[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi and Spyce,
I’m doing well. Very busy. In all the places I’ve worked I didn’t have much to do. Here it’s go, go, go. Kayaking, camping, hiking, photos to take, house work to do, deck and fence to paint, flowers to plant… Almost have the deck done. Should finish it this week so I can start having friends over for BBQs.

Manifest Your Man got put off for a month. Will start again next week. It’s a 6-month program and has a live Q&A 3 weeks a month. I wasn’t able to get into the first Q&A. The zoom code didn’t work. I missed the second Q&A as I was out camping. But since it was a technical issue for the first one they were kind enough to restart my program in July. It’s intense but I like it. 3 lessons a month, 3 live Q&As a month. 1 or 2 live fireside chats a month. One I think personal session with Matt Boggs himself, one session with an emotional healer. I need to really immerse myself in the program and give it 100%. Get an on-line profile written for me by an expert. Hope it works!!! 🙂 First half is spent on developing a self image and self worth and positive attitude, blue printing the life I want and the second half on developing dating skills.

I’ve met a couple new ladies to do things with and met some new men, but no one that’s interested in me and no one that I’m really, really interested in. Not meeting a lot of men. Would like to meet more.

I just dropped my subscription to BeIrresistible. I’m too busy to write much and feel I’m not using the program enough to verify the charges. I put photos out on my instagram and will try to change photos out once a week. Here’s the link.

https://www.instagram.com/wydesertstar/

Would like to stay in touch. Thank you both so much for all your friendship and support.

Thank you,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,
Update… So guess who texted me this afternoon – 48 hours after he said he’d get back to me. All he said was Good afternoon. ???????

And Bruce, the runner from games night that asked for my phone number …… He wanted my phone number oh, like e4 weeks ago. Total silence. So I finally texted him and asked if he had decided to go to the Iron Man Race in Nice France this June. (He had said he was thinking about it.) I said if he was going I’d love to hear how the race goes for him and what he thinks of France. Got a response back half hour later or so saying it was good to hear from me but that he was busy and he’d text back later. That was two days ago. ?????

Question…. My old high school boyfriend and I have been talking for several years now. He found me on FB. He married my roommate. He keeps complaining to me about how horrible she is to him, but I seriously doubt he’ll ever leave. Driving me nuts. Anyway, he was asking if I would ever love again and saying he was trying to learn. Who was the person you recommended to me for healing? Thought I’d pass on the referral. Part of the Manifest Your Man program is at least one session with a healing expert. Should be interesting.

Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hey, Heidi,
So Steven did get back to me. He finally got home to Calgary again. So he kept saying he wanted to meet, wanted to meet but never got a time or place. Texted me late Friday night when he got back. So finally asked about a time and place and he told me to come up with one. But since I hadn’t heard from him I planned to go out on a photo trip with my friend Jackie, so told him I was busy Saturday but was free Sunday. Told him I’d text him a place and time when I got back Saturday. Had an awesome day with Jackie and didn’t get back till 9:30 to her place. Texted him when I got back to Jackie’s. Said I had an awesome day and I’d be home in half an hour. Texted him when I got home and asked if he had seen the sunset (which was gorgeous) and mentioned it would be a perfect night to be out camping. He came back and said, Yeah, and get eaten alive by mosquitos. Oh, joy. So since I had told him I would, I texted him in the morning suggesting Starbucks at 6 tonight at a place half way between where both of us live. He came back and said he had been invited out to dinner with some friends but he didn’t know what time but he’d get back to me. That’s the 2nd time he’s done that to me….. said he wanted to meet but when it came to setting a time and place he came up with something else he was doing at the last minute. He just left me hanging for tonight. I am done.

So Lori, the girl I met at games night and connected more with at retreat, came by today. We had talked about going for a walk, but she wanted to just sit here and talk. So she said her and Juan at games night have connected and are starting to spend time together. ??? So she’s only been there twice and already starting to see someone. She said they did some things together yesterday. So how does she do it and guys avoid me? I’m positive, …. but guys don’t …. I don’t know why I don’t get asked out.

So I started my Manifest Your Man program this morning. Today was my first lesson….. It was very, very, very expensive, but I need to do something to figure out why men avoid me. So I’m going to put in a lot of effort into this. I really want to have a wonderful relationship and so far that’s avoided me. So I expect this program to make a difference for me.

Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Yosemite sounds beautiful. I was there once a long time ago. So curious….. what values did you not align with?

Well, didn’t hear from Sparky today. Not sure what to think. Yes, the different interests was a hesitation and his language was a little rougher than I would like.

Well, non-negotiable is a …. I don’t know how to describe it. God must be a part of his life…. without being over religious with lots of rules. I want to be able to pray together and read the Bible together…. although would I feel comfortable with that? Eventually, yes, that’s something I want, but I’m pretty private about my relationship with God. Dunno. And I’m totally exhausted now so probably not making any sense at all.

I did something just now that scares me to death and I wonder if I did the right thing, but I just signed up for Matt Boggs Manifest Your Man program. It’s an intense 6-month program for re-structuring my subconscious. Pretty expensive, but ….

Just found out my dreams for my full bath downstairs are not going to happen. Had a contractor come in last night. He took one look and said, Not going to happen. Space is too small and you’d never get an inspector to pass what you want to do. He said he could put in a half bath, but full bath with my dreamed jet tub won’t happen. So guess the money I’ll save there will go towards investing in me.

And I’m totally exhausted and have a big weekend ahead of me….. tomorrow going on a photography trip with Jackie. Games night tomorrow night, kayaking all day Saturday with the kayaking meetup. Sunday hopefully get my deck all prepped for staining. Did get my kayak rack done to the usable stage. Still have to stain some raw edges and want to cover it in polyurethane, but it’s usable and working. Both kayaks can now be wheeled in under my deck and are off my postage stamp patio. 🙂

Have an awesome day tomorrow!
Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,

So was camp in FL? Why did you leave working at camp? Do you think you might go back to working at a camp again?

I’m hesitant with Steve (Sparky – that’s his screen name on Zoosk and he said I can call him that :)) Kind of fun. We do seem to have different interests. I’m hoping I can introduce him to kayaking and hiking and he’ll like it. I’ve started going to church on Saturday night. Found a church I really like that has Saturday services. They actually have 2, one at 4:30 and one at 6:30. I’m hoping to find a man who will go with me. Someone who will read the Bible with me. Doesn’t swear. But Sparky is a sweetheart. He’s stable. Texts me every day… guess he didn’t yesterday, but did today. I mentioned building my kayak rack was taking longer than I expected and I keep running into problems. He said if I don’t get it done today to just wait and he’ll look at it when he comes home. I thought that was sweet of him. He’s taking off 9 days starting May 27. I asked if he had fun plans. He said, Just you. Made me smile. I’m hesitant, but not ready to write him off. We’ll see what happens.

Signed up for softball tomorrow night. It’s supposed to rain. We need rain badly, so hope it does. Have games night next Friday so looking forward to that again.

Hope you’re having a wonderful weekend.

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,
Yes, thank you. Had a good weekend. I sent some pics of the vertical playground. They didn’t get the ladders to climb up in the pics, though. Wasn’t as easy as I was hoping it would be. Do you miss being at camp?

Been hearing almost daily from Steve. We don’t share the same interests, though. He likes to shop and watch TV while I want to be out hiking or kayaking. His profile says he’s a Christian, but not sure where he’s at with his relationship with God. Still would like to meet him. Who knows. This weekend snuck up on me. I’ll ask him tomorrow if he’s coming home this weekend.

Stan and blowing back a kiss? LOL. Well, I wouldn’t have blown him one if he hadn’t blown me one first. I wouldn’t initiate that, but it was instinctive and yeah, I’d go out with him in a heartbeat if he would ask. There are a few guys that go to the Friday night games that I’d go out with.

Have an awesome weekend!
Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,
Hope you’re having an awesome weekend!

I had a great Friday night games night. Brandon wasn’t there, nor was Bruce, the gentleman who wanted my number and said he wants to hike Rockbound Lake with me. Stan (I thought he said his name was Sam, but it’s Stan, the really positive, happy guy that brought his sister and niece/nephews) blew me a kiss when he came in. I blew him one back. Dunno. Was that a good response, or should I have just smiled and received it? Another gentleman talked with me briefly and said his name was Kwan (Mexican and I don’t know how to spell it). But he’s also very happy, positive man. And I met Lori. She was also going to the retreat. Gave Kim a ride home again as she rides her bike to the games directly from work, so didn’t get home till 10:30ish.

Saturday morning up at 6 and off to the retreat. Gorgeous weekend. We had activities Saturday afternoon. Lori and I went on the vertical playground then horseback riding. I went horseback riding again for the next activity time and she went off and did something else. I was really proud of me! That vertical playground was terrifying. Had to climb a ladder (ropes on both sides and 2x4s for the rungs) up 10 feet, get over a big log beam then up an aluminum ladder which was at a slight angle backwards, then pull yourself up on to a platform that was above the last rung of the ladder. The rope ladder was not tight so it moved away from you while you were climbing leaving you kind of upside down. The staff guy belaying us was really good. I could feel him really hold me and pull me so I wasn’t pulling all my weight up. It was hard and being on a platform 20′ up was terrifying. Then we could choose to go across a tight wire or across a rope and 2×4 bridge. Again, the 2x4x were attached to ropes on both sides, so not stable. We were wearing harnesses and had lanyards attached to a safety wire above both the tight wire and the bridge. We had to get to another platform and then we zip lined down. The zip lining was fun. But I conquered my fears and did it! Horseback riding was fun and boring at the same time. First time I had Ace and had to get a stool to get up as he was so tall I couldn’t reach the saddle horn to pull myself up. I asked for a smaller horse the next time, but Jed wasn’t as fun to ride.

I’d say it was 75% women there. The topic was abundant life, but the talk this morning was not about abundant life but about dealing with pain and grief. Very intense. Everyone was crying. Lots of sad stories. I really didn’t feel lifted up. Lori found me a break time and we skipped the next part and went for a walk. She said she really didn’t feel lifted up, either.

So…… Mr. Zoosk. First off, he said nothing in his profile. Just his pic and his age. Second, he didn’t seem to want to talk about anything except experience on Zoosk. Then he immediately wanted my email to connect outside of Zoosk. That to me doesn’t say stalker, it says SCAMMER. He gave me nothing except he’s new on Zoosk and wants to connect off the platform. Steve, also on Zoosk, had filled out his profile, said some things about himself. When we messaged on Zoosk he told me where he worked, what he did (and I verified the company he said he worked for). He works in Medicine Hat (out of town) as a wind turbine technician and said he was going to be home for the weekend and asked if I wanted to meet for a bite to eat or coffee. He didn’t ask for my number. He asked me if I would like his number, which I was grateful for as I was going to be out of town with very little cell service and limited wifi and didn’t know how to connect with him on Sunday. So there was more dialog and I knew more about Steve than Noel (Mr. Zoosk) Noel also does not write well, which, of itself isn’t an indication of a scammer, but tells me either he’s not educated very well or English is not his native language. He gave me nothing to feel safe before wanting to jump off the Zoosk platform, where with Steve, I knew what he did, where he worked, verified the company he works for. Noel, I made the first contact, told him he had a warm smile and he’s immediately saying I’m the kind of woman he wants to connect with without telling me anything else. Scammer talk. Steve made the first initial connection. Total different vibes from Steve than Noel.

As it turns out, Steve is going to dinner with his brother and another couple and asked about meeting for coffee afterwards. I initially said Yes, but then got to thinking they won’t be done till 7 or 7:30 which means we wouldn’t get to meet till 8, so I texted him back when I got home and said I got to thinking that maybe we might feel rushed if we tried to meet tonight and explained I’m at work at 5:30 in the morning during the week and I felt I would not be able to give him the attention I would like to and that he deserved. Asked if I could have a rain check and meet another time. He texted back and said Sure, that he would look at the next two weekends and see when he was home again. I thanked him and said I was looking forward to meeting him in the next couple weeks. He texted back that he would chat again soon. Oh, Steve also texted me this morning (or last night – I didn’t look at the time) and asked how my day had gone. But I’m proud of me for not just going along and meeting his schedule when it didn’t fit my needs. So we’ll see.

Lori and I connected more during the retreat. Exchanged numbers before we left and we’ll do things together in the future. It will be nice to have someone to do things with. And we’re alike in may ways, so that was good.

And I need to go get some things done. Want to get the boards stained to upgrade my kayak rack from one kayak to two.

Hope you had an awesome weekend!
Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,
Kind of liking Steven, the gentleman on Zoosk I’ll meet Sunday. I messaged him back I would like to meet. So next message he ASKED…. ASKED if I would like his cell number. I thought that was very thoughtful and courteous of him to ask, not just assume and send it. Made me feel respected. I told him Yes, and that I was leaving town early Saturday but would be back Sunday early afternoon. So we texted just a bit this afternoon. I’m looking forward to meeting him.

Weather is supposed to be perfect this weekend… low 70s and sunny. Should be perfect for the retreat. Looking forward to socializing and doing some horseback riding!

Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,
Looks like I probably have a date this weekend. One of the gentlemen from Zoosk wants to meet for coffee or dinner Sunday or Monday. This is someone I could maybe be interested in. We’ll see. The other gentleman I’m getting scammer vibes from. Two messages and he’s asking for my email. Doesn’t write well. Dunno. Fist thing he asked was how I liked online dating and what my experience on line was. ???

Anyway…. will be a fun, full weekend. 🙂
Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Thank you, Heidi,
Yes, I’m feeling like a totally different person than I did in The Netherlands. Feels good to be socializing again and getting some things done around the house. Had another contractor come in today. He says he’s really busy so it would be this fall before he could get to it. Haven’t heard back from Jesse, the other contractor yet. I’ll try to get one more contractor in.

Heard a couple times from a couple gentlemen on Zoosk. Potential maybe with both of them. We’ll see. Will let you know how the weekend goes.

Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Heidi,
Yes, communication is difficult, especially on paper. It seems to come easy for some people, but I struggle with it.

I’m looking forward to this weekend. Have games night Friday night then retreat Saturday and Sunday morning, so lots of socializing this weekend. Hope the weather is good as I really, really want to go riding. I’m taking my saddle. Treated it Sunday. Treated my boots as well. Don’t know what they’ll let me use my own saddle, but taking it anyway. 🙂 Hoping Bruce shows up again.

Guess I don’t do too bad talking, though. Went kayaking Saturday morning with Alberta Fun Paddlers. One of the gentlemen paddled up and talked with me for maybe half hour. That was kind of nice. Be 3 weeks before I can go with them. This weekend is retreat. Next weekend going to Red Deer and my cousin and her family and my uncle is supposed to meet me in the afternoon for a picnic.

Deb, I think I’m going to let that friendship go. Will ask her over for bbq after I get my deck painted and set up, but she’s changed and her interests have changed, so not the connection any more. The one guy that signed up for fire in the park didn’t show. He was privately messaging me. He asked how I was doing. I said, Uh…. ok. Are you still coming tonight? He never responded. One other guy did come at the last minute. We didn’t have a fire. Too windy. So we went to another part of the park and walked along the river. I felt bad for him. Not sure he’s quite all there mentally. 90% maybe, but something didn’t seem quite right. Very heavy. Poor ankles. I could feel his pain. He’s unemployed right now and his landlord raised his rent. He wanted to keep talking. I told him we could be friends. He reminds me a tiny bit of my youngest boy.

Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Thanks, Heidi,
I’ll tweak it a bit before posting. It’s good to bounce things off you as you really see things differently than I do. If you’re hearing something different than what I’m thinking I’m saying, others will also hear something different, so thank you for your feedback.

Deb ditched on me again, then sent me an apology saying what a bad friend she’s been. I think she’s ditched on maybe 60% or 70% of the things we’ve planned. Only one guy coming tonight and he’s started privately messaging me on meetup. Not sure how comfortable I am. By his name, I’d say he’s Indian or middle eastern, which again makes me nervous. I won’t be doing a fire in the park again. Maybe a picnic up north. But I’m getting busy, so maybe won’t post anything.

Thanks,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Ok, here’s another thought about what to put in the My Story section on Zoosk

Life is made up of choices. We make many choices every day. Here are a few I would make:

I’d rather be dancing barefoot around the living room than sitting in a bar.
I’d rather be hiking/kayaking than playing video games.
I’d rather be sharing a bowl of popcorn with you while watching your favorite team than a movie.
I’d rather vacation in the mountains than at the beach (although the beach is nice occasionally).
I’d rather share these activities with someone that do them alone. 🙂

How does that sound?

Thanks,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Spyce,
I will try to call another contractor tomorrow. Bruce is a property manager so next time I see him I’ll ask if he has worked with any contractors he would recommend.

Brandon, I would guess, is probably in his late 30s, early 40s. I wouldn’t mind a 10-year gap, but more than that is getting a bit much. Should meet some more gentlemen Saturday kayaking. No clue if any of them are available.

I probably won’t plan another fire in the park activity. For one thing, I go to the game nights every other Friday night so not sure I want to tie up another Friday evening. I might post a picnic in the north sometime and see if that gets more response. This last fire in the park I posted 2 weeks in advance. I’ll call Deb tomorrow and see if she wants to do the fire or since it’s just her and me, we can go do whatever.

LOL. Yeah, It must have been a man who designed these duplexes. ha ha. Small kitchen, bathroom upstairs and bedrooms downstairs. Actually, there’s not a lot of room. They are pretty small, but seems like the utility/laundry could have been upstairs and the bathroom down. Dunno. Oh well. Jesse said he’s busy, but I’m not in a hurry. If it doesn’t get done till next winter, that’s fine.

Swamped at work. Will put in 44 or more hours this week. Should do 50 but won’t. Things are going well.

Have an AWESOME day tomorrow!
Smiles,
Rhonda

[Rhonda R]

Hi, Spyce,
Thank you. LOL. You must have posted your message just before I posted mine. I closed out and saw your message come in.

Yes, I’m wanting to do a new bathroom. I have a small townhouse. It’s in a complex and the development takes care of the outside, but I can do what I want with the inside. The bedrooms are downstairs and the only bathroom is upstairs. ????? So I want to put a full bath in the utility room and eventually take the tub out of the upstairs bath, put in a shower and take that extra space and make a pantry for the very small kitchen. I do have in mind putting in a jet tub. The utility room is in an L shape and I have picked out a 6′ by 42″ jet tub that will fill the leg of the L. If I’m brave, I’ll try painting a mountain scene on the walls, put some stars on the ceiling….. Should get one or two more contractors over to do a bid. Shouldn’t get just one. Now I also have the back fence and deck to stain. Development got cheap stuff and even though the deck was stained only 2 years ago, it has to be done again.

I go into the office 4 days a week. It gets me out of the house and gives me a better work environment with two monitors. This place is too small for a real desk and office chair and I have only one monitor. I work from home on Fridays. Work is going quite well.

Busy, busy, busy. Came home with 1800+ pics Saturday. Got some really nice ones of the wild horses. Sunday came home with 900+ pics. Just started going through and editing those. Got some good ones of a pileated woodpecker. There are not enough hours in the day! Want to do more walking but also want to get to Votier Flats and Shannon Terrace a couple times a week for beaver and pileated woodpecker pics. Plus need to build a kayak rack ….

Brandon is the gentleman who gave me first aid when I fell and hurt my arm a month ago. He’s in the Centered Singles group. Too young for me. 🙁 Met a couple other gentlemen last Friday. One got my phone number, texted so I would have his contact info. I texted back and haven’t heard from him. Not sure what to think. I would have thought he would have at least acknowledged that he got the text. I posted a fire in the park activity for Calgary Christian Singles for Friday night. Second time I’ve posted that activity. Both times one person signed up then cancelled. Don’t think I’ll do that again. Saturday is kayaking with the Alberta Fun Paddlers.

That’s cool that you’ve flipped a few houses. Sounds like you do very well at what you do!
Smiles,
Rhonda

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