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Yes it does thank you. And I am going to wait a little longer before sending the message but thank you for giving me a template of what to say 😊.
This relationship with my ex boyfriend felt differently because it felt more loving and felt like I had finally found something worth fighting for. He was more caring about me than anyone had done for me before and he started to let his guard down around me. His family and my family could see how happy we made each other. I had opened up to him about my past relationships. The reason why I still feel in my heart that he’s the right one for me is because he has done what no-one else has and that was to silence the negative thoughts I was having in my head and he brought peace and contentment to my life and love me for me. I mean truly love me for me. I needed to heal from my trauma that I had suffered years before and meeting my ex boyfriend was the best thing that’s ever happened to me as he helped me to crumble my walls and show the real vulnerable side to me that no-one else had really seen except for my closest friends and family. He never told me that it was a problem as he said that he would love me and be there for me always. My previous relationships were negative as some people I had been with only used me for either my body or my money and my first real ex became really toxic as the first ex would put me in the firing line of his violent mood swings and was a narcissist and I found out that the first ex boyfriend had been on dating apps and called me by another girl’s name over text whilst he was with me. But when I met my recent ex boyfriend (the one who I want back) never did any of that he’s a genuinely good person and it’s just a shame that me and him had no choice but to breakup but the good thing about the breakup was that it was a mutual decision to end the relationship and we didn’t end things on a bad note. Before my relationship with my recent ex boyfriend there wasn’t any other relationship I had been in that was more fulfilling than the one I was in with my ex boyfriend. So my questions are these, could there be a chance to try again with my ex boyfriend even though we ended things on a good note? And would the 12 word phrase that is in the secret obsession book work as a positive way to reach out as long as I ask for his advice on a car subject?
The communication between us were good before leading up to the breakup but it could have been better and yeah that’s right but he said that the last time we spoke which was about mid to late September last year and I do feel that I am healed enough to try a reach out but I’m still nervous about it as I don’t know what the outcome is going to be. My relationships prior to my ex boyfriend was more one sided and it felt like I was doing all of the work. But since I’ve mer my ex boyfriend I do feel that he is the right one for me I know it seems a bit strange. He had been in a couple of relationships before me but they weren’t positive ones from what he was describing to me. I’m 25 and he is 25 at the end of May 2024. I think that was still attraction there just not as much as when we first got together. And I don’t know if he’s feeling any differently but I’m willing to try to reach out and hope that the interaction with him is positive this time.
I apologise for confusing you both I’m not very good at explaining things that isn’t confusing to people.
The relationship wasn’t toxic at all and yeah the pace of us didn’t feel right. We both had genuinely fell in love with each other and I had met all of his family and even spent time with them and he met a portion of my family and he spent time with mine. And to be honest before meeting my ex boyfriend I never actually felt like I was at peace until he came into my life and he suggested that we should stop talking for a while but no there wasn’t any other intense cause to our breakup but my mum’s worrying about me started to become a strain on my relationship with my ex boyfriend which unfortunately helped in the reason why we were drifting apart. I’ve never actually wanted anyone back in my life before so feeling this way and asking a lot of things about my situation is very new to me.
Well the reason why I restarted the no contact was because viewed his social media and I think that the loss of attraction was on both sides coming up to the four month mark and we were moving quickly as we started to talk about moving in together even though the relationship had just started to become serious.
And yeah I do want to try again with him and I want to go at a slower pace than before and I want this new relationship to go right this time I just don’t know how to do that.
Not really as the last time we actually spoke was mid to late September last year but he had been viewing my Tiktok platform but I had to keep restarting the no contact period and I believe that this the fourth attempt at no contact but I have almost completed this one. I hope that makes a bit more sense.
Me and my ex boyfriend were together for 3 months but we were talking for a month before. We’ve been separated for 9 months now and the reason why we broke up was because we were going too quickly and there was a loss of attraction. The breakup was a mutual decision and we both said that it would be cruel to continue the relationship whilst we were feeling confused about moving forward and he said that the connection between us felt right but the pace we were going didn’t.
