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Also, do you think it’s a bad idea if eventually (definitely not now or in the near future) I bring up what you said about his fear of happiness to him?
It just makes SO much sense, and I’m sure it would be valuable to him, but I don’t want to offend him or sound like I’m trying to fix him.
Hi Heidi, thank you so much for your response!
It took us so long to get together because we were always living in different states or just at very different points in our lives. We actually slept together twice over the course of the 7 years, but it never turned into a relationship. We stopped talking for a while…then he messaged me out of the blue and it blossomed into our relationship. I’d been single for a year and felt really ready for another relationship.
However he’d gotten out of a really rocky toxic on and off relationship with his child’s mother only 3 months before, so I think that added to the breakup. Maybe it was a little bit of a “rebound.”
I agree that he was really trying to justify his reasons for breaking up. And I really really appreciate your insight into the male mind and his situation, Heidi…it makes a lot more sense now.
Not the answer I wanted, but I know you’re right. As much as I want to wait, I shouldn’t waste my own time. I’m going to focus on myself and continue to grow on my own. It’s funny, because the day after he broke up with me I got recruited for an interview for a really cool job opportunity.
