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I tried to stick it out a little bit longer but just today decided to cut things off. Which is sad for both of us but it needed to happen. He understands and respects my decision and we ended things on completely good terms. Who knows what the future holds. I thank you for checking in and all of your support.
Wow this is amazing and you are so right! I know my triggers are an issue and I have been trying to work on them but if you have any suggestions on how to go about doing this more effectively or direct me to any source of helpful information, that would be great! It seems as though neither of us are really ready for a relationship at this point and had I not reached out for advice, I would have never realized he had that much going on under the surface. I’m not ready to walk away from him completely and we do still share a bit of a friend circle but I will keep in mind all of the things that you have explained to me as I continue forward and will definitely be putting a halt on the pursuit of romance for the time being. I can’t get him to work on his own baggage but I can at least focus on mine and myself. At this point I feel thankful that he did put me in the friend zone before it went any further. Thank you for your explanations and advice.
Thank you so much for your response and giving me a different way of looking at these issues. From my point of view it seemed like he was well put together and in a good place for dating but I guess I can never really know for sure.
I don’t want to seem like I’m making excuses for him but I may not have explained things exactly right. I don’t believe that he is silent because of stressors in his life. He has had the same stressors since I have known him and has always communicated with me and didn’t let them affect the way he treated me. I don’t believe he is ghosting me. I’m fairly confident that if I tried to reach out, I would get a response. I’m just not sure if I should under the circumstances and the fact that he hasn’t tried to make contact in days. I’m not sure what to do.
I feel like I need more insight but I’m not even sure what to ask. I’m just so confused.
