I agree with the last post – why should we be the ones constantly having to adjust to mens desires egos and ” head music” they appreciate none of it except in very rare occasions – I have spent the last 4 days trying hard to do the respect principle with my husband as I want to save the marriage not least because financially I will be ruined if he goes for a divorce – he is totally selfish and sees nothing of what I try to do ..he started sleeping better this week and he puts it down ( of course) to his own positive affirmations every morning which he has started doing – never of course anything down to me – I feel like I am stuck with a huge monster/baby I have to mollify preen and self assure all the time while my own life goes from bad to worse and I think all this rubbish about pandering to his every whim is simply that. We dont get it back ??? Why should we do all this ? Why should we have to ? Why arent men being told how to look after women and make them happy ..it is all so unfair…. 🙁