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  • in reply to: Situationship with a friend, how to communicate now. #38621
    Shani C
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    Is this the right tobe/msg
    Hey Rav, I caught up with Soph this morning and she mentioned you called and asked about me because I hadn’t replied yet. I’m ok, I’ve just been busy. Unfortunately it will be awkward Rav, there’s no way around it. However, we’re both adults so we can keep things pleasant for everyone around us. It sounds like you need to talk though? I’m open to that if you feel like it’ll help.

    in reply to: Situationship with a friend, how to communicate now. #38620
    Shani C
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    Met a guy through mutual friends, who we are both very close with. Over 8 months we developed a friendship. Then, our friends bucks night we slept together. We decided to keep having fun with me saying it’s just fun.
    Then I caught feelings, told him in August. He said he felt the same but needed space to sort other shit in his life. It was very fair. I was going through a lot and probsbly giving off anxiety.
    In December I laid my heart on the line and he said though he values me as a person and our friendship, loves our banter and hanging out, there’s a connection… it’s not that. It was just lust.
    Really hit me because I really felt something with him.
    Anyways now he has msgd me, 3 weeks before our mutual friends baby is due and I want to respond with maturity, and maybe see if I can reset the to

    in reply to: Situationship with a friend, how to communicate now. #38619
    Shani C
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    The message:
    Hey Shani, I’m just reaching out to touch base with you. Bubs is due soon, so I’ll be around Geelong a bit more in the coming months and I just wanted to check in and see how you are doing?
    I know that the last time we spoke you mentioned that this could be awkward, and I want to do what I can to ease that. My priority is Soph, Harry and the baby, so I just want to make sure I’ve reached out and spoken to you before you have to see me in person so you don’t feel that way as much.. hopefully?

    There is obviously no obligation to reply, I’m just trying to do what I think is right, so if you want to talk we can.

    I then found out 5 days later he called it our friends to check if I’m ok because I hadn’t replied yet

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