it feels like to me that there are three people in your relationship. his ex-wife should not be a part of your outings and travels — kids or no kids. Also the fact that the best he can do when you are not well is to say thinking of you it’s pathetic. Personally I would tell him I need a little breathing room right now. This man seems to have disconnected. I don’t think you are being cherished and loved as you ought to be. This guy is a loser.