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Just my thoughts on your situation….the much younger than you presents a problem, I’m 50-ish– I’ve found men that are Much younger than me are attracted to me all the time. I’ve been there and done that–meaning the things they have even yet to do–like have kids for one–As much as you might want to pursue this guy to an intimate level I highly advise you don’t. You work together. If possible I’d stay friends — if that is not possible— I wouldn’t see him outside of work. I’m not very good at saying No to something I like–so…at the very least it’s a good thing to have a guy friend at work. It would be easy for you to end up with a broken heart, unless of course he’s a different species of Man.
I agree with Cheri B. except I’d have him get most of his stuff out until he’s done with his “alone time”. And I wouldn’t not date other men either–at 52 life experience and first hand experience (not a course) has Proven to me some sad facts regarding men and truthfulness and cheating. If he wanted to be your boyfriend he would be with you. Honestly–I’d find someone else unless he comes back very soon.
YOU can’t Change Anyone. Sorry–if he’s not happy in life it’s because of his own issues–in this case it sounds to me like he’s not for you. And at 27 I do think he is too old for you.
Men look at other women–that’s what they do, especially if they’re beautiful. If everything is great and he’s wonderful to you there’s nothing to worry about. Unless he does it All the time and unless he looks at every single woman that he sees that’s a different story.
“Feeling-Used” is something I’m sure most of us is not all of us can relate to at one point or another. At 52 — I’ve stopped trying to figure out how men can be so sweet, etc. until they get what they want. I’ve been married since 26 and now single it’s the same game. They love you–you give in — they leave you. They love you — you Don’t give in they leave you. It’s not us it’s them–certain (most) guys want sex and that’s it. I’ve been divorced a bit over a year–went out, etc to see if I still “had it” (I do-lol) had sex only if I wanted to for me– but done with the 1 night stands it disgusts me against my moral compass. Don’t have a BF–seems the good ones if there are any are all taken…I have a really long check list too–but I’d rather be alone than give out my body–not saying I don’t want to it’s hard but it’s a choice.
