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That makes sense.
I guess the only thing I can do is distance myself, since he’s blatantly ignoring me. Just work on myself in the mean time and if it’s meant to happen, it will.
Thanks for getting back to me. I’m 28, and Lee is 35. I’ve had maybe 3 or 4 actual relationships. To answer your question about what kind of relationships I’ve had… in high school I was with someone emotionally abusive for three years. He would cheat on me and treat me like I was nothing but I didn’t know any better because I was so young. After that, I was with someone who treated me very well. He was respectful and kind, but I brought my past trauma to the relationship and it ended 6 months later. I had some short lived flings in between. Then I met my ex, Tom, I was with him for 4.5 years. During that time, he degraded me, belittled me, cheated on me, put in no effort, got in my face, and made me do everything in the relationship.
As far as Leebo’s relationship, I know that he’s had poor luck. I really only know about three of them. The most recent one I know the most about.
He’s got a kid with a girl who publicly slandered his name and uses their child for attention. One of his ex’s that he fully financially supported constantly lied to him, never trusted him, and cheated on him with his best buddy. They fought a lot. His most recent ex did him real dirty. He was with her for a year and was in the mindset of marrying this girl. They didn’t live together, but that she’d come stay with him when she could. He said that he had noticed that she would come stay with him and make weird excuses for why she had to leave or disappear for a while and that she would sometimes avoid him. He started investigating and found out that she had been married the entire time. I guess at the end he had made a comment about something and then turned his phone off to unplug for a while to digest what he had been learning about her and she called his entire family and then got him Baker Acted. While he was in there (a week) he talked to her and she was supposed to pick him up but the day came and she disappeared from him and his mom had to rush over and pick him up. So he’s still trying to move past that and heal from that.
He told me he has a hard time trusting people now, especially females.I know that how he’s acting isn’t necessarily good, but I know he genuinely doesn’t mean it and probably doesn’t really realize he’s doing it. He’s a very kind, warm person. He doesn’t belittle me when I’m anxious and he’s respectful to me when I make him angry. In person, we always have an amazing time. It’s just when he’s away that things get fuzzy. And I know I mean more to him than just a booty call as we don’t really have sex that often when he’s here and he still takes time away from his family for me. He means everything to me, and I want to do what I can to make it work. I realize he won’t be ready for anything for some time. I feel silly and kind of embarrassed saying this to another human. But he is really important to me. And while I’m not trying to wait for him if something better came around, I do hope to be with him. I don’t feel that I need to prove myself as a person, but what I do feel is that I want to show him that good people do still exist and that not everyone will betray or abandon him. I don’t want to fix him, though. I want him to work on himself.
I can give you insights on his childhood too if that’d be helpful?
