” that people have. I also watch the look in their eye and expressions on their face. Those non-verbal communications tell me so much. I’ve know for a long, long time people had “energy fields” around them. I could feel them. Now I’m hearing a lot about “vibrations” on youtube. Its interesting. Just validating what I’ve felt and knew for a long time but couldn’t really explain.

    Ha Ha. Had to laugh at myself today. Daniel had told me of a couple nature preserves on the other side of New Orleans so thought I’d check them out today. They’re an hour and a half drive from where I live and I had to drive through New Orleans. I drove for an hour and got through New Orleans but I took a wrong turn where 90 splits off from I-10. I got onto 90 ok, but it split again right away and I got off on Claibourne. Probably went a couple miles and decided for sure I was not where I should be and freaked. I turned around and went back and the only way I could see back on the freeways was I-10 west back to Baton Rouge. Thought maybe I could take an exit, turn around and head back east to the 90 exit again, but every off ramp looked to me like it went to a spaghetti bowl of roads and freeways, so I gave up and came back. Went up to my usual place and did my regular, boring 5-mile walk around LSU Lake. But I had to laugh at me. Put me in the middle of the mountains and I’m perfectly ok and can find my way out. Put me in a big city and I freak out. (I don’t have gps in my car.)

    Watched a short video by Matt Boggs on how to attract a man. He said 4 things.

    1) You ARE a wife now, and become one man’s wife when you get married to him. So behave like a wife now.
    2) Love and accept yourself and you’ll attract men who love and accept you.
    3) Be grateful
    4) Lead with an open heart.

    It’s that 4th one, leading with an open heart, that I think hangs me up. I’ve only had one or maybe two close relationships in my life and it definitely wasn’t with my family, so my guess is I come across as pretty guarded.

    Thanks again,
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28816
    Rhonda R
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    Hi, Spyce,
    What a cool name! Like sugar and spyce. 🙂 Nice to meet you.

    LOL. Yes, you’re right. Trying to date a LOT later in life. I’m 64. Been single uh…. since ’96. Boys were 2 and 5 when I left. Ex put me through hell so had to deal with all his shenanigans, plus I was only getting $300/mo for two boys …… when he paid it, and no medical insurance, and he managed to weasel his way into making me pay for 75% or more of the cost of travel for visitation. (I kept over 500 miles between us as he would harass and stock me.) Consequently my life focused around the boys and supporting them. Been working 50+ hour weeks since ’02 and my job bounces me around the continent like super ball. I’m currently on a project in Louisiana when I live in Calgary, AB. Ha Ha. Three guesses what my social life has been like!

    Thinking about it, I’ve turned down a few men in the past couple years. Just not finding anyone who seriously interests me. My assignment here is done end of March and I’ll be heading home. YEAH!!!!!! Can’t wait as I seriously miss my mountains and my kayaks!!! and my camera has been extremely bored and is anxious to get out again! (wildlife photography is my passion). Little Boy Blue (my car) is dying to explore the dirt back roads of Alberta again. And trust me, he (as well as my kayaks) has a mind of his own!!! There’s a dating service in Calgary I think I might try once I find out what I’m doing after this project. I think I’ll do better meeting someone in person rather than try to interest someone on line. Also quite active in a few different meetup groups, so anxious to get home again. Alberta, here I come!

    Again, so nice to meet you, Spyce. Looking forward to talking with you more.
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28812
    Rhonda R
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    Hi, Heidi,
    Yes, you’re right with Daniel. I don’t get him, though. If he’s not available, why would he come over and talk with me? Why would he say to ask him anything? Why would he give me his card. And you’re right. Reality is there’s 0% possibility of anything serious working out. I know, I know.

    Yeah, you’re right again. I meant the compliments to that man to be playful. I based the compliments on him being a contracting engineer, which to be successful at that he has to be intelligent, hardworking, etc. But you’re right. Way too strong. LOL. I need some flirting lessons.

    For some reason I feel extra tired today and don’t know why. How tired I am always affects my emotional state. On a VERY, VERY rare occasion I get goofy and silly when I’m tired, but usually I lose confidence and its harder to be positive. Need to get some sleep tonight and figure out something to beat this weather. Right at freezing with over 85% humidity. Solitary confinement (worked from home) for 2 days this week because of icy roads. Oh well, bound to get better soon.

    Thanks for the advice,
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28787
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    H-E-L-P!!!!!!!! I am telling you, men are the most confusing creatures on the face of the planet!!!! I cannot read them at all and do not understand them. Horses, dogs, cats and wild animals are far easier to read and understand than a man! H-E-L-P!!!

    So we can’t scan to our email from our printers as the servers are down in Houston from the storm. (??? Have no clue why the routers aren’t set up to keep site email on site and why its configured to send emails from site to Houston and back to site.) So I’ve not been able to upload check sheets for 2 days. So today, Randy, the lead I work closest with, arranged for me to go over to the Triad trailer to scan. Those men are very friendly, very nice and very helpful. I looked around the trailer when I went in to see if I could recognize Daniel. I didn’t see him. One of the other men showed me the scanner and I ended up having to scan to his network folder and then he emailed them to me. I wasn’t at the printer 2 minutes when Daniel showed up to talk. Only got to talk for a couple minutes. He did say he lived in New Orleans (opposite direction from the plant than I live) and he has 2 little girls dependent on him. I would read that to mean he’s a single dad. Working 70ish hours a week with 2 little girls. No wonder I don’t hear from him. Didn’t get to ask ages or circumstances, if they lived with him or about their mother. But again, he said to ask him if I needed help with anything or if I had any questions. So what can I do/say to make him feel needed and wanted without being too forward? I could fall for him so hard and so easily, which is stupid as he’s got to be 10-20 years younger than me, has 2 little girls and lives in LA while I live in Canada. But there’s something magical about him. I don’t understand. Its extremely rare I feel that kind of pull and attraction. But again, what can I do/say/ask that would make him feel needed and important? Any advice would be appreciated!

    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28728
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    Hi,
    So I got a smile from a good-looking contracting engineer on Silver Singles. I wrote him back that his smile warmed my heart and “a smile from a very-good looking, intelligent, hardworking man, what more could a woman want? I’m impressed.” and asked him to share more.

    Was that too forward and come across too strong?

    And I’m going nuts. Freezing rain today so I’m working from home today and tomorrow. Its called solitary confinement. Bridge over the Mississippi is closed. Scanner wasn’t emailing the scans, so I had nothing to upload to the database and I had to find stuff to do. Long, boring day. And tomorrow will be more of the same.

    But if the forecast holds, its supposed to be 61 and sunny Saturday so think I’ll reserve a kayak down on the coast.

    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28705
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    Good morning, Heidi,
    Yes, very mixed messages from Daniel. Oh well. I really want to get down to the PAC Kayak rental. He said there are lots of long-legged shore birds, brown pelicans an wild horses on the shores. Again, about a 2 hour drive, but that would be worth it.

    I was talking with Deb last night, a friend from home. She says EVERYONE is headed to the mountains because of all the restrictions in town and the mountains are very crowded. 🙁

    Heidi, cold air sinks. That’s why its colder where you’re at in the valley than up higher in the mountains. 26 is PERFECT for snow shoeing and playing in the snow. Especially if the sun is out. Its about 37 here with 93% humidity. Cloudy and the wind is blowing. Don’t think I’m going much of anywhere. 🙁

    Dean was messaging on FB last night. Forwarded me an animated clip of a teddy bear throwing a kiss for Valentine’s Day. I thought that was really sweet. Not sure if I’m interested or not. I don’t think he can keep up with me. He does a lot of walking, but I don’t really see him out kayaking, on the squash court or doing indoor rock climbing. Not as active as I am. We’ll see.

    Friday, March 26, is my last day on the project. Tentative date to leave my apartment is Monday, the 29th. Then I head to Phoenix to empty the storage unit, then up I-15 to home. Yeah!! Still nothing for my next project. Several potential upcoming projects, but nothing for sure. I was told there’s a position holding for me on the Fluor project on the BC coast. I know my name was on the proposal that went in to Bruce power for the 15-year project in Ontario. I have helped out quite a bit with the Baywa solar project in TX and Baywa has two more large projects that could start up this year and a good possibility I’ll be offered a position on one of those. But I doubt I’ll hear anything till mid March. I’m hearing internally Canada is starting to open up a bit. Borders are still tight. Hopefully that will loosen up here soon.

    Enjoy your day!
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28673
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    Hi, Heidi,
    Your time in FL doesn’t sound like fun. I guess people get used to it. One of the guys from TX said they were born with gills. Mine never developed. LOL.

    Yes, I’ll head out to the preserves. Will also go to at least one of the kayak places. And you could be right. Men do funny things, even when they’re married. Don’t know why he would give me his card and tell me he wants to tag along when I go out if he was married. He aItslso said “I” (not “we”) want to go to Alaska soon. Dunno. Not going to worry about it. LOL. Won’t be this weekend, though. Its supposed to get well below freezing by Tuesday. Already temps are starting to drop. In the 30s and high humidity and cloudy.

    LOL. Now you’re getting an idea of why I’m so looking forward to getting home! These places Daniel told me about are 1.5 to 2 hours away, so nothing around here.

    As much as I dislike Louisiana, this has been a good project for me. I feel I’m going home with more confidence and a more positive attitude. Hopefully that will translate into more dates when I get home, and maybe something serious. 🙂 No more news on my next project, but I’m thinking it will be March, maybe even middle of March before I know much of anything. 🙂 God has a way of waiting till the last minute to let me know where I’m going next and what I’m supposed to do next.

    Have a super weekend!
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28662
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    LOL. Hi, Heidi,
    Yes, bad drivers…. let me share my drive to work a couple Friday’s ago.

    I exited off I-10 onto 44. There’s a stoplight about 200 feet from the junction. The light turned red and the truck with a utility truck stopped in front of me. I pulled up behind him and stopped. In my rear view mirror I saw a truck, jacked up and wide tires sticking outside the truck bed. He wasn’t slowing down. Road is 4-lane there and goes down to two-lane right after the light. This truck moved into the left lane, went passed me and the truck ahead of me and blew right threw the red light without slowing down. Probably doing 55. Thankfully the vehicle crossing with the green light waited.

    Then 44 turns into a narrow road with NO shoulder. It winds along the Mississippi with plants on the other side. Speed limit is 40 and there’s a no passing zone. I’m doing probably 50 and saw in my side mirror a grey car passing the car behind me doing probably 65-70. Passed the car behind me then passed me (in a 40 and in a no passing zone). I had to slam on my brake as there was a car coming the opposite direction.

    Then where 44 junctions with 70 I stopped to turn left onto the on ramp. 50 feet ahead of me the off ramp T’s into 44, so of course a stop sign. Four cars coming off 70 blew right through that stop sign without even slowing down and turned to go into town right past me.

    So 3 incidents in one trip. Everyone drives with brights on and don’t bother to dim them for oncoming traffic or when they come up behind you. I’d say an average of 70% of the time of my 25 mile commute to work I’m blinded by someone else’s brights in my mirrors.

    My take on this town, based on the driving, is its rude, arrogant with no respect for themselves, others, the law or the environment. Air pollution is the worst I’ve seen, trash all over the place.

    Yeah, I haven’t heard from anyone this week. Doubt I’ll hear from Daniel again.

    LOL. This project is crazy. So they pushed so hard to go digital within a week, but when the commissioning lead approved the PO for the I-pads it got sent to the plant IT and they’re sitting on it trying to determine if the plant wants the I-pads or not. We’ll be done before they make up their mind. Got to be one of the most mismanaged and unorganized projects I’ve been on. Crazy.

    43 more days. I sure won’t be crying crocodile tears when I leave.

    Had our first thunderstorm of the year last night and it hung around through today. Lots of rain, 98% humidity. I’m sure I’m either going to rust so badly I disintegrate to nothing or drown before I get home!

    Hope you had an awesome day!
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28637
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    Hi, Heidi,
    Ha ha ha ha. LOL. Men. Ha. I told you men are the most confusing creatures on the face of the planet. So I’ve had 2 emails from Daniel. I answered his last one, which was Saturday and haven’t heard from him since. I THINK I saw him today. He was in Davin’s office when I was at the copier. He smiled at me and that look in his eye was electric. I smiled back, (ha ha with a mask over half my face) It was a 5 sec exchange, but electric and put butterflies in my stomach. I could fall for that man very easily. But no more emails and the first time we met when he gave me his card I invited him to come by my office to see more pics. He said he would, but he hasn’t. No clue. Not a clue at all. I keep thinking I’m reading way too much into these exchanges.

    Dean? Haven’t heard from him since Saturday. It will be interesting to see what happens when I get home. I’m interested, but not sure. Russell? He emailed a couple times this last weekend and I haven’t heard from him since Saturday. He says he wants to meet when I get home. I hate to judge someone on a few emails and texts, but I will be very guarded with him. I think Dean is more stable.

    So work is crazy. Next couple weeks will be crazy hectic. I haven’t had time to look at my calendar, but I think I’m down to 47 days. So, get this, ha ha. We have a total of little over 12,000 check sheets and we have a little over 2,000 left to do. In other words, we’re over 80% done. And their switching from paper check sheets to digital check sheets. Hit me with that late last Friday afternoon. Want to implement it and have people using the I-pads by next Monday. Crazy. So it will be a long week for me. But with going digital, Randy asked this afternoon if I could continue to work remotely on the project after I come home in March. So really, there isn’t, so he’s going to try to sell that with my boss. Project will go on probably into June, so that would give me a couple more months of work.

    And its way past my bed time. 11 hour day today.
    Have an AWESOME day tomorrow!
    Smiles,
    Rhonda
    P.S. I heard it is supposed to get cold here tomorrow – like I heard someone say the “S” word – yes snow for here. I may call in that I’m working from home. Do NOT want to be on the roads with these idiots. They are totally insane drivers.

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28549
    Rhonda R
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    Hi, Heidi,
    Yes, Daniel is the gentleman who works with Mystery Man and gave me his card. MIGHT be the same person. They are the same height. But I thought Mystery Man’s name was Chad. Dunno. Got another email from him this morning. He’s working 7 days a week right now. He said he’d try to get a weekend off. I hope so. He also said he “adores” the mountains. Getting the feeling he might me open to a move. Hmmmm. I definitely see us continuing to talk. He said he’s never had the opportunity to share his local experience with an out-of-towner. I think he’s enjoying finding someone who loves and understand nature like he does.

    Still hearing pretty much daily from Dean. Right now its on facebook messenger. I’m in no hurry. And it will be easy to spend time with him once I get home as all I have to do is sign up for his meetup activities. That’s a nice, easy, low-key way to get to know someone. Russell showed up again. He’s emailing instead of texting. Also sounding more “normal” now. He said someone stole his pics and profile on Zoosk, which may explain why I was seeing him so much when we first started talking. I haven’t seen him on there for several weeks now.

    Rainy and cool here. I went to the hot tub last night (40s and rainy) and loved it. Went again this morning. It rained while I was there, which I kind of like. Slowed to a mist by the time I left. LOL. Had the hot tub to myself. 🙂 Not a day to be outside. You get soaked from the humidity faster than by any light rain that might be falling. Yuck.

    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28538
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    Heidi,
    What the heck is WRONG with me?!! I’m thinking of going hiking or kayaking with a guy I’ve seen for 1 minute and said maybe 10 words too. And since these places are 1-2 hour drive from here, it’s possible we’d be riding together. I was taught to never ride with a stranger. What the HECK!!!! am I thinking?! I wouldn’t even be able to identify him if I saw him again. What am I thinking????!!! But man, his love of nature and his knowledge of kayaking places and hiking places is like a magnet. Am I insane!?? I think I might ask Casey or probably Davin about him. Both work with him. (playful grin) When I answered Daniel, I said “(bashfully) I’d appreciate having a guide.” I tossed out maybe going somewhere next Saturday. I think I’m totally crazy and insane. But when I met him there was an instant comfort level. Kind of strange. Maybe I’ll suggest meeting at LSU Lake first? We could meet there and it would be a couple hour walk in a place with lots of people. I guess we’ll see what he comes back with. Kind o’ scary, kind o’ exciting.

    And its past my bedtime.
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

    in reply to: Older Single trying to date again #28537
    Rhonda R
    Participant

    Hi, Heidi,
    LOL, Yes, you heard right. Canada is making travelers flying in pay $2000 to stay in a quarantine hotel till they get their results. INSANE!!!!

    Dean? Flirting? Kind of. Sometimes. LOL. He’s writing a digital book that has videos in it. A twist on his life’s story. He told me he needed an actress that could plan 30 girlfriends and something else. He’s always upbeat and smiles and laughs a lot. Real positive outlook. So we’ll see. Potential.

    And you were right. Had an email tonight from Daniel, the guy from Triad at work. And you were right. He told me all places to go and then at the very end asked me to let him know before I go adventuring as he’d love to tag along. I just have his work email, though, so it won’t happen tomorrow. He knows where I can rent kayaks, though, so might see if he wants to go kayaking maybe next weekend. Kind of stupid to go kayaking with a total stranger, isn’t it? I’m getting strong vibes he has the same love of nature that I do. Wish I had met him last fall.

    Yes, I just need to physically in Canada, so the BC coast would be fine, as would the one in Ontario. BC coast is beautiful and wild. Fits me perfectly, except a little too wet. Things just went crazy at work today. Looks like I could be working 12 hour days next week. I don’t work Saturdays as God blessed, sanctified and hallowed the 7th day and says not to work. But I’ll probably put in 10 hours Sunday and possibly up to 12 at least some of the days next week. This is one of the…. yeah, well, let’s just say its one of the most unorganized projects I’ve been on. Way behind schedule, so of course the daggers are flying. Not a fun project. Fortunately my commissioning team is very good and I’m not personally feeling the heat, but those I interact with are. It’s a mess. I’ll be glad to be gone.

    Gotta go answer Dean’s message from last night.
    Have a super day tomorrow,
    Smiles,
    Rhonda

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